Well girls, I have just discovered that DD likes to sleep so much more if she is on her side. I know you arent supposed to because of SIDS risk but she has such strong neck muscles and I think I am only going to let her sleep like this during the day when I can monitor more what is going on. Still finding it difficult to accept that I am using a dummy as well to settle her, I dont want to end up relying on it and like you said Heaven in my other thread, DP's family are anti-dummies. I spoke to my mum about it and she said thaqt we used them up until about 12months old and then she just cuts the ends of them so it wasnt the same to suck anymore and we lost interest in it.
I was so angry and sad with DP last night. He had lots of jobs to do on his one day off for the week but had promised me some family time....wellI call him as he had been gone for ages and I was loosing it at home and he was at a mates watching the formula one!!! GRRRRRR! I was so upset. He tried to make it up to me this morning and said that he would mind DD so I could go and have some time out of the house by myslef if I wanted (which I took advantage of), he still knows how upset I am about it.
Anyway some personals as I have been so slack lately
Nai- for DD2 rolling over!!! I cant believe how clever she is! Is that young to be doing tha. How is DD1 going? IS she all over her bug that she had? Heaven- How lovely that you are going to have a long weekend away together as a little family of three! How gorgeous. One thin I noticed about going out is how much longer it takes to get organised! I knew it would take longer but I have only ever been used to just getting myslef organised. Its amazing how much a little person needs and requires to get organised and out the door. It will be great for you to have DH there to help and build your confidence. OP- sounds like Isabel likes being a social butterfly! The sleep thing is so hard to get sorted. I have done so many things that I thought I would never do. I feel rather niave (sp?) but I guess it is one of those jobs that is learn as you go. I am going to get that book "The contended baby" (or something like that). Apparently it has good sleep routines and works quite well. Have onl heard good stories about it. Tarkine- Good to hear you are doing better. I find if I need to take the pram to the shops I am better off walking (lucky I am not that far). I find it a bit of a nightmare getting organised with getting the pram set up (my pram is so BIG) and then DD sorted and then the return trip back to the car. I guess with practise I will get better. I like your definitions of a good and a great day! I can relate!! Laura- Great that we are friends on facebook now I hope that Nath does something lovely for your birthday tomorrow. Anyone else who wants to be my friend on facebook can send me their details or i"ll send you mine via PM. It is nice having somewhere else to chat in the event that BB's server is down. Shell- How did Em go with her weight gain today? Hope the appointment went well. I need to make an appointemtn for this week. Kaz- dorry you had a teary day yesterday, Sounds like there were a few of us. I hope the leftie nipple improves. I hate feeding that side as well. Hopefully the expressing will help it heal up properly. I hope the thrush goes away for both of you as well.
Ali - interesting about DD sleeping on her side! Have not tried that with Isabel. I think as long as you're around it should be fine. That's really cr@ppy about DH disappearing to watch the GP. I was a bit annoyed at my DH yest as he actually went to the GP, then came home all grumpy and tired and was really short with Isabel. Like hello - I have had her all day, just because you've been out and are tired doesn't mean you can't help when you get home!
Nai - wow at little Miss J rolling over! She is very advanced That's great! Isabel wriggles but no rolling yet... Hope the granuloma heals up ok.
SJ - sounds like a great night last night! And yay for your weekend away this weekend and have DH there for a long weekend. Sounds fantastic.
AFM - finally settled Isabel last night at about midnight. Got to bed about 12.30am, woke at 6am going "Why hasn't Isabel woken yet?" and went to check she was still ok! She was fine - and then proceeded to sleep until almost 7am
6hrs sleep and I feel like a new woman. I don't know if it is the 6wk milestone thing - but everything seems to be getting easier, feeding is faster, she sleeps better during the day and at a night and is more alert and interactive. She still has unsettled periods but these are outweighed by the good periods
Busy day for us today. Isabel and I went to an Aust Breastfeeding Assoc meeting this morning, was there til lunch time, then went to the local shopping centre and then to the MCHN for six week check.
Isabel has stacked on more weight - another 472g! She is now 5.23kg and 59cm long. This puts her on the 90th percentile for both! Woot!
Nothing else exciting to report. Hi to everyone!!!!!
Sorry haven't posted much and might not for a while...just too tired and all over the place. I've been lurking a bit though. Once I get the energy to post I find that I've missed so much and it's hard to catch up and I don't want all my posts to be all me me me! HA like this one...
Tracey, I don't know you but I just wanted to say that Milana is beautiful and she looks so peaceful in that photo - brought tears to my eyes.
Anyway, I hope everyone is going well and bubs are settling in nicely. I'll try and catch up properly tomorrow.
Hi all, we had a better night last night, hopefully same tonight. Maybe its the lovely lavender massage she gets. Em has done well weight wise, worked out to be an average of 32g a day she has gained.
Tracey- she is gorgeous, thanks for sharing, I am thinking of you and hope you are all doing ok.
Laura- Looks like you made it to yr party! Cute pic.
Tarkine- Try get naps in when ever you can. Your right about getting outside, I feel so much better getting fresh air.
OP- Em won't settle herself either, I wait til she is really sleepy then pat her to try go off to sleep, sometimes works, in the evenings nothing works for long we have to carry her round to settle. Don't worry too much about it at this early stage they'll get there eventually.
Heaven- Yr weekend away sounds nice hopefully will be relaxing, prolly do you all good to get away.
Nai- Yay on rolling, Em is nearly there, tries to roll to her right, never tries the other way tho.
Ali- I can understand you being upset. Men somtimes can be inconsideret without meaning to, he prolly just felt he needed some him time without thinking about you needing some quality family time.
We put Em on her side alot but I put her more towards her back and her arm out so she won't roll onto her tummy. if that makes any sense. She sleeps so much better that way. And don't worry bout DPs family, you need to do whatever you need to do to get thru each day. Whatever works I say.
Holly- Hi. post whenevr you have the energy, hope all is ok and things settle down for you.
Lol I've missed alot desperate housewives writing this post. Em is asleep on my legs. If I lie or sit in bed with my knees bent she sits back in there and I rock my legs and she goes off tgo sleep. Not overly comfortable tho and very hard to type on laptop!
Hi! I am around. I jsut went and spent Thursday night at mums. Then she aksed me if I wanted to go t the beach house with her, so I did. DH met us there. We had a great time.
Got home yest,
I have a fair bit to catch up on, and I will later.
J is still being SUPER clingy. Just dropped him at childcare with him in tears. He also woke up crying last night.
It breaks my heart seeing him upset
"Woe is me" post... went to the Obs for my 6wk check, she checked out my epi and is very happy with how it has healed, but I have other issues down there... I can't remember what the Obs called them but it is apparently due to "over healing" - I have these little pink lumps, which caused the funny smell I had noticed.
Apparently very common, nothing to worry about. But she had to burn them off with a chemical cauterising stick thing... which hurt.
So now I am sore, again. And to make matters worse, she says no DTD for another week.
DH is very upset by this. I know it sounds ridiculous to some of you who aren't even thinking about sex but its really important for DH - something we've discussed over and over and he's really struggling. Sigh.
Guess I'll have to make an effort to be extra affectionate for the next week...
Meg - a stay at a beach house sounds divine! glad you had a good time.
OP - That sucks about you "over healing" - I'm sorry your pain has returned and for you and your DH's frustration.
SJ - How did you express for a week darl? A day and a half did my head in and had me in tears and panicing about not being able to get anything done except feed him, express and then turn around for the next feed!! You deserve a medal mate!!
AFM - Quick question - a few pages back some of you were talking about your bubs who were crying while feeding - so sucking and crying at the same time and jumping on and off the breast all the time. We've had three out of the last 6 feeds like that here today and Mr. J was doing it yesterday in the evening as well - does anyone know why they do it? It didn't seem to be wind and he eventually settles during the feed - usually on the second side. At first yesterday I was worried it was some type of nipple confusion because we'd been giving him half of his feeds from a bottle while I was expressing for 24 hours but he has fed really well since then and is agitated on both sides at times. He is making my fragile left nipple quite sore again! How long does it last?
Kaz- Em still does it and I've found its one of 3 things, a) pain, if I burp her for awhile or bounce her on my lap for awhile she'll feed better, b) If shes been on there awhile and feeding really well I think its cause she has drained it and getting frustrated cause usually then she'll take the other side fine, and c) if she is comfort feeding as she does in evenings she does it cause I think she is full and too much is giving her tummy ache. Its just what I've found since she started doing it so now I can sort of figure out quickly what the problem is.
OP- Sorry to hear bout probs down there, maybe extra cuddles, always other things you can do besides sex. Sex is last thing on my mind! I'm sure the next week will fly by quickly.
Meg- Good to hear from you, beach house sounds great. Hope J settles soon, I'm sure he will. Just hard for you at the moment.
Nothing new here, Em actually settled in bouncer so making most of it. Decided we're gonna try bottle formula tonight and hope she sleeps little bit longer, I need sleep!
OP - can you promise DH a pretty darn good time if he waits?
Kaz - Alex gets fussy when he's been on the boob for awhile and he's overtired, but he's never cried while on the boob - its the only thing that shuts him up.
AFM - Alex slept for 3hrs yesterday afternoon, then kept me up most of the night! Two hours was the max sleep - loads of one hour sleeps. Had to go to the hospital for DH's checkup for the stint he did in hospital early feb and waited three hours to be told nothing to worry about. Alex was a good bubs and was cooed over at the hospital. Came home with one side really hard, and expressed 120ml without any problems, so DH is on one feed duty tonight!
Nai- How clever of Juliette rolling over!!!! Ali- IKWYM, it takes so long to get organised to go anywhere! And just when you think you're ready they need a nappy change or a feed! I give DD the boob to settle her too, lol, no wonder she's such a chub. But sometimes it's the only way, if she's not being fussy that is. Yay for your sis and SIL, what a big help! Holly- lol, I find it hard to keep up too, hope you're feeling a bit better and got some sleep Shell- I hope you got some more sleep last night! Meg- Yay for DH having leave for a month! That will be so good for you! OP- Bummer about no DTD for another week, hope it gets better quick for you! Kaz- Oh expressing for a wk was hard! So lucky I had DH here to do everything else, lol, so I could fit it in. Between steralising and feeding and expressing that's about all I did!! So glad it healed before he went back to work!! I don't know about the fussing at the breast, DD is still doing it and it's so frustrating!! When I went to the MCHN today there were lots of ppl there with bubs about the same age and I heard them talking saying the same thing is happening to them, lets hope it's just a phase. It usually happens on the second side with DD so I'm thinking maybe she's had enough and just wants to comfort suck and the flow is too fast for her coz when she comes off milk goes everywhere. But it's hard to know bc sometimes she's still looking for it so I feel like I'm starving her, lol. But I spose if she was really hungry she would take it.
I also felt exactly the same as you with the settling. After the cs I couldn't do much so DH was doing all the settling and then I felt like I couldn't do it and he could do it so much better. But by the time he went back to work (after 3 wks) I was feeling a lot better and found it wasn't as bad as I thought and I could do it. I was really worried too and used to cry to DH thinking I wouldn't cope with him at work. So try not to worry, you will be fine!! Promise. tarkine- that's great news about your DH!! det- Yay, what a great weight gain!
Went to the MCHN today and DD has put on another 220g this week so going well! Now if she would just quit it with the fussy feeding!!
for DD2 rolling over!!! I cant believe how clever she is! Is that young to be doing tha. How is DD1 going? IS she all over her bug that she had?
The sleep thing is so hard to get sorted. I have done so many things that I thought I would never do. I feel rather niave (sp?) but I guess it is one of those jobs that is learn as you go. I am going to get that book "The contended baby" (or something like that). Apparently it has good sleep routines and works quite well. Have onl heard good stories about it.
dorry you had a teary day yesterday, Sounds like there were a few of us. I hope the leftie nipple improves. I hate feeding that side as well. Hopefully the expressing will help it heal up properly. I hope the thrush goes away for both of you as well.
to AJP, Det, Megie, Ellie, Holly & Tracey
That's great! Isabel wriggles but no rolling yet... Hope the granuloma heals up ok.
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