*sigh* Matron of Honour is a married bridesmaid, a bridesmaid is an unmarried bridesmaid. And no bridesmaid signed my register, both our fathers did.
My chief bridesmaid was my sister, but that means nothing. Aside from hold my bouquet and lift my veil, both bridesmaids did exactly the same. The girl who organised my hen night was actually the girl who did the reading at the wedding, not even a bridesmaid! (In fact, I sorted out my sister's car accident claim the morning of my wedding while she had her hair done, so I probably did more for her than she did for me in all, some great chiefy she was!)
TBH, I wouldn't care where I was in the hierarchy, if someone loves you enough to ask you to be a bridesmaid/Matron of Honour I wouldn't mind if someone else were chiefy or signing the register - I mean, who knows who signs, really? Does it matter? No. It's something that very few people ever see or think about, who signed what for whom.
Don't you *sigh* at me, Mrs. Ryn. :P
For the purposes of this discussion, 'Maid/Matron of Honour' is Chief Bridesmaid.
And while I agree it's can be a trivial thing, you don't want to scowl at your wedding photos whenever you remember the politics and stupid stuff that was exacerbated just because a wedding can make big deals out of small details, by some kind of matrimonial magic.
Honestly i have my bestie as my cheif bridesmaid, i am thinking of having my Mum witness, aswell as one of DF's aunts..... That way all my BM's can be equal except my CBM who is organising my hens and all the little things.... like dress shopping for me!!
Why even worry about who is what and where in the hierachy is who...
If someone decides to have bridesmaids then it is probably a privelage to be asked in the first place, regardless if you are related or not, and your job is to help where the bride needs it before or during or after the wedding. Does it really matter? Isn't the whole point of a wedding about the couple getting married not the attendants if there are any?
Just my opinion
ETA: I should add my bias, as I didn't want attendants at all but DH absolutely insisted on having 3 groomsmen (who stood around doing nothing and looking a little silly IMO). So in the end I compromised and had 3 BMs (2 sisters and my BF). I have no idea if there was a chief as I didn't care one way or the other. My sisters and BF didn't seem to care either. If I did it again I would definitely not have any attendants (not that I am planning to!). I am sure the wedding will be lovely, they usually are.
Last edited by dusty; July 6th, 2008 at 03:34 PM.
: ETA
I wouldn't be fussed if either of my sisters chose the other sister as her maid/matron of honour... I think it is an honour to be asked to be a part of someone's bridal party.
I had a Man of Honour (My male cousin, who is like a brother to me) and DH had a Best WoMan... who is our SIL married to his eldest brother. This worked for us as we then didn't feel like we had to choose someone.
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