Sounds to me like the dummy returns are just doing what Dr Sears refers to below:"Infants' sleep cycles are shorter [than adults'], lasting 50 to 60 minutes, so they experience a vulnerable period for nightwaking around every hour or even less. As your baby enters this light sleep, if you lay a comforting hand on your baby's back, sing a soothing lullaby, or just be there next to baby if he is in your bed; you can help him get through this light sleep period without waking."
"Nightwaking has developmental benefits. Sleep researchers believe that babies sleep "smarter" than adults do. They theorize that light sleep helps the brain develop because the brain doesn't rest during REM sleep."
"Between three to six months, expect one or two nightwakings. You will also see the period of deep sleep lengthen. The vulnerable periods for nightwaking decrease and babies are able to enter deep sleep more quickly. This is called sleep maturity."

I liked this bit
"An important fact for you to remember is that your baby's sleep habits are more a reflection of your baby's temperament rather than your style of nighttime parenting. And keep in mind that other parents usually exaggerate how long their baby sleeps, as if this were a badge of good parenting, which it isn't. It's not your fault baby wakes up."

I am struggling with the tug of war I'm having in co-sleep/cot sleep. I find it difficult to put her back to sleep in the cot after her 11.30pm sleep, if I do she seems to wake more often than if she co-sleeps. I know I have to be stronger and deal with the resettling better especially for when I return to work.

Sarah No point in feeling guilty now, what is done is done, hope everything is okay and DH didn't give you too hard a time over it.

Shoegal good to see you poke your nose in. Sounds like Baxter is doing well. How did you go with the eye doctor - or is that in the other thread?

Tarnee I agree on the dummy thing, as long as it isn't an all the time soother, let it be.

GTG and get something achieved for the day.