I think a lot of brides go too far - or maybe I was a neglectful bride.

How do you have five girls you love enough to be bridesmaids who don't already know each other?

I had two bridesmaids and one usher - one bridesmaid and the usher met the best man on the wedding day. My sister (chief bridesmaid) met him two days before. My hen night - neither of my bridesmaids organised nor attended. If I'd had three or four parties for just the wedding party I'd have been told off!

You're not a bad person for not attending. You have a good reason at least! Good luck.

(Actually, I want a remeniscing lunch - going to try to get DH to agree to vow renewing for our 10th anniversary and get the gang back together for that. With their spouses and children too. Just us and the four attendants and their families... will be fun!)