I have a question... sorry if i'm butting in :P
I am interested in having a doula for my 1st birth... do they end up being the "voice" for you instead of your DH? So if i chose not to have one, does that mean i would need to advise DH what i would like before we go in so he knows strongly how i feel about things? I just feel that he might see me in so much pain etc and try and talk me into getting drugs etc if thats not what i want at all... whereas my doula, well she would say to DH "no, remember Renee does not want this at all no matter what happens" for eg... does that make sense? I mean, DH would support me 100% but i think he would also find it hard if i'm in alot of pain etc he might just want to help me out and forget about what i really wanted in the first place... KWIM?