Hey Kel - Helping your kids out will be the best thing you can do!! I don't understant either people who say they know how hard it is and then avoid you like the plague!! Surely then they must understand how far a little help would go. My mums favourite is "well, you wanted them"...LOL! I think it's in some peoples mentality to have the attitude that "I did it all on my own and managed so you can to"...a bit sad really...
Big hugs to you...
It would be nice to think they sleep through by this age but they all have their own little funny ideas. Dylans an atrocious sleeper - he's up often 3-4 times a night - usually just for his dummy though so it's quick but still a hassle. Michael gets up to Louis and Dylan every night though...Ethans quite a good sleeper luckily (overnight anyway...) so often Michaels up more than me!! Poor bugger...he really is such a great help - I wouldn't be able to do it without him!
It is hard to think of the future when you're in the moment and your tired and drained...big hugs...I promise it will get easier though...just take each day at a time...
I'd love to help you out (when I know what I'm doing!) Most of it's done over the phone so you can be my guinea pig!! LOL!
Thats great Lily likes cc so much!!
Kaz, I'm jealous of Pip singing songs! Ben doesn't sing any, but then again, I don't really sing to him anymore so I only have myself to blame!!! I used to sing to him every bedtime, but then he started telling me to "Stop!" and putting his hand over my mouth I'm not that bad at singing -honest! Now he tries to get me to stop when I sing to Jared, maybe because I'm singing 'his' songs? I don't know. The past few days I've started singing Twinkle Twinkle, I'm a little Teapot and a few others and he asks for more so I might do it more often. I'd love to have him join in or do it on his own like Pip does.
Don't you feel a perverse satisfaction when you're DH has a shocker with them? It's mean, but at the same time it's like "Now you know how I feel!"
Kris, yay on Dylan doing the alphabet puzzle! I know what you mean about them knowing stuff that we don't know they know. It seems like every day Ben does something and Craig and I look at each other with a "Did you know he could do/say that?" look on our faces
Bugger that Dylan is such a bad sleeper. We have our off days, but thankfully it's not every day. You're lucky you have such a helpful DH. Craig is good, but works nights so it's always me up with them at night since I'm the only one here. He's good about getting me to have a nap during the day though, if Jared will allow it.
Kel, you made me laugh with the image of me sitting in a corner rocking You're right though, I'd probably have to enlist the help of my mum or sister (or both). They are both naturals with kids, it's crazy. Mum used to have Ben and two of her grandkids (now 8 months and 12 months) by herself with no probs at all. It helps that they're all angels for her. I left the boys with my sis last week while I got my hair cut and she has the 8 month old as well. I came back after nearly three hours and she was calmly playing with Ben and her bub while Jared was sitting in her arms! I don't know how they do it!
If you're ever really stuck though, let me know. I'm lucky, I have so much good and willing help around me. Two of my SILs and my sis are always asking if I want them to take Ben for a while and then I have my mum and MIL. Don't know how I'd get by without them!
Speaking of not know how to get by... I'm wondering if I'll survive the day! We had a shocker here last night (again!). There's something up with Ben - I'm thinking molars maybe? He was up for hours last night and they were doing tag-teaming again. I even did something really naughty at 5am when Ben was finally asleep and put Jared to sleep on his tummy He has terrible tummy aches sometimes and that seems to help. I have the movement monitor so I figured it would be okay, but I still didn't sleep very well - worrying about him. I'm operating on about three hours' sleep today, although Craig took Ben to the park this morning after work so I got another two bursts of 30 mins each before Jared was starving again. This weekend I think I'm going to have to express so Craig can get up with Jared and a bottle. The only problem is that sound travels really well in our house and I will probably wake up anyway!
Still, I'm in a good mood today - probably delirious with lack of sleep! I just ordered some more cloth nappies to make myself feel better And I was a recipient of a random act of kindness here and didn't even realise it until last night! If it was one of you girls - THANKYOU!!!
Oh yay Im not boring!!! He he..thanks girls!
I just jumped on here now Beau has woken up after 45min - and he went mental at playgroup, I thought he would have a nice long sleep. I only just got through reading the posts! Beau has been a bugger yesterday and today (same as Ben, Dis) - I think it is molars too - he just grumps and whinges and fake cries about EVERYTHING!!
Dis - Sorry you had a shocker of a night, when will teething be over????? Super cute with Ben and the 'eeding! Sounds like a bossy boots too! I wish DH would have a shocking day with B, every time I leave them for work, its like they have the best fun ever, and DH always says "He has been an angel all day" - secretly DH would love to stay home with him so I can never complain too much really. Our house is noisy too, I know what you mean - poor you not sleeping, fretting over Jared on his tummy - aren't we hopeless?
Kel - Oh Kel, you brought a tear to my eyes saying you have promised Lil to help her later with her kids. My mum is pretty up front about not "helping", I mean she lives too far anyway, but she has said she is over babies/kids now and finds it too tiring. I respect that cause they are!!! But its always nice to have the support, I guess, like Kris's mum saying "you wanted them" its just their generation. I think they had it a lot tougher than us for the most part with support from a partner (our DH's are more hands on usually) and financially too so....who knows? Even if your mum gave you emotional support not even physically being there it would be nice x
Kaz - Cute at Pip doing twinkle twinkle! Ha ha at DH having to nurse an almost 2yr old on his lap for 3hrs!
Kris- glad you are doing ok - Yay at Louis at kinder, how cute! Dylan sounds very sweet with his puzzles, must have a good teacher! Sorry that your Dads wedding was a bit traumatic with the fires and everything - must have been a big day for you all. Your new business venture sounds exciting, its great to have something to look forward to and make you feel good about yourself, not just as a mum. Good to hear that Ethan is sleeping well at night, sounds like Dylan has regressed a bit! Must be difficult trying to juggle three and knowing whose cry is what in the middle of the night!!!
Mel - I hope the girls are on the mend with conjunctavitis and the thrush, you guys are in the wars! Cool at the trampoline, Aldi have great random things sometimes dont they? We bought outdoor solar lights there the other day!! And the nappies are great too! Good idea with the shed, i want to do pilates here but the only class I can go to is a bit far away , on a Saturday and is $18 a session! The close cheaper one is only on weekdays...trying to get fit is expensive and tough!!
Ok I have left B whinging in his cot while I have been posting so I better go and start the afternoon of fun....not!!!! Its tough when they start doing all the tantrum related stuff huh? - Beau is so darn strong too that he really hurts when he kicks and thrashes around!
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Hey all...girls are on the mend....but I expect with another dramatic weather change, we'll have colds or something!
Rebecca had her review today. She didnt have to go in a harness...YAY! The specialist will see her in 9 weeks to make sure the hip is ok and growing well, so in 9 weeks time I will be stressing again. He said it will more than likely resolve itself as it is stable.
Will do personals later....just wanted to share some good news
Jen, We really liked Aldi's nappies too and used them for months, then Ben started to develop a rash from them His skin is hopeless! Now we're using cloth and Huggies again ($$$$) for hopeless relos who don't like cloth when they look after him
Just a short one today, I have a squirming little man on my lap and a bigger one trying to help me type and it's driving me nuts!
Wow Mel thats so great about Rebecca's news - must be a weight off your mind! Glad the girls are on the mend.
Dis - Beau has sensitive skin too but thankfully he hasnt ever had a rash from the Aldi nappies - we kind of alternate between them and huggies as we dont always go to the centre that has Aldi. I want to get some more MCHN when we get pregnant again (fingers crossed) - I loved the ones I had but B has grown out of them now, the were organic ones and far to dear (arounds $100 a pop) What kind do you use?
Us - I am working tonight and staying in the city and working tomorrow - I just went to the chemist to get sleeping pills as I never sleep away from home...oh well hope its not too painful! Beau is a bit better today, hope he turns for DH LOL!!!
Wow, busy girls!! It's great to see everyone in here again!!
Kris, I usnderstand those stupid sayings, my mum's is 'Been there done that' I'm sick to seath of hearing it. One day she'll say it and I'm going to snap and say what I'm really thinking instead of biting my tongue (sometimes I actually have to BITE my tongue to stop it coming out!)....She also says the 'I did it by myself...' but the difference is that she had her children young and her mum was still working full time...my mother doesn't work.
Some days we're up 4-5 times for a dummy too. Or it's for a 'dink'. She drinks up to 300mls through the night sometimes! Or she's lost her 'bap'...blankie. Sometimes through the night if she's in bed with DH I hear her say 'Da?' cause she can't feel him touching her and he has to move closer and hold her, it's sooo cute! But usually it's just 'numnum?' (dummy). Every night like clockwork she wakes at about 11pm and has to come into our room to sleep. I think she knows that Liam is there with us and she feels left out. If we don't bring her in then she's awake a thousand times a night and it's just so not worth it.
DG, I wasn't implying that you're not capable of doing it, but it would challenge the most seasoned person to care for that many under 2's!! I would go insane that's for sure. I do here when its just Lil me and Liam! Especially when I have to feed him and Lil's in a mood. You are very lucky to have so many people wanting to help though. I wish I did.
I hear you on Jared sleeping on his tummy. Liam likes to as well. And he has to be wrapped still, so he's like a little catterpillar, lol! He can still roll in it all believe it or not. I try to keep him on his back, but usually wake to him on his tum, with his head on my boob his own cosy, milky pillow...lol!
Jen, lol, I get a bit teary when I think about it too. But I have had some really atrocious days, weeks. I just want her to know that I will help her. I'm her mummy and if I don't help her no matter what, who will? I hope she has more friends and inlaws and stuff to turn to aswell, but if she ends up like me with not many friends (and none that I would really call on for help) and no other family that will help, well, I'll be there for her. I don't want her to EVER feel as bad as I have at times in the past 2yrs. At least your mum is honest with you. Mine isn't, she tries to find every excuse under the sun, it's all about everyone else, other people's fault, there's no 'I'm too old/ tired/ lazy to look after her'. Plus she looks after my bro's 2 kids and has done so for 8yrs. So to me if she can do it for them, why not mine? Or even help in other ways. She could come and help me clean my house, or cook a meal and bring it over. But no...
Ok enough ranting...you hit a sore spot of mine!!!
Have fun working this weekend...is it fun to work weekends???? LOL!
Mel, yayyyyy about R's hips!! What a relief to know, for now at least, she's all good!
Our weekend will be fairly quiet I think...no plans at the mo anyway, but that might change at the drop of a hat!! Have a great weekend girls.
I'm not that bad at singing -honest! Now he tries to get me to stop when I sing to Jared, maybe because I'm singing 'his' songs? I don't know. The past few days I've started singing Twinkle Twinkle, I'm a little Teapot and a few others and he asks for more so I might do it more often. I'd love to have him join in or do it on his own like Pip does. 
He has terrible tummy aches sometimes and that seems to help. I have the movement monitor so I figured it would be okay, but I still didn't sleep very well - worrying about him. I'm operating on about three hours' sleep today, although Craig took Ben to the park this morning after work so I got another two bursts of 30 mins each before Jared was starving again. This weekend I think I'm going to have to express so Craig can get up with Jared and a bottle. The only problem is that sound travels really well in our house and I will probably wake up anyway!
I only just got through reading the posts! Beau has been a bugger yesterday and today (same as Ben, Dis) - I think it is molars too - he just grumps and whinges and fake cries about EVERYTHING!!
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