Don't you *sigh* at me, Mrs. Ryn. :P
For the purposes of this discussion, 'Maid/Matron of Honour' is Chief Bridesmaid.

And while I agree it's can be a trivial thing, you don't want to scowl at your wedding photos whenever you remember the politics and stupid stuff that was exacerbated just because a wedding can make big deals out of small details, by some kind of matrimonial magic.