xh and I had a wishing well (with a request for either money or gift vouchers), a few of my friends did both, a small "present" and then a gift that I could keep (which I've still got and each day when I see these things - it shows me my friends support for something they knew would turn out badly). I tried to be really careful with what we purchased with the money, but my xh pretty much forced me to spend it on him (yes that should have been one of the early warning signs to how he was).