Well we have the invites, and the wording is

"black tie affair, black, cream or gold"

So my dress fits in colour wise, and I will be wearing it. But what to wear for DH? (he has a suit, but isn't black)

I have also got my grandmother here, and she has asked the same question.. She has a dress she bought to wear on a cruise last year (and also intended to wear it to the wedding), but doesn't fit the colour scheme. Can they really 'tell' you what to wear? My aunt has also asked me before Xmas, but I asked to talk to my bro, cause if I ask for everyone, it is going to look like I am causing trouble (my mum already thinks I am being a biartch about the wedding )

Just want a general idea of you lovely ladies.

I am going to ask my bro in about a fortnight or so, as SIL's father passed away from cancer last week.