The Church doesn't sound as if it is acting in a very christian manner. I don't know what to suggest as my church does not require someone to be an active church goer to be baptised - My family certainly do not attend church on a regular basis, generally only around easter and christmas. But we are still believers and still raise our children in the faith (and ensure they have a good religious education). Going to church on a weekly basis is not a sign of faith or belief IMHO.
I would encourage you to seek out a minister of your faith (although not nessecarily at that particular church) and discuss (all) the issues with them and seek counsel.
Thank you so much for your replies and advise. I feel ridiculous. I can't stop crying. Gee who would have thought I would care this much. I think this letter has just emphasised the rejection I have felt for along time over their lack of support over the past 2years when I really wanted answers as to why I felt so punished by God and again by them not caring enough to even give me a call. Apart of me felt like a fraud now been comfortable to return to the Church now that I'm in my happy place with J until this has happened. I don't think I can ever feel truely welcome there now. Yes I'll definately be writting a letter as although I'd love to call them I know I'll go to tears.
Oh hun, like I said, I'm not a church goer, but I don't think God is punishing you, I'd rather think He is creating an opportunity to find the place that's right for you and your family. I hope you find it soon x
hun - how devastating that a place that should be full of compassion has ended up hurting you so badly. I am with the others - I would be writing a letter to them and then finding a place where you are welcomed and loved and feel at home. I left the church for many years (although not God as such!) and have only recently gone back and was expecting judgement and Im not sure what else because I had "backslidden" but the church I have found has felt like home since the day I first went. Good luck finding somewhere and I really think it is telling that nobody contacted you when you weren't there for so. Churches are fighting for membership these days and some wonder why but they should be reaching out to people not making them feel judged. I feel pretty passionately about this sorry if I come across as preachy and agree that you should call some other churches for a chat and visit. xoxoxo
Tanstar you definately have not come across as preachy lol. I have started writting my letter to them. I want it sent next week whilst its all new. Then I guess I'll be searching for somewhere to Baptise her soon and will then have to find a place I love as much as I did love the old place I went to.
I'm sorry that this church has not supported you when you need it. I urge you to write that letter because if the church does not acknowledge where it has left people unsupported then it cannot improve on this situation.
Are there any other churches in your area you could go along to and see if you feel at home? If you find one you like then speak to the minister and discuss what has happened. You may find a new church more than willing to baptise your DD and welcome your family into their community.
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