I've got some time to sit and try and catch up with you. I can sit here and read sometimes throughout the day but to sit and type anything decent is difficult. You may find i get to have a good chat to you all on a Mon or Tues when the boys are in day care. I'll do my best to keep up with you all though.
Audax lovely to have you in our group. Love your little ones name, it's very similar to what our girl name was when pregnant with DS2, he was going to be an Elleana (never ended up confirming spelling) if he was a girl. How is she going? Sounds like she's a very content little one.
Butterfly how are you going? The NICU journey is a bit of an emotional rollercoaster, i hope all is going well for you. It would be lovely to have you join in with us so pop in as much as you can to let us know how you little Matteo is going.
Hi Pickety, Connor Matthew sounds like a beautiful little man, things will settle soon i'm sure. Our little girl is called Harper Elsie Mae, she's doing really well and it still feels so strange to be looking into the eyes of a little girl. I'm loving it though.
Jules i just have to say if you keep the attitude you have at the moment, the way you take in the wealth of information (sometimes useful, sometimes not), how you figure out what it may be that you're little one is trying to tell you, how you go out there and seek your own information... all of it, you are going to do a fantastic job at bieng a mother to your little one and help many along the way also. I wouldn't say i'm an expert in anyway even after having three children and i'm sure my Little Miss Harper will have to put up with me still learning things as she grows but that's just what being a mother is, learning and doing what you think is best for your child.
Hi Babyluv congrats on your little princess. Sounds like she was a wonderful size for 39 weeks.
Jules and Pickety, i'm not an expert in any way but what you're describing i remember going through with DS1. Also with DS2 and on occasions with Harper but with DS1 it was this crazy whirlwind of questions, sleep deprivation and frustrations at not being able to settle your bub for me too. Just like there is no instruction booklet out there for us that could ever really prepare us for motherhood i think it's the same for the little ones. They're thrown into a world of lights, noise, clothing on their bodies, warm, cold, empty feelings when they are placed in a bassinette, all these strange things that they too were never told about before they entered the world. So there is so much settling in going on for the both of you right now. So as hard as it can be in the moment what you are going through is something that i have found passes with time. It may be that your little one is cold, hot or hungry or it could be that he/she just needs to be with you to feel safe. I've had my nights with Harper where she'd have nothing to do with her bassinette and i have had her fall alseep with me in bed and then i trasfer her when she's in a deeper sleep. One thing i was told by someone was that you can't establish any 'bad habits' (if that's what you want to call them) in the first few months. So do whatever works and when you do find your doing something you'd like to change some gentle persuasion over a few nights will generally work.
As for me and Miss Harper i do feel pretty relaxed this time, i feed her whenever she wakes or seems to be wanting it. I take no notice of the clock at all. She has heaps of pooey botts so our little routine seems to be she fills her nappy when she wakes up, i feed her one side, change her bott and then feed the other and as long as she doesn't fill her nappy again she's good to go back to bed. Sometimes she goes down really easily sometimes not and that's when i get DH to help me. We bath every second night and the last one she had we had hardly any tears which was nice, we do a bit of a massage with some moisturiser as her skin is so dry and flakey at the moment. We're in Melbourne and the weather really isn't that crash hot at the moment so she's wearing wondersuits and a singlet to bed and sometimes sleeps with a hat on depeding on the warmth in the house. Wrapped in muslin and one or two blankets on top. The MCHN said to me the other day put one more blanket on than you'd think necessary. During the day she's still pretty much in all in one suits, she's got some cute little summery suits that i do hope she gets some wear out of. I was having issues with attachment and still do at times but we're working on it, the main thing is i know she's getting the milk even if she's hurting me and she's 'thriving' from what the MCHN said. During the day she seems to be waking a little longer and looking around with her beautiful eyes, taking in the sights and sounds of her noisey brothers.
I've just seen that Marcellus and Audax have said some very similar things to me so between us all it sounds like we're on a similar page. It really does get easier girls xoxo
I could keep going girls but i'm so tired and i need to get into bed before Harper wakes again, DH is out at his work dinner tonight so not sure what kind of condition he'll come home in. More snoring for me to listen to i'm sure...
Sweet dreams all and hope you have a good night xoxo
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