Aussienic - go the dummy I say. I have been using it with Bronte for those "difficult" times & it is a godsend. DS flatly refused one so I am glad she is taking it. Also, think it's fine for her to fall asleep with it in her mouth. I had one of the more expensive ones & then a midwife told me most babies seem to prefer those cheapo Happy Baby ones that cost like $3 for 2. Maybe stock up on these as well so you have one handy when you need it. Seems like there are a few with settling issues still so good to know we are all not alone.
Hope all the other girls are doing well.