Partner Won't Attend Batisim Information Night

[*Elle*]

WOW your situation is so much like what I went through, DH was not baptised, his family do not attend church and are not religious in any way, DH flat out refused for me to baptise our son I fought him for a year and a half on this subject and finally he agreed, he only agreed in the end because he was sick of fighting me, he didnt come to any of the info nights or the welcoming mass I attended them with one of Peiters god mothers,

His family made nasty demeaning remarks toward my decission but at the end of the day all I said is well its not hurting you is it and that made my point very clear,

like it or not it was in no way harming our child or forcing his family to become church goers so what was the problem nothing at all they couldnt come back at me with any thing,

I do not attend church but I am religious in my own way and I am sure I will start going again one day I grew up going to church and I loved it, I want my children baptised because to me it feels right, DH is still not 100% with me on this subject but he isnt against it either,

I think as others have siad you need to think about what you want, in the end I told Jeff I would do it with or without him I didnt care I just wanted our children to be baptised and that was that weather he liked it or not, he did come along in the end as he didnt see the issue with it so much,

I think the true meaning of Baptism is to bring your children up in an environment that is spiritual and loving and embraces religion but not necessarilly mans you have to attend church each week I am sure the Preist/Father would prefer it if you did but they would appreciate you baptising your child immensly also.

Take care
Amy

[sconeonamission]

My DH was baptised Anglican, I'm Catholic and we just had Jensen's baptism in an Anglican Church yesterday. DH was adment that he wasn't going to be baptised. I said he was and went about organising it. DH's idea was what if he doesn't want to be baptised. I just came back with he can re-nounce it later.

It was DH's idea to have him circumsised- to which I agreed coz it would have fallen of deaf ears. So my arguement was if he got to do something to him then I get to do something to him. (in a nice way of course).

DH was so proud yesterday, it made all the hassle of organising it by myself worthwhile.



Good luck with it all.

[melham74]

I too had the same problem. We are both catholic, he refuses to go to church ect but I go for special occasions and good friday and Christmas. DS1 was christed but he didnt attend the information nights I did that with his godparents and organised the whole thing, his dad made him come to church on the day though. DS2 hasnt been done at all but will be eventually and DS3 we were going to have a christening last year just after he was born as Grandparents were over from NZ ect BUT we couldnt get into a church and they were only here for a week so we had a naming ceremony instead. I do intend getting DS2 and 3 done though as they will make their communion and confirmation so will probably take them when DS3 is older and I will go as will their Godparents and any family that want to come, I will not force DH to go, my family know what he is like anyway.