hwo do you know when its time to give up?

[kawazuki]

and that's ok to be in a totally different field cause to be honest after having kids we are totally different people. I know that I won't be going back into my old field but still can't decide what I wanna be when I grow up

i think thats it as well
i feel lost in my job.


bath you make a great point.
it is more expensive to go to work than stay home.
i am paying to go to work at the moment.
and i do feel i am missing alot of my little girl.

now just to figure out how this is going to fit in with our plans lol...

[~me~]

It's such a dilemma...one we are constantly thinking about while on Mat Leave. While on Mat leave I have dropped DS2 to 1day care to 'keep me in' and will stop that when I make a final decision.
A friend made a very good point, she said and I quote "we got out numbered so I had to stay home" and she said that in a very positive way.
That's pretty much how I feel and your post is also sounding that way.
Are you a nurse kawazuki? Another friend dropped during the week work altogether and worked one shift a night on weekends and that seemed to make a difference.
I worked two days and I am due back in September...will ask for another 12mths and re-assess then. Is that a something you can do?

[kawazuki]

im back at work now..
weekends are a possiblity. especially fi i am going to be home all week.

yes i am a nurse now. i work in general practice so do 9-5 monday to friday.

i coudl go back to nursing home work, but we have sport commitments and the like on weekends and hubby doesnt want me doing nights again as i tend to be constantly sick my immune system shuts down..

[~Kim~]

hey hun, as you know, I've been there the last few months.
I'm also an RN who hasn't practised for a number of years.

Put a different spin on it.....
I am eternally grateful that my situation leaves me able to be a SAHM. I never thought I would ever get the chance and even though it wasn't entirely voluntary, my kids will benefit from me being around all the time.

I was backed into a corner at work and so quit at the end of my mat/LS leave. It meant we had to pull DD out of daycare, but that's OK too.
Let go of your guilt. Make the decision based on you and your family's needs, not what 'should' happen.

[AnyDream]

I think there are probably some other options on the table for you other than work all week vs stay at home all week. For example, if you find a longer shift so you can work one or two long days rathr than all week, or work on a weekend/nights so the penalty rates make it more worth your while, kwim? I"m sure as a nurse there are lots of different types of job opportunities, even if it's in a related area. It also pays to do a bit of research about what your CC options are, it could be that there are some fantastic FDC or community-run child care centres that have better availability, which might ease your concerns about losing CC places. HTH

[kawazuki]

thanx marydean..
have looked through our area for FDC only 2 available all booked up.
our current daycare is the cheapest i have found ( been looking for 2 years) as they supply nappies and all food.

i will not work in hospitals again especially the one down here, its horrible staff moral is crap and the bosses are rude and horrible hence why i left.

weekend work doesnt suite us either. we can survive if i dont work. but if the girls are in school i need to work to pay for CC..

my wage goes solely on CC i get maybe 50 a week to save or spend, rest is out of hubbys wage.

so its mainly a guilt thing lol

i am going to talk to my boss this week or next and see where i stand etc

[Lulu]

oh pffft to the guilt. What is guilt doing for you? Nuttin.

So stay home.