Weddings, hens nights, and pregnancy

[Indadhanu]

Couldn't think of the right title for this, but am having a bit of a quandry!

A friend of mine is getting married this year, on 08-08-08, and having her hens night at the end of July.

I am due 04-08-08.... She knows this, of course, though I have a feeling she still thinks I'll be able to come down for it. It's not too far away I guess, about 2 hr drive...

Ok, I've never been pregnant and don't actually know whats it like in those two weeks before your EDD, and after giving birth (or if I am overdue).

My first question is.... Being about 38 weeks pregnant (assuming Bubble hasn't arrived) at the time of the hens night... whats the likely hood that I'm going to want to spend the night bar hopping? I'm not a bar person at the best of times (not a night owl either) so I'm not sure what to tell her about that for starters.

Second question is... If I'm still pregnant at the time of the wedding, would it be silly to travel that far away from home? I mean, what if I go into labour at the wedding? I'd probably still have time to get home I'm sure but... I dunno, I've never been pregnant so I have no idea ... what are your thoughts on this? Will I want to be travelling that far if I'm 4 days overdue?
If I've had bub beforehand I doubt I'd go, I think its no kids, and I am hoping to breastfeed and don't know anyone who would look after her (unless Shel doesn't come, but then I wouldn't go alone anyway). Plus I probably wouldn't feel like being at a wedding if I've just given birth.

All this sounds like I don't want to go... I do, I'd love to go... I'm just not sure... This friend has a 12mth old princess herself, though I just wonder if her expectations (of me coming to the hens night and wedding) are a bit much?

Any thoughts? What would you have done if you had been invited to a hens night at 38w, or a wedding that close to your EDD?


Oh, and don't even get me started on what I'd wear to the wedding either!!!! I've looked at pregnancy stuff, and I feel like basically my options will be different coloured potato sacks...

[Kitt3n]

Straight up, i wouldnt go - too risky being so close to EDD, and you will have buckleys of feeling like partying! I mean really, would feel like going NOW, let alone then?

Suggest that maybe you could partake in an "in honour of" night out after bubs has arrived and you are all settled. could be several months down the track though (would mean you would have to leave bubble!!).

[neekyv]

hey there....
seriously- i'd skip both!
I was only 16 weeks prepnant at my best friends hens night- and 25 weeks at her wedding- and all i wanted to do at both was find somewhere quiet, get comfy and have a snooze!

[Enchanted]

I had the same dilemma when I was about 36wks pg with Oscar. I kept freaking out at the thought of going into labour etc. You know what though... I went to the Hens night and a fanstastic time!! I drove from place to place and as soon as I'd had enough I came home. I'm glad I went though as it was one of the last times I was able to go out baby free! The wedding was 1.5hrs away from us and I went to that too, DH didn't drink JIC but it's quite unlikely that bubs will come that quickly that you won't be able to make it home.

It is really up to you hun. I think you should go and have a great time as you probably won't do it for a while. See how you feel at the time, by then you might just want to (try to ) curl up in a ball and not go anywhere or you might be wanting to get out of the house and mingle! I was feeling great at the end of my pregnancy, I had the usual aches and pains but all in all I was glad I got out of the house and had a bit of fun.

Sorry rambling now. HTH!

Edit- I will PM you a couple of websites with maternity dresses

[Liz185]

I'm sure your friend won't mind if you decide not to go. You can never tell how you'll be feeling- I know that the last 4 weeks are the absolute WORST because all your body aches and pains come flowing right on in!

Look, if it was me, I'd probably tell your friend that you'd love to go but that you don't know how you'll be.

I think if you go somewhere that you're not sitting down for ages, it should be OK! I went to a charity concert and was in the seat for AGGGGES!! SO uncomfortable

[visitor1]

I wouldnt be going to either. The last few weeks you need to save up energy!!

[jaspen]

I can't imagine wanting to go to a hens night that close or going to a wedding 4 days ODor 4 days post birth (eg I have had c/sect so 4 days post birth would not have been possible anyway) but in saying that would the option of going (with bubs in tow given so young) if bubs came early (eg a couple of weeks) be worth considering??? Maybe if you broach it from that respect it might show that you really want to go but the practicalities at that stage of pregnancy just don't allow. If late numbers aren't flexible then you probably need to say no I can't come but know I'm thinking the best for you.