hwo do you know when its time to give up?

[kawazuki]

thats it

well financially we are backwards if i stay as day care is going up.

but personal guilt makes me want to stay at work. then i feel selfish lol
viscous circle.

actually typing it all out helps alot

[kelebek]

I went back 3 days a week when DS was 11 mnths old. When we looked at it we were better off financially with me staying at home with him. They are only little for such a short amount of time and before you know it they will be at school. I know I plan on doing some study and you can always retrain when they are at school and start working again.

[kawazuki]

i think if i left totally i would re train in a different field.

i dont think i could walk back into nursing after being away for 3-5 years.

[kelebek]

and that's ok to be in a totally different field cause to be honest after having kids we are totally different people. I know that I won't be going back into my old field but still can't decide what I wanna be when I grow up

[kawazuki]

and that's ok to be in a totally different field cause to be honest after having kids we are totally different people. I know that I won't be going back into my old field but still can't decide what I wanna be when I grow up

i think thats it as well
i feel lost in my job.


bath you make a great point.
it is more expensive to go to work than stay home.
i am paying to go to work at the moment.
and i do feel i am missing alot of my little girl.

now just to figure out how this is going to fit in with our plans lol...

[~me~]

It's such a dilemma...one we are constantly thinking about while on Mat Leave. While on Mat leave I have dropped DS2 to 1day care to 'keep me in' and will stop that when I make a final decision.
A friend made a very good point, she said and I quote "we got out numbered so I had to stay home" and she said that in a very positive way.
That's pretty much how I feel and your post is also sounding that way.
Are you a nurse kawazuki? Another friend dropped during the week work altogether and worked one shift a night on weekends and that seemed to make a difference.
I worked two days and I am due back in September...will ask for another 12mths and re-assess then. Is that a something you can do?

[kawazuki]

im back at work now..
weekends are a possiblity. especially fi i am going to be home all week.

yes i am a nurse now. i work in general practice so do 9-5 monday to friday.

i coudl go back to nursing home work, but we have sport commitments and the like on weekends and hubby doesnt want me doing nights again as i tend to be constantly sick my immune system shuts down..

[Bathsheba]

So true... before kids i was in hospitality... worked in kitchens... post kids i want to be a teacher... NEVER in my wildest dreams did i imagine yself being a teacher pre-kids!

[kawazuki]

So true... before kids i was in hospitality... worked in kitchens... post kids i want to be a teacher... NEVER in my wildest dreams did i imagine yself being a teacher pre-kids!

i was dead set on doing my nursing the going into paramedics and becomeing a bike ambo.

now i want to do something liek teaching or run my own buisness etc..

[Bathsheba]

I know the guilt... went through that with my first child. Then... after i returned to uni and finished my degree ontop of working i realised that i had been so busy that my DD's childhood was nearly over! So when she was 9 I had my second child and swore i would not miss his childhood so decided to a fulltime SAHM. And then i had a third... and now it's been 7 years being a SAHM and even though it's been hard financially and for my sense of fulfillment (I cant wait to return to work) I don't regret it. Maybe if i had my extended family around i could have balanced work and homelife but with no one to help it just all seemed to come down to me. my youngest is nearly 4. After we move the plan is to settle him into kinder creche and then for me to find part time work. i'm not so hesitiant because i'll have extended family around to help. So how did i know? After watching my first child's life fly by... and not wanting to miss as much of my son's childhoods... plus yes... it costs too much to go to work!!!

ETA: my mother returned to nursing after a 20 year break... can be done... but i can't say she's that happy... but the money is good as a casual nurse.