Grub17 - I'm hoping to get a medivel style dress, with a second colour. I have it in my head but havent ever seen one yet...
We just want a celebrant for the wedding. Both my partner and I have pagan type views but dont want anything too ceremonal...just someone to make it legal really. In fact my dad and brother have been considering getting their celebrent licence for a while now (independent of me) and this has sort of pushed them a bit more, but once again we dont know the finer details as to whether them being related to me would inhibit them doing it etc..
Abb34 - thankyou. Good luck with yours too!!

The cemetry idea isn't locked in, cause it does seem like way to much hassel, for us it is another huge milestone in life, and both of us believe in the circle of life and death isn't an end, just part of the natural order, so our binding our spirits comes into that...which is why we want somewhere with so much history and story as a cemetry. Seen as neither of us are christian a church just never seemed an option.
As long as I get the ceremony outdoors =)
Lady Zaidie - I never thought of that but thats a good point (about the sun not being up) and are bad one if its true =( cause I relaly really really want the moon!!
I did think about that with the dress, and laughed that I could wear it more than once.

I don't think not telling people its the reception is an option. Mainly cause I had a part one year and invited all my friends (about 30+) and didnt say it was for my bday, just a party....only 1 person came, my cousin who also happened to be my partner at the times best mate... peoples excuses later were if i told them it was for a special occassion like my bday they would have come....so i'm not risking giong through that pain again! ppl are going to know its my reception and they HAVE to come =P