I think it is a great idea- I have a friend who is looking to get married this year and she doesnt want to spend lots of money- and they would prefer not to have gifts, so I have suggested the same thing to her.
I always try and spend as much on a gift as a nice night out would cost DH and I, so it wouldnt bother me at all to pay for my meal/drinks instead of purchasing a gift.
Just rang DH to get the wording I used I have a few other ideas we had too if you want them to keep the costs down. Also mine was put togther in 6 weeks beacuse we were moving to QLD.
Dear ..........
We would like you to share in our specail day with us on
Date
Venue
Etc
Your prence is the only present we need however if you would like to give us the gift of your presnece at dinner please join us at the xxxxx with the gift of the cost of your meal.
I arranged with the restranunt a specail deal of about 40 a head with 3 choices and everyone RSVP'd with thier menu choice so the venue could have all the meals ready and it also made paying the bill easy for everyone. We attached the menu to the invite with a RSVP card for Cermoney and Dinner and then dinner options hope this helps
My philosophy with these sorts of things is 'Your day, your way'. I don't mean to sound rude in saying that but I think if anyone expects to go to a commitment ceremony/wedding wanting it to be about them (as in the guest and being provided with food and wine) then they have the entirely wrong attitude.
At the end of the day you both want to be able to look back on your special day and tell Jazz how great it was and how much it meant to you. I say do what means the most to you but also lets you enjoy your day (I ended up serving drinks at one stage during my wedding....last thing I had wanted to do ).
Best of luck and lets us know how you fair with your invites etc.
Hi Leash, congrats on the ceremony!
I just did a bit of research and did a google search on wedding invite no gifts. It came up with a few links that may be helpful. Also try a search on wedding invitations. This may come up with heaps of wording ideas.
If your ceremony is going to be 'low key' then I wouldn't stress too much with ettiquete and proper wording. Just say it like it is.
I love wedding and party planning so I will keep searching and hopefully find stuff for you!
PS- Just a quick story. On the day of our wedding my DD (then 3) just had her hair braided beautifully. I was getting photos taken and the limo had just pulled up when she came in with red lippy all over her face, her hair cut and nail polish all over her dress! Lucky your little girl is too young to get into any mischeif - hopfully.
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