THanks everyone, I feel much better now. I've just heard of some weddings (and seen on Discovery home and health) some weddings which cost upwards of $20000... WTF? For a WEDDING? It just blows my mind that people would spend that much on material things, when its not about the accessories on the table or an expensive dress or the 'perfect' venue...

Anyway, I guess for us its different because we can't legally marry so even just having the opportunity to come together in front of our family and friends and showing them how much we love each other is enough, not expensive things (our rings won't cost more than $1000 together).

Maya, that was our theory, better off for everyone that they just pay for their dinner (that way they can choose what they want, not a set menu which I personally HATE lol) than spend money and buy us something that chances are we probably don't need anyway as we pretty much set ourselves up already.

Trillian, PMSL, ah no, we'll definately spell it out... tactfully of course, but probably not be subtle!