would you be offended paying for own drinks at a wedding?
Df and I have been engaged for like 5 years now, we talk bout getting married but want to do it on the cheap.
All I want is family and close friends, have a celebrant in a park then hire out a function room and provide finger food.
I know alcohol can be exxy so we decided we won't have a bar tab, guests can just buy there own drinks as the night goes on.
Now does this seem rude to you, would you expect being a wedding having alcohol provided?
We won't be asking for anything from people, we don't want gifts or anything just people to be there.
Thanks I just feel like we're being tight arses or something, but thats why we always put off getting married cause always think money better spent elsewhere like mortgage.
Place on the invite that alcoholic beverages will be available to purchase on the day. That way, people are aware in advance and in writing. If it is family and close friends only, when you hand out the invites tell them you do not want any gifts as it is such as small gathering and you would rather they came to share your day with you.
2pm Ceremony 4pm Afternoon Tea (sandwiches, sausage rolls, vol au vents & scones, mini cakes etc) - champagne round for toasts. (With 40ish guests I think we bought 6-7 bottles)
We kept it a small family affair and it was perfect. I don't care how cheap people thought it was - we did it to get married! It was nice that they could all join us and I am thankful for every person that did.
We would have put it off forever if family hadnt of contributed so it was the best gift we could ask for.
I hope people don't think it's rude, there was no free bar at our wedding! We had a few bottles of fizzy wine for toasts and provided wine at the meal, but after that they paid for their own. If anyone was offended they certainly did not tell me
Personally I would shout at least one round of drinks for toasts... as it would be a thankyou type thing to your guests for attending your wedding.
I only had 15 people at my wedding and the whole wedding and reception .. food ceremony everything was abouit 2500 .. pretty good value if you shop around!
i've been to heaps of weddings with "drinks at bar prices" - as long as it's on the invite so people are prepared, not rude at all
i do agree it's nice (but not essential) to have some bubbles or something that you shout for toasts, but that doesn't have to be excessively expensive.
we put on beer, wine and softdrink (but the venue were ok with people bringing their own red so that they had what they wanted!). everything else was at bar prices, and when our tab ran out, everyone would have been paying their own. we had over 130 people, and because the venue put on top shelf at respectable bar prices, everyone drank top shelf and we ended up using less than 75% of what we'd put over the bar - the rest we ended up giving as a donation to the football/netball club we had the receptionat
No way, not rude at all! DF and I are considering something similar, we're getting married next year and it will be a very small, low key affair. We won't be asking for gifts, but if people want to get a gift we'll be letting people know a small cash gift would be appreciated but is definately not the only option, to go towards our honeymoon. Some people think this is tacky but tbh it's our wedding, we don't want gifts at all as we have all the material things we need. We'll be having a small ceremony, and a small reception where we'll provide some food. I think it's okay to expect people to buy their own drinks, especially at a smaller wedding.
Why don't you ask one of your guests (or if someone asks you what they can get you) to bring a couple of nice bottles of wine/champagne, if you don't have many people coming?
I wouldn't expect alcohol to be provided necessarily, but if there's going to be a toast to the married couple, some donated/gifted champagne might come in handy!
But definitely not a bar tab. You should talk to the function centre though, when we put on a function for DP's 30th we got them to provide a ****tail on arrival for a relatively cheap price. DP's brother provided a bottle of wine for each table and we were set.
would you be offended paying for own drinks at a wedding?
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