As it's about time I started doing something about it..
DF and I are getting married. We are aiming for next year, but due to lack of planning I don't know (only cause I've had to focus all my time on uni this year)
But...we are going for soemthing really out there and different
This is our basic plan, but the logisitcs are what we really need to focus on, so if ppl could share their experiences and any tips etc that owuld be great, even if you say thats totally crazy and wont work, cause maybe thats what we need =P
First off I want to be married at night under a full moon. so the ceremony would have to be about 7 or 8 pm, depending on what time of year... I want a small ceremony, like just 10 ppl (mainly direct family and a select few)
But with our reception we want to have a huge open party drunken shingding that anyone can come too..
so I think the first problem is how do you tell ppl (nicely) they are invited to the reception not the wedding?
also as with the full moon dates, next year the full moons occur mid week...so we were thinking of having the ceremony midweek, then the reception on the sat (so a few days after the ceremony)
anyone had there ceremony and reception on different days?
My DF also wants to get married in a cemetery...I'm keen for the idea so we have been road tripping to find the perfect one, one with lots of couples and prefereably smaller and with people with both our names. Does anyone know the legal side? can you just pick a site and get married or do you have to get permission to use certain sites etc??
I think that would do for now! thanks so much in advance!!!!!!
(ps. i've posted this same post of a few different forums)
EDIT: with the cemetery, we are going to be very respectful...like not actually stand on peoples graves etc... but still in the grounds. (sorry if this offends anyone)
I'll get back to you on the other stuff, but re: the cemetary, you would have to ask permission of the cemetary dudes. You might have to think about another venue as I'm not sure it would be considered appropriate.
You never know, but start making phone calls NOW jic
Have you thought about calling one of those ghost tours and asking them if they would cater to a small group of people for a wedding? I have seen on TV a tour in the Brissie area that went to one of the cemetary's, and there is the one that does the Rocks in Sydney as well..If you google for Ghost tours, you should find something....some of them even do hens night's i think.
You could tie a ghost theme tour in with a ghost theme fancy dress wedding celebration too
A girl i knew had a small ceremony then invited other people to the reception
She worded the invitation to read that N****and D**** are getting married in a private ceremony on BLAH BLAH and would love for you to help them celebrate at their reception....
something like that
She did offend quite a few family and friends with the whole event, but i think that was more to do with the fact she turned freaking crazy and rude and psychotic and demanding....(another story completely!!!) and not because of the private ceremony thing.
I LOVE the idea of getting married under a full moon! I have never heard of anyone doing it and while yes its crazy but its romantic crazy! and i completely understand that you just want close family and friends at the ceremony and if your other friends are really your friends they will understand that (anyways the reception is always the funnest :P) I don't know much about cemetries and what not so im no help.
I don't know if this law is still valid in England, let alone if it's ever been there in Australia, but you didn't used to be able to get married when the sun wasn't up so that you could see who you were marrying. That's the first thing I would look into.
As for invites - save you a fortune as you only need reception ones! Shouldn't be a problem, the people really close to you who will be at the ceremony will probably be the only people who know about the two different days at first: will you wear your wedding dress to the reception too? Good idea, get two days' wear out of it!
Grub17 - I'm hoping to get a medivel style dress, with a second colour. I have it in my head but havent ever seen one yet...
We just want a celebrant for the wedding. Both my partner and I have pagan type views but dont want anything too ceremonal...just someone to make it legal really. In fact my dad and brother have been considering getting their celebrent licence for a while now (independent of me) and this has sort of pushed them a bit more, but once again we dont know the finer details as to whether them being related to me would inhibit them doing it etc..
Abb34 - thankyou. Good luck with yours too!!
The cemetry idea isn't locked in, cause it does seem like way to much hassel, for us it is another huge milestone in life, and both of us believe in the circle of life and death isn't an end, just part of the natural order, so our binding our spirits comes into that...which is why we want somewhere with so much history and story as a cemetry. Seen as neither of us are christian a church just never seemed an option.
As long as I get the ceremony outdoors =)
Lady Zaidie - I never thought of that but thats a good point (about the sun not being up) and are bad one if its true =( cause I relaly really really want the moon!!
I did think about that with the dress, and laughed that I could wear it more than once.
I don't think not telling people its the reception is an option. Mainly cause I had a part one year and invited all my friends (about 30+) and didnt say it was for my bday, just a party....only 1 person came, my cousin who also happened to be my partner at the times best mate... peoples excuses later were if i told them it was for a special occassion like my bday they would have come....so i'm not risking giong through that pain again! ppl are going to know its my reception and they HAVE to come =P
A girlfriend of mine had her wedding photos done in a cemetery as she loved the gardens, however, it was during the day (11am) and she did have to get permission from the cemetery ppls. - i guess the only difficult thing would be the fact that you say the wedding would be around 7-8pm, from what i know, most cemetery's close at 5.30-6pm....but i guess you just have to enquire and see what's out there
Wow, I love the whole concept!! It's something I would have LOVED to do myself, but DH thinks I'm a total dork for being all into cemeteries and darkness and all that stuff heheh Plus our cemetery here is right on the main road through town (so not very conducive to a peaceful, quiet ceremony) and, well, it's ugly
Just wanted to pop in and say I really hope you can pull this one off, I would love to see photos!! Keep us updated on how it all goes!
Frineds are getting married at the observatory (sp) so thats another option especially if the moon has special significance for you, although maybe a bit too traditional?
I dont see the problem with having a small private ceremony and big celebration. My Unlce is a celebrant and he has just married a couple at a quiet private ceremony in an old cinema. The ceremony was recorded, the film was edited and then the guests were invited to the cinema to view the wedding film on the big screen, they all got drinks and popcorn and I think ****tails after. You could film the ceremony and show it to people at the reception if you think your friends and family would like it
Sounds like you are planning a really fun and diferent wedding, another one here who would love to see photos once you have tied the knot. Good luck with the planning
I would invite ppl to your reception without actually stating it is a wedding reception, just state it is a big party, try and elude there will be a big surprise, make it sound elusive and excieting, state a strict commencement time then make a grand entrance and annoucement.
Hopefully ppl will be having too much fun to care that they didn't see the ceremony. Anyway it is your wedding, so don't let other ppls values override what you want.
Can't help with the cemetary thing, unless you have thought about finding an old church ground. I know of a lovley small old church in the Swan Valley in WA.
A very different wedding
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