Big hugs TK . I'm so glad you are going to find another GP. As the others have said, motherhood is a massive adjustment and it can be so overwhelming. Throw sleep deprivation and hormones into the mix and it's definitely not a good combination. When I had DS1, DH & I had a lot of arguments, I think parenthood was a bit of a rude shock for DH too. We ended up getting counselling and it was the best thing we could have done. We sorted through our issues and learned ways of dealing better with each other. I'm sorry you are going through such a rough time, I hope you can get the help you need .
Just wanted to pop in and say a quick hello, I haven't caught up on today's posts yet. It's 1030pm and I've just finished 95% of the packing of the car, we're leaving no later than 5am to start our 2728km journey to see my sister. Added an extra 600km to our trip because I was lucky enough to get Miss Z into a Osteopath that specialises in Children & Babies, and also Cranial Osteopathy She has been recommended to us and not usually able to get into her without quite a lot of notice. Will be great to get her plagiocephaly and reflux looked at. We're away for 9 days and I'm not sure that I'll get to check in until I get home.
Looking forward to catching up with everything. Hope all is well, your bubba's are spoiling you with laughter and love.
Saffi - I started putting DS in his cot for day sleeps for a couple of days, then did one night in his bassinet in his room before putting him into the cot for ALL sleeps. I also made sure I was home for all his sleeps to maximise his exposure to the cot IYKWIM. This is because we had tried the cot the other week & poor DS was terrified of it!! Good luck with it Oh and I totally understand about not having painted - we've only just got his room carpeted & curtains up!!
Melly - hello & welcome!!
Tippy - yeah avy is relatively new, thanks!! Wow sounds like Eli is a great eater so far. Have a great time at swimming lessons - I'm sure Eli will have a blast!!
TK - darl. I hope you get a better response from the 2nd doctor. Is your DP coming with you? Happy 6 months Caitlin xx
AFM - DS is starting RC this morning eeek!! Must go as he is waking up...
Thanks ladies for your support. It means a lot to me... and I am sorry I didn't come in for support earlier... just was not in a good headspace and also didn't really want to admit that something was wrong
I went to the GP and it was a lot better... she listened to me!! This was the first time I had seen this doctor (she is the GP of one of my friends)... I am impressed with how quickly she acted on what I had told her as opposed to my GP (who I have been seeing for 10+ years) who dismissed everything I said.
So I have been referred to the Perinatal Mental Health team, I will be starting meds today (won't hinder BFing which was my main concern) and new GP and I will draw up a mental health care plan today and I will start seeing a psychologist.
DP and I have a long road ahead of us... I don't know if we will come out the other side as a couple or what... but for DD's sake we both agree that we need to be civil.
Happy 6months to my DD!! I can't believe it... we have a clinic appointment for the 6month checkup and then we are going to start solids tonight for dinner... not the optimal time to start I don't feel but it will only be for tonight. I want DP to be here when she has her first try of solids. From tomorrow we will have solids at lunchtime.
tk - I am so relieved that you got a second opinion and that your concerns were taken seriously. And congrats to Miss C! Melly - welcome to the thread. Look forward to getting to know you. Cheezel- daysleeps in the cot sound like a good idea. When I'm done here I'm going to make up the cot!
Solids are going well. Still just doing the RC which she seems to like (?).
Anyway a lot of eye rubbing happening here so going to try to put her down for a nap. BBL.
tk - I am glad you found a dr who would listen to you. Let us know how everything goes (I hope it all works out well).
Grrrr... I am sooo sick of being tired and grumpy and feeling like I want to leave my oldest 2 kids on the side of the road somewhere. They have been driving me to tears for the past week. All I seem to be doing is screaming at them and getting them in trouble - and not little things I can just ignore, but things like pinching, pulling hair (my son) and being extremely moody and throwing wobblies if the cat even looks at them the wrong way (my dayghter). But absolutely NOTHING I do or say changes a thing, they still fight and do naughty things. I am over it! seriously, it is just making me ssooo stressed out that I am not a pleasant person to be around and am starting to overreact to some of the little things that just don't matter.
And if I am being completely honest, I really resent the fact that I am struggling with 3 kids and don't even warrant a second glance, let alone a helping hand from anyone; when my sister who is a single mum to ONE four year old boy, who is in daycare 9-5, five days a week and spends most of the weekends with either his grandparents or his father (while she actually has a life and friends) gets all the attention and support and people bend over backwards to help her because "it's so hard being a single mum". Even if I ask for help (which is very rare) it is like pulling teeth and any concession I get off anyone is like pulling teeth and then I have to listen over and over about how helpful that person is being and what a favour they are doing me.
Sorry this post has just turned into a real rant, but I am just at the end of my tether here. The baby is the only thing that isn't causing me any stress in my life at the moment, and I just want to take Baz and run away from it all and let someone else deal with it for a change. Preschool starts on thursday, thank god for small mercies.
Baz has cut two teeth over the past week, he is enjoying trying them out by biting everything. And he has now started to pull himself into sitting position and is already trying (unsuccessfully) to pull himself up on the funiture.
Misty, just wanted to give you a massive . I am only have one bub so I can only imagine how difficult it can be with 3, especially when you don't feel very supported. Feel free to vent. Take one day at a time and hey, preschool starts soon. Hopefully things will settle down, maybe it is just a yukky week?
TK - Yay for a good Dr. I am so glad to hear of the plan you have in place. Here for you. Also, Happy 6 Months to your DD!!!
MFU - DS is def teething - its driving him nuts. Seems to be in quite a bit of pain, speaking of which I must go and give him some gel. Will be back later for other persies
Rach xx
misty - vent away! I can only imagine how tough it is with 3 littlies at home. My DS does my head in sometimes and he's only home 3 days. I really think SAHMs are unrecognised in the community. There appears to be more support and understanding for the working mums. Its a shame that sometimes we have to fall in a heap before anyone takes our requests for help seriously. Hoping you don't get to that point.
Anyway, M is whinging so might look at a feed and try to put her down for a nap (she only had a few minutes last time I tried).
TK - Im so sorry to hear that you have been struggling, im so glad you were able to find the help you need, and remember... you are not alone...there are so many mothers out there that feel exactly the same way, but unfortunately will never seek help. Good on you for recognising that things werent right and for taking the steps to make it better, i imagine thats the half the battle. Motherhood isnt easy for anyone, and those who claim its all perfect...LIARS!!!! I wish you all the luck in the world hun, and we are ofcourse always here to listen.
Tippytoes - ill see you on friday my darlin'! Cant wait! xxx
Misty - Oh hun, being a mother is a tough gig...beautiful (most of the time) but bloody exhausting! I feel like im yelling at ds1 a lot at the moment too...always telling him to be gentle around bubs, fighting with him to brush teeth, do readers
(homework in general), eat dinner...infact i get arguments for most things! Oh dear, i love the little fella more than i can say, but wow, the arguments are doing my head in!!!! Sometimes I look forward to bedtime for both of them so I can just sit...be still...and breathe!!!!! I have found that now I have more than 1 child, people are less inclined to offer help and babysitting, as more than 1 is harder for them. Im doing so much more on my own now than i ever did before, and i prob need it NOW more than i did before! Anyway...perhaps you can leave the kids with hubby and have a night out on your own, or with some girlfriends, just to unwind and feel like you again, that always helps me. Good luck, and breath, tomorrow you'll probably feel a lot better.
Saffi - GL with the move to the cot. I also started by putting bubs in there for day naps, then made the big move to night sleeps about a week or two later. He seemed to handle the transition just fine (better than me anyway ).
Cheezlemonster - good luck with starting solids. It seems to have come around so quickly doesnt it? I feel like I just established breastfeeding! Time flies!
Ellee - enjoy your trip
Hello to Trish and Megsmum and everyone else I have missed (i know there are others but ive run out of time to read over past posts...sorry ) and a big WECLOME to MELLY!
. I'm so glad you are going to find another GP. As the others have said, motherhood is a massive adjustment and it can be so overwhelming. Throw sleep deprivation and hormones into the mix and it's definitely not a good combination. When I had DS1, DH & I had a lot of arguments, I think parenthood was a bit of a rude shock for DH too. We ended up getting counselling and it was the best thing we could have done. We sorted through our issues and learned ways of dealing better with each other. I'm sorry you are going through such a rough time, I hope you can get the help you need
I'll BBL for more personals...
She has been recommended to us and not usually able to get into her without quite a lot of notice. Will be great to get her plagiocephaly and reflux looked at. We're away for 9 days and I'm not sure that I'll get to check in until I get home.
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