Pre nups prior to getting married

[little_Miss_Chez]

Hi , my partner and i are getting married next march , and wondered how other belly belly members went about approching the subject of pre nups or legal agreements & how soon after your married do u intend to change your will .
a little detail to explain .
My Partner has no assests or savings - where i do .
he also has 4 children from previous relationship/s which i have limited & or nothing to do with , and i dont wish to contribute financilaly to their lives where its not necassary ( i know it sounds rude but u just have to understand ) .
in the event of divorce i would want no assests purchased prior to realationship touched or have to be sold ( if i can do that ) . in the event of death - he would be left the family home and a small portion of cash in bank .
the rest to be left to any children of mine .

i dont want to sound rude i just want it to know how to approch it with him . as when we start approching money we fight ( hes not very good with it and im a nearly graduated accountant ) . also when drawing any documents would all my assests have to be named in the pre nup document ?

thanks for ur imput

[Lukesmum]

I know it's not a nice thing to have to think about but after having seen some friends go through a bad time when they separated I think you are being very wise. Some people will disagree about the pre nup but I think in your situation I would do the same. I have no idea about what to do with the pre nup but I would definately get your will changed if he has 4 children who you dont really have anything to do with.

If you and your partner argue about money now he may not appreciate you doing this so it may be difficult to talk to him about it. You can do your will yourself but I'm sure you need his signatiure for the pre nup.

Sorry I cant help in what to do in the process but I just want to give you support and let you know that I think you are doing the right thing.

[Visitor9]

DH and I have his house in a family trust ( attached with many other properties) It isnt in his name nor mine but DD , I have never wanted to know how this all works as it really doesnt bother me as the house has no morgage attached to it. I know my friend who had her defacto move in recently set up a similar situation. I have too many accountants in the family