I must be tacky too then?? We really didn't need anything and wanted money instead to save to buy our first car. We did say though that they 'could' contribute to the wishing well OR buy a present. We got a few presents (vases, etc) and I have given them all away bc they were things we already had.
When I give a gift I want it to be something they'll really appreciate rather than something I would like so if they've told me that what they really want is money then I'm happy to give that.
Will the bride be giving you bridesmaids cash or a present for being bridesmaids?!!! Perhaps you could all request cash and see if she says 'oh but I want you to remember my wedding by looking at this gift', well, there you go. Would be interesting to see what she says.
Given she's requested a well, then most people who comes to her wedding will do that (?) so it's not vital the wedding party do the same. Put in and get her a nice gift. She's hardly likely to go pawn it or something!
We had a Target registery (haha) as I was too embarrassed to make people pay more money at Myer, didn't want them thinking I was a snob. Which was stupid as Myer have wicked sales and nicer stuff (IMO). As it was, half the people did the registery wrong so we ended up with 6 irons etc. so we took the excess back to Target and they gave us a voucher (maybe $600, can't remember) so it was a win win (until DH gave the voucher to some guys from church in need!). Though that was a nice way to start our marriage....love my husband!
yep, I had a 'tacky' poem as well And quite proud of it.
DH & I had our own house, our own furniture, plenty of vases, we really did not want anything else. As it was, for our engagement presents, we had 3 different couples by us the exact same plate set
We ended up with $10k in cash from guests. We didn't expect our guests to give money, some didn't, but they gave a card which was lovely. We have no idea who gave what amount, we didn't keep track of things like that.
If you really want to do what you want to do, then buy a gift. But remember it's not your wedding, it's theirs. So respect their wishes as well.
xh and I had a wishing well (with a request for either money or gift vouchers), a few of my friends did both, a small "present" and then a gift that I could keep (which I've still got and each day when I see these things - it shows me my friends support for something they knew would turn out badly). I tried to be really careful with what we purchased with the money, but my xh pretty much forced me to spend it on him (yes that should have been one of the early warning signs to how he was).
When we got married we didn't have a wishing well but when people asked us we did tell them we would prefer $ or gift cards as we already had what we needed. Even though we preferred $, we didn't mind getting some well thought out gifts. I'm sure your friend will be happy with whatever you choose for her.
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And quite proud of it.
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