My 21st is coming up... what did everyone do for theirs?

**Indadhanu** · September 17th, 2007, 02:01 PM

Well, my 21st is in just under 14 days. Very exciting...

Except I have NO IDEA what I'm ging to do for it... Not only that, but people are asking left right and centre what I want...

What does one do or ask for on their 21st. Everytime I say "I wouldn't mind this" or "how about we just do this" I get funny looks, and people saying "You can't ask for that, this is your 21st!! Think of something else" or "Thats not much of a celebration".

I'm finding, its not ME that is hard to please, but everyone around me.

So, what did you all do for your 21st? What did people give you?

**nic** · September 17th, 2007, 02:09 PM

I had wanted to have a fancy dress, but was pregnant so decided not to have a party.

Leasha, it's your birthday, your party, do whatever you want. If people love you, they'll celebrate whichever way you decide too.

Nic

**BellyBelly** · September 17th, 2007, 02:47 PM

Moving to new special events forum

**~Raven~** · September 17th, 2007, 03:16 PM

I had a formal dress supper down at the local footy clubrooms

Amelia · September 17th, 2007, 03:17 PM

My 21st isn't till next June but my mum has always thrown a massive party for my 2 older brothers and buys us all personalised number plates. Why don't you just have a massive party and get everyone to bring a dish!!

What suggestions have you already come up with that other people don't like?? It's your birthday and if that is what you want HAVE IT!!

**Indadhanu** · September 17th, 2007, 03:28 PM

Well, all I have asked for is to go shopping (need some spring/summer clothes), or a day at a spa or something... apparently no one will give me something unless I can keep it forever... which to me seems silly because I'd rather something I can enjoy now, than just have it sit on my cabinet looking at me.

I don't want a party, as I'm not a party girl, I don't drink alcohol, I really woldn't enjoy myself around a bunch of drunken people!!!! I just want to go out for a nice dinner or lunch or you know I'd reallylike to just have fish and chips on the beach at dusk with Shel... but apparently thats not good enough. Even MIL is saying "No, you have to do something wild!!!!"

I'm was just wondering if anyone did anything tame or even boring (though boring is fine by me

) for their 21st, so I can say "look, see, you don't HAVE to be a drunken fool on your 21st!!!".

**New Dawn** · September 17th, 2007, 03:27 PM

I was 36 weeks pg and had high bp so was on bed rest plus my dh was away so I didnt do anything but it is all up to you if you want to have a big day then have one but if you feel like you just want a few friends and family then do that as long as you are happy then nothing else matters

**~clover~** · September 17th, 2007, 03:31 PM

I was pregnant for my 18th & 21st, so for my 18th all I did was put $10 in the pokies & my dad cooked me a steak. For my 21st DH & I went out for lunch where I enjoyed a glass of champagne & then had pizza delivered for tea. I had a party for my 22nd instead, but still didn't go over board. DH got me a 3 piece outdoor setting & my mum got me a diamond necklace for my 21st. A friend engraved a champagne glass for me, but that's all i remember getting. I think someone gave me a nice candle from the $2 shop & someone else gave me a plant pot that was an unwanted prize, but i think the most important thing is that I did it the way I wanted & I had the people there I cared about.
What I got & what I did aren't what's important. It's who was there to celebrate with me.

**visitor1** · September 17th, 2007, 05:28 PM

I had a huge party up at the local bowling club....buffet style food.....it went off....cost a lot but every one had a damn good time.. and the grog was flowing nicely...but resposibly as well!

For pressies i got lotsa money, sofa suite, 21st glasses, signature bear, stuff for the kitchen Iid moved outta home and thats what i wanted), photo frames, gift vouchers.

Hmm that was ages agoo.....cant think any more!

**satya** · September 17th, 2007, 06:10 PM

It's a long time ago but when I turned 21 we hired out a function room in a pub and invited close family and friends. We had a menu of pub grub that people could order a meal off that list. We provided some jugs of beer & softdrink & some caraffes of wine to start with then after they went people had to purchase their own drinks.

To be honest I can't remember what I was given for my 21st so it can't be anything memorable....but it was a long time ago.

**sazzafrazz** · September 17th, 2007, 06:35 PM

We got married 5 weeks before my 21st and had just bought our house so money was TIGHT. I just had a BBQ at home and everyone brought their own chairs and drinks. It was very casual and relaxed and I had a great time. My folks got me a limited edition print by artist I love. DH got me a necklace and I cant remember anything else significant. I really wasnt into the whole gift thing.

**RhiChiChi** · September 17th, 2007, 08:21 PM

I hired a marquee and people to host a ****tail party and put on party food.
Presents I got was a beautiful solid gold bracelet, lingerie, perfume, espresso cups, an engraved glass jewelery box and heaps of other stuff that I can't think of..... well it was 10 years ago!

**Keira** · September 17th, 2007, 08:24 PM

I'm like you Alisia, not much of a drinker/party girl and i didn't want a huge drunken party with friends, to me, that's not really memorable.

So my family and I all went up to QLD and got a huge suite at Palazzo Versace and stayed there for 3 days and had a beautiful dinner on my actual birthday! The best bit was getting a full body massage at their day spa!

Do what you and Shel can treasure, i think it would be great just having fish n chips on the beach watching the sunset!

Oh and I got all Tiffany & Co. gifts from my family, and because i didn't have a party, my friends didn't really get me anything... or not that I can remember!

**Karina** · September 17th, 2007, 08:46 PM

My husband, brother and sister organised a surprise part for me. It was at local restaaurant and thee was about 20-25 people. I found out aabou it as hubby is not very discreet! I didnt want anything big.

**lilima** · September 17th, 2007, 09:03 PM

Hi,
Well lucky me got to have my 21st in hospital!

Mum and dad gave me some money that I put towards a cruise that i did at the end of that year!

I received some beautiful gifts from family, including a jewllery box, and a $200 gold coin, as well as a bottle of Port that my dad bought the day that I was born.

I think do whatever you want to do. It is your day. there is no rule to say that you have to have a big party. I am not a "throw a party" person, and am happier to go to a resturant with people that I really want to spend the day with.

**feeb** · September 17th, 2007, 09:13 PM

I had a spit roast in a hall with mainly family friends as uni had just gone back and so many friends couldnt make it to the country from the city!!!

Was nice thought as no drunk silly people as that is not me!!!

Nice meal music and talking!!

Presenst i got gold neckalce, house and kitchen things and phot frames!!

Good luck deciding and have fun remmeber it is your day do what u want!!

**Nadine216** · September 17th, 2007, 09:55 PM

I had a BBQ for four of my best girlfriends and my family (mom, dad and sisters), because I have just gone through a terrible breakup and did not want a party. Turned out to be the best birthday ever, because I had the ppl that I really cared about there to share the day with me.
So just do whatever you want, because it's your day. You don't have to entertain other ppl!