Babies Born April 2008 #5

[Butterfly_Princess]

Fire what were you disappointed by?? My chiro was telling me that some ppl expect immediate results, but he says that rarely happens and that it can take up to 5 visits. Its something one needs to persist with.

Girls, im worried, im starting to think about #2 now. I cannot wait. Ive even started temping. Am i crazy??

[Nettie]

LOL Meg - you're not crazy. I've been thinking about the possibility (not of trying yet!) of #2...

Think I might join in on the 'bad mummy' group... not only for not changing him through the night, but I'm yet to begin a showering/massage/reading/bedtime routine with him. We shower him whenever he's awake and one of us is heading in the shower anyway (usually every 2 days) - but it can be at any time of the day; I usually massage him after a shower (but if I'm the one showering him, DH doesn't necessarily massage him) - would like to do it more, but I don't want to get him cold and it's a very cold house!; I've read to him a few times, but he really doesn't seem interested and would much rather I looked at him and talked. I sometimes sing to him which he seems to enjoy - but it's not with any regularity. I feel like I should have a routine with this but it's hard with him so young and his feeds aren't even predictable! Today he took nearly 2 hours to polish off 100ml with little naps in between... Lucky ready, steady, cook was on!

I'd like to start a routine for night time before I head back to work (in September)... let's keep our fingers crossed!

[alioops]

I know I am not an April Mummy, but I thought I might be able to help

Does expressing mess with your supply? I'm worried about getting too much milk again, now that my supply has chilled a bit. But I want to build a freezer supply, but don't want my body to go nuts replacing all that milk that His Chokeness has to deal with. Is there a best way to do it?

Fire, What sort of pump do you use? It is best to express when you are fullest, so first thing in the morning. If you do not want to increase supply, express only until you are comfortable, or have the amount you need. If you want to increase supply then keep going till there is not even a drop coming out.

Two half hour naps and I resigned to him in the sling (and here he still is, sleeping happily). I'm getting frustrated with it. I know he knows best where he wants to be, but this frontal carrying is stupid - we're the only culture that carries babies slung on the front. Other cultures are hip or back. And he can't do the ergo yet so we are seriously between carriers right now. Too big for the frontal, too young for back carry. And even if he could go on the back, I doubt he'd sleep there. I can't see that happening. Plus I wouldn't be able to sit down! So I will save that for awake time. But that means he really HAS to get used to the cot and do more than one cycle. I'm really neglecting DD and if DH weren't here, I don't know how I'd do all this. Other women have toddlers and manage a baby, how? DD occupies herself while I spend HOURS a day in the room trying to settle him. It isn't fair on any of us. I don't think I could go much longer with this cat napping rubbish, he is never truly rested and I'm never finished "settling" him that way.

What type of sling do you have? is it like a baby bjorn, or a sling? the normal slings can be worn in many ways. google bubzilla for videos on how to wear it.

Think I might join in on the 'bad mummy' group... not only for not changing him through the night, but I'm yet to begin a showering/massage/reading/bedtime routine with him. We shower him whenever he's awake and one of us is heading in the shower anyway (usually every 2 days) - but it can be at any time of the day; I usually massage him after a shower (but if I'm the one showering him, DH doesn't necessarily massage him) - would like to do it more, but I don't want to get him cold and it's a very cold house!; I've read to him a few times, but he really doesn't seem interested and would much rather I looked at him and talked. I sometimes sing to him which he seems to enjoy - but it's not with any regularity. I feel like I should have a routine with this but it's hard with him so young and his feeds aren't even predictable! Today he took nearly 2 hours to polish off 100ml with little naps in between... Lucky ready, steady, cook was on!

I'd like to start a routine for night time before I head back to work (in September)... let's keep our fingers crossed!

Nettie, you can start anytime. there is no Set time for a routine.

With night time nappy changes, girls you only need to do them if they REALLY need it, as in leakage or poo. if you are really worried about nappy rash put a barrier cream or some of Nessa's excellent second skin on them. it will not hurt them to go overnight in the same nappy, if you change them it makes it harder to reset their body clocks as to what is day and what is night.

If you think you are a bad mummy for making sure your baby is fed and clothed and well looked after, then I think you ladies are mistaken. You are everything your baby needs at this age, and Motherhood takes practice. have faith that you are a good mummy and dont second guess yourself. and keep an eye on the articles for any info that may have changed recently

Meg, with Temping, there is no reason why you shouldn't get in tune with your cycle. it can take a while to notice a pattern so chart away hun

[Fire]

Hi Ali thanks for the visit and info. i have a medela electric. i don't have morning engorgement cos i have a big night feeder (someting i hope to switch when he's older). so my breasts fill mid evening, when i'm trying to sleep. I have a HaB, a ring sling and an ergo. i also have a long piece of stretchy fabric i bought and use as a wrap, although we mostly use the hab because we didn't get the infant insert for the ergo, and we couldn't work out comfortable ways to wear the ring sling. it's still all frontal carry though, which pulls backs out of whack no matter how they're worn cos the human frame and posture was not designed for large frontal weight. i bought the fabric for high back carries but we failed at that, too.