How long were you.....???

[BrightSparkles]

and your DH together before you got married???
DH and I were together for 8 years before tying the knot and knew so much about each other before doing so.

Curious to know what others opinions are. I have friends that have gotten engaged after 4 months together. While i'm over the moon for them, I can't help thinking it's too quick. (Yes I know....it can work) I haven't said anything to them as it's thier happy time.

[Olive]

we moved in after a month, engaged a month or so later, married after 2.5yrs. We've been together just gone 10 years!

[BrightSparkles]

we moved in after a month, engaged a month or so later, married after 2.5yrs. We've been together just gone 10 years!

Awesome work!!!!!!!!!!!!
It seems like so long!! I can't wait to say DH and I have been together that long!

[Arimeh]

DH#1 - he asked me to marry him a week after "meeting" him (we met online, and then he asked after flying to brisbane and meeting me in real life and spending the week with me) and then we got married uh... nearly 2 years later (and then divorced 2.5 years after that).

DH#2 - met online (its just what I do!), moved in a month later, suggested we get married 6 months after that (not engaged, just a suggestion - hence why I have no engagement ring) and married 9 months later. Still together - been married for 4 years now (and yes, we have been married for 4 years and have 3 kids. We're FAST movers.. haha)

[Ella]

DF and I got engaged 3 months after being together. He asked me to be with him for the rest of his life and have kids after being together for 3 weeks... guess he really really liked me lol

That was just over two years ago and we haven't tied the knot yet for financial reasons... damn expensive cakes and dresses!

[Tinks]

DH and I have been together for 14 years, we got married 2 yrs ago.

[briggsy's girl]

umm, together a week when he unofficially moved in, (stayed the first night and never left!) - engaged 4 months later, married 12months 4 days after we got together. been married almost 3 years, weathered some pretty intense stuff in there (loss of his brother, family breakdown, miscarriages, IVF) and still very happy with our relationship

i don't think the amount of time you're together is a good indicator of how your relationship will last - it's how you weather the storms that arise as you go along. we have been very (un)fortunate that we've faced a LOT, including DH working away long term, him now facing a degenarative illness, both having major surgeries - we've been through a lot and we're still strong. yeah, we have issues, but it's not about how long we've been together - it's just part and parcel of a relationship (IMO). at the end of the day, we love each other, we're compatible and we're content.

ETA - DH told me we were going to get married the night we got together!

[BrightSparkles]

Only asking this because DH and I didn't move in until we'd been together for some time so I'm really not sure......

Is it different if you live together first then get engaged after a few months??? My friends don't live together (still living with parents - and i'm not judging them on that...i would too if i could LOL)

[Ella]

"umm, together a week when he unofficially moved in, (stayed the first night and never left!) - engaged 4 months later, married 12months 4 days after we got together. been married almost 3 years, weathered some pretty intense stuff in there (loss of his brother, family breakdown, miscarriages, IVF) and still very happy with our relationship"

Yep I have to agree. DF stayed over during our second date and he never left... we got a house together after about 6 weeks as I was living in a share house.

Doesn't matter how long you're together, like Briggsy we have been through some major stuff- cutting off my mum (not good influence at the time), huge family problems with his mother and many many more.

I think that some people are put here to have a pretty whirlwind experience, and I feel that we are some of them, at 21 I keep getting told that I've been through alot more life experience typed things than many people my age.

[kitten2b]

met DH at uni - same college - married 10 years later

[BrightSparkles]

I think that some people are put here to have a pretty whirlwind experience, and I feel that we are some of them, at 21 I keep getting told that I've been through alot more life experience typed things than many people my age.

For sure!

Don't get me wrong. I'm over the moon for people when they are happy. and would do anything to support people through the happy times (and downs of course)
I was just curious to see what others experiences/opinions were. Just trying to get an understanding of other peoples points of view.

[sneakysparkle]

DH & I got engaged after being together 4 yrs - married 6mths later. In Jan we have been married for 7 yrs
We got together in high school though - I knew when I was 17 that I would marry him

[Just Me]

DH and I got engaged after 13 months (on Christmas eve 10 years ago), married 13 months later (we were 19 years old). We never lived together before we were married and learned a lot about each other in the first year that we were married.

We are celebrating our 9th wedding anniversary on 20 January.

[Rainbow_Mumma]

umm, together a week when he unofficially moved in, (stayed the first night and never left!)

my DH was exactly the same! engaged 6 months later and married 3 years later and now been married since November 14th this year

[~Kim~]

i think it's one of those questions like "when is the right age to have a baby?" there just isn't a uniform answer for all.
My parents were married within a year of meeting and will celebrate their 37th anniversary in Feb.
For us we met then started dating 3ish months later then moved in 5 months after that. We got engaged 9months after we started dating and married 12 months after that. We've been married 5 years and together for 7.

[Kazmar]

Im still living in sin

Id be worried about being engaged and getting married having never lived with eachother. That could create problems.

[Nelle]

Try not to worry. It will work if they both are committed to making it work.

We were engaged after 8 months (he was 20 I was 19), married 7 months after that (he was 21 I was 20) - we didn't live together before marriage, and in February it'll be six years! So we've been together for seven. And no sign of trouble, apart from the fact that he STILL doesn't empty the dirty laundry basket.

As I said at the start, if they work at it, they should be fine. We've done marriage courses, try to go on dates, try to have good quality time and aim to be unselfish - and I think that is more relevant to a relationship's success than the length of the lead-up. xo

ETA: Dedicated Mummy, that's not necessarily true about marriage without living together first creating problems. xo

[BrightSparkles]

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We were engaged after 8 months (he was 20 I was 19), married 7 months after that (he was 21 I was 20) - we didn't live together before marriage, and in February it'll be six years! So we've been together for seven. And no sign of trouble, apart from the fact that he STILL doesn't empty the dirty laundry basket.

ROFL - my DH is the same!! LOL