the reason we have decided a letter is simply because my DH wont ask he doesnt like confrontation evensomething simple like this he would rather just plod along then ask(even though we could really do with the extra money)

he has been offered ajob in the mines which is huge money but he is then away from us. his bosses know he has been offered it and think thats it even though i told them he is thinking about it

so i guess we want it to happen quickly so we can decide on if we want him to stay or go