thanks Jords and Antheia, we live in a unit and the temp is about 24C...so I think a growsuit would be too warm but will most likely put her in a cotton long sleeve jumpsuit with feet, that should do it.
I forgot to mention I cut Sammy's finger doing her nails yesterday...talk about feeling AWFUL...am not looking forward to her cutting and injuring herself, I think it hurt me more than her.
Jords: Sorry Winter is not well, hope she recovers quickly! too funny about the snot...its all very glamourous isn't it!!
I accidently cut Orson's toe while cutting his nails. I still feel aweful about it and it happened about a month ago now. So i know how you feel Moose.
Moose: I'm so glad Sammy is okay and that you found a doctor you like. I'm not overly impressed with the few I've seen since Oliver was born. I'm sure Sammy's weight gain will be fine now that the spewing is under control.
I'm glad your MG is good. How brave of that mum to be so honest - more of it I say! That's an interesting discussion actually - what we've found the hardest transitioning into motherhood. For me... I think I struggle admitting that I don't enjoy every second of being a mummy. I love Oliver to bits and there are so, so many wonderful moments... but then there are times when I am 'going through the motions', and I then feel awful because my heart isn't 100% in it. The other thing I struggle with is that all my friends IRL don't have kids and we now lead very different lives. It's quite isolating. There... honest enough for you .
Oh, and I dress Oliver in a growsuit for bed. It gets cold over night here in Tassie (we've already had a frost!), so I need to make sure Oliver is pretty warm. We need to have a heater on in our room too, just to take the chill out of the air.
Jords: Aww, poor Winter. I hope she gets over her cold soon. I'm sooo dreading Oliver getting his first cold. That must have been awful thinking that your supply was drying up, but I'm sure it wasn't. I've heard that it's very, very rare for a mother not to be able to make enough milk for their bub - it's usually something else going on, like a growth spurt or, maybe in Winter's case, being sick. I hope you got all the answers and advice you needed.
Lol about the snot!!!
Blip: How did you go with the LC? Any luck getting Daz to latch onto the boob? You sound like you have quite a busy week going on with all these different visits! Hope you and Daz are well .
Antheia: How are you and Orson going? Hope you're okay after yesterday and that Orson is feeding better today .
Laura: I hope your little Bella is okay . Thinking of you.
AFM: I haven't been doing a great deal. Have had a couple of 'flat' days actually where I just don't feel my usual self. Oliver has been fine and happy - a real chatterbox actually! He seems to have found his voice - he's been talking my ears off for the past couple of days, lol! I didn't end up going back to the pramwalking group this week, but might again next week. I think it's pretty well come and go as you please, so I'll do it on the days I have the time (and can be bothered, lol).
Haven't started any packing or anything yet, but we're looking at moving early to mid June. First we've got to look at paint and carpet!\
Oliver has woken up, and he's hungry - so better go!
Just had the most fun hour and half, trying to get Winter to go down for sleep whilst still awake. Argh. Ended up calling the local midwife clinic and we are booked in for next wed for a sleep clinic. She sounded a bit narky when I said I hadnt been there before(woops). By my 8th attempt at putting her down after settling her she would start to cry before her head even touched the cot mattress
That is so cute about little Oliver talking heaps! Winter dosn't chat much but when she does its gorgeous! She does love talking to our bedroom curtains though..??!!
As for hardest transition...? I think not working full-time and having the social interaction has been the hardest thing for me to adapt to... Im in your boat Sterla- Im the first of my friends to have a baby(apart from one who I dont see often) so I find it hard as everyone works full time, so during the week I dont really have anyone to catch up with... I would like to find a mothers group but at the same timeI dont know.. its hard to make really good friends iykwim?
I think thats one thing I really love about our group here- there is no first impressions really to go on so its more honest and friendly, if that makes sense?
I ended up "giving in" and feeding Winter to sleep on our bed, poor little thing...
Jords: Try not to worry too much about Winter not settling to sleep on her own yet. I've heard of plenty of other mummies on here who fed to sleep or rocked to sleep for many, many months, and their bubs grew out of it eventually. It's probably more of an issue if it bothers you, than of Winter forming any 'bad habits'.
I know what you mean about wanting to meet new mums, but not... I am pretty shy when I meet new people for the first time, so BB has been a godsend there - I don't have to worry about being shy or making a first impression . Plus, I tend to babble when I'm nervous - when I'm writing I can filter out the babbling (to a point, lol).
Oh, it's so funny with Oliver talking. He had been a bit here and there for a while now - but in the last couple of days he has turned into the biggest chatterbox! Like, seriously, for half an hour or more at a time he'll just lie there talking - to a person, or even just to himself . It's so cute, and it looks like he has so much to say! The faces he pulls while he's talking are priceless!
'bow: aww im thinking of you honey. i hope bella is ok...i hope your ok too
Moose: wow interesting day! what supprise did your DH give you? as for sleeping daz is in a warm jump sute with 3 blankets (well a cotton sheet, cot blanket, cot quilt (thin donner my aunt made him!) and then another warm blaket...the only reason for that many layers is its been REALLY cold. im SO glad he slept with me last night...it was the coldest apirl night on record! it was something like 2deg C or something!
you didnt step over the line. i understaand. this women is just...how do i explain? she's kinda in the same boat as i am - her son was a 'supprise' but...she seems detached. and she expects him to sleep though the night, self settle and just...i guess wake, feed, play sleep. thats it. she was annoied that her hubby always picks their son up...like she didnt seem to talk to her son or play with him while he was awake at MG...i know im on the other side of the fence and im very gentel...but i think all bubs need to be held and cuddled...yes they need 'alone' time (daz gets that for 15mins or so a day if i need to do something) but...babys need people...i watched a show that showed they try to get attention and how it affects them even early on if they dont (as in they withdraw and become really depressed and dont assosiate with people) but thats how i do things, if she wants to do it her way she can. the rest of the MG are a little with her and he methords too...
jords - i guess i had the co-sleeping to cot sleeping made easyer with our hospital stints. but i've found that day time = cot then night time was in bed with me. and now its late night feed - cot- middle night feed = bed with mum. and its working...slowly...but it may be he's in bed with me at night again after what the LC said to me! aww about winters cold i hope she gets better. they do say that a mothers touch can be very healing! cuddle away! no halm in cuddleing is there?
Anthiea & Moose- i cut darrens little finger whilest trying to trim his nales...poor mite didnt ever notice! typical daz!
sterla- im with you i've had a few flat days too. sometimes its going though the motions..then daz will do something and im ok for a while KWIM?
at the LC we tired to attach daz but he was really hungry so it didnt really work...but we're going to work on it! she said a girlfriend of hers had the same kind of issues and by 6months she was fully b/fing - gave me hope! how exciteing looking at carpet & paint. i'll warn you - get a sample of the paint and paint the wall (in a few spots) in the colour you want 'cus sometimes they dont trun out (darrens room was a good examle of that!...it was ment to be a soft yellow but turned into a hi-vis yellow due to the black pigments ...dad thinks it was due to the colour under..dispite the TWO undercotes...)
AFM: went to see the LC today. she's fantasic. she really is. she asked how our stay went in hospital (she admited us..) and i told her and cried. i think it may have been 'cus i was back there again. but she listened. she also told me i was doing good and told me i was going to get there...that the speechie was wrong about the b/f and daz would have more control of the flow with b/fing...cus the only time it dribbles out is with the let down! so i felt better about that. she also gave me a prosription for motilum. she said that its good and it wont make me depressed the other one they use can. she also gave me another nipple sheald to try and help it say on to help darren. i told my LC about the stay in hospital, about the head of nurseing and how she changed things with out talking to myself or DH. and about how she talked to me and guess what? SHE WAS MENT TO CALL IN A DIETITION! i could aruge that she could have endangered daz with the LACK OF FOOD...i think i'll feel better once i write a compaint letter. now i feel valid for being so angry at her! i go back to another LC next tuesday toget another script/ see if i can do any B/Fing and then book in again with the one i've been seeing...she said next time we'll sit down and talk it out because what happend in the paed ward...as she said "relaxed mum - relaxed bub" i better go get the dishes (or some of them!) done before DH gets home. i hope every one is having a good day!
Found out one of my uncles died this evening. He had a heart aneurysm a couple of days ago and never woke up again. I wasn't close to him, but still - very sad. My Dad is in shock a bit I think, as he was only 57.
Ok quick update -
We stayed the night in hospital and OF COURSE nothing happened whilst we were there!!
Although overnight her HR went down to 64 but they told me that was ok???
The paed came to see us in the morning and he said 'look i still have no answers for you but i dont think it is epilepsy because when you pick her up the fits stop. IF it WAS epilepsy nothing you could do would stop the fits'
So i suppose that is a good thing!!!! They are not going to do any tests just yet unless it happens again.
If it does happen again i have to try and record it so they can see what is going on.
argh i hate not being able to do personals i feel so selfish!!! please dont be angry at me
*runs and hides*
ETA- sterla, whether you were close to him or not - it doesnt matter you are allowed to be sad! to you an your family
Sterla: sorry to hear about your uncle, 57 is young and you're definately allowed to be sad. Go for a nice walk by a lake or a nice leafy park if its a nice day in Tas today and have a thought for him I always find that being in a nature surroundings brings me peace and lifts my spirit.
Laura: don't you dare feeling guilty, thanks for letting us know about Bella, glad she is ok and hope it was just a weird thing she's done once or twice and that you won't see it again. We will expect a FULL catch up on personals when she is better :P
Blip: thats so good that you had a decent meeting with the LC, its about time you get some help from NICE people! I'm glad you are keeping hope for Darren, he will be a strong little boy for it, his mummy has worked so hard to make him healthy! About that girl in your MG, she could be having a hard time adjusting to not having her life the way it used to be ..especially if it was a surprise. I kwym though in watching when you just know the bub most likely just wants a nice cuddle. Hopefully, she realises how blessed she is to have a little baby in her life.
Renstar: I forgot to say hi the other day, so glad you and Ava is doing well and I will try my best to pop in the Jan group and say hi as well!
Jords: When are you going to the sleep clinic then? Look, even though it is not IDEAL to feed her to sleep and might create some bad habits, etc etc. if it works for you and it gets her to sleep, well...do it! You definately don't want her to have to be on your boob to suckle all throughout the night though cause thats going to drive you nuts. Go into the sleeping clinic with open mind and even if you only pick one thing that works, hey it was worth it. The EC nurse summed it up quite well when she said about the mum and baby that wouldn't settle well. "Some babies are really good at self settling and some aren't. You're trying to make her fit into a square mold but she is really a triangle, so its not working. Trust your guts and do what works for you both" her little boy did not sleep through the night for 18 months!!
Jords and Sterla: I know meeting new mums may be intimidating but even if they don' turn out to be "friends for life" they give you adult interaction, plus you actually have something in common and living through the same things. Especially if you don't have friends with children who want to talk for hours about how the pooh colour and volume has changed in your wee one or he/she spewed all over you as you were about to go out!! I would strongly recommend you join a MG, its good to see other people and it gives you something to go out of the house. it also gives your bubba a chance to interact with other babies, and trust me in saying, its hilarious to watch them with other babies!
Antheia & Blip: Aren't we just nice cutting our children like that! I had been doing it with the nail clippers heaps of times before, not anymore, gonna use the nail file now.
AFM: Well, Sammy is spewing less and less, so am very pleased about that but what I am even more pleased about is that Sammy slept from wait for it........7pm til 6:15am!!! WOOHOO the last couple nights she had slept til 5 but she pulled a 6am this morning, so fingers crossed, this is it for us. I actually dressed her in a growsuit last night and she didn't overheat, so that's good, thanks for the advice. DH is back at work today so its nice to have the house to ourselves again. better get ready to go for our walk before Sam wakes up. Hope everyone has a fantastic day
Big hugs to you Sterla- death is never nice to deal with, whether you were close or not.
Blip- Im really happy to hear the LC went well, definately wright a complaint letter about your hospital experience- it will make you feel so much better and too if certain people always do the wrong thing but no-one ever says anything than nothing ever gets fixed kwim? People need to be held accountable.
Im so impressed with your determination to BF! You go Mummy! I feel so sad for that little Bub at your MG... I guess every woman deals with things in different ways... at least his Daddy is giving him cuddles.
Raver- Thank You for the update! Bah, it must suck not knowing what caused it. Hopefully Bella stays good.
Moose- Glad to hear Sammy is getting better! I think I might be joining a group, a thread was started on here the other day for BF mums so I might check it out...Our clinic is next wed arvo, I just want a miracle! I told DP too when he got home and it was great, before I really said anything he said he'd take the Afternoon off to come along..I just assumed Id go, but its so great having an active partner.
What are you girls cutting Bubs nails with? We have those tiny mini nail scissors and even though they say 6months up, Ive uses them since birth and they are awesome...
Hope everyone's having a great day, long weekend Yippee as of tommorrow!
'Bow : Aww. i hope bellas ok...i hope she dosent have any more fits!
Sterla : you may not have been close to him but it'd still be a shock for you and your family. my thoughts are with you darlin'
moose: Wow thats a good sleep! well done sammy! glad to see she's doing so well!
AFM: went Back to the hospital today for an appt. with a dietitoin. hes on the 25% now. she was supprised how much he'd gained in 4 weeks, another 800g and hes back on the 50th...she wants me to make strongr forlmuar (insted of 4 scoops per 200ml she wants 5) and a teasoon of formular in my EMB (which bugs me ALOT) so he gains the 800g. honestly im worried about it making daz costipated. she told me that the motilim "wont do much, you need to express as much as possable" that irked me becuase she should try living with daz for a day and see how much time she has! she also said he should be 6kg now too. BUT even her thiory had a flaw. he was longer then he was hevy at birth. so maybe hes not going to 'fit' into their little mathmatical ideas of 'the norm' ... i know i was always a long baby and never a overly fat baby. when i asked her about when i could cut down the formular she said "ohh most likely not untill hes on solids.(i think he'll get that 800g in his own time, he proved it with how much he's gained, even SHE found that he'd not staied on the same line...he'd gone up...ON HIS OWN!) he needs the calories. with the extra scoop of formular..its a WHOLE 4 more calories. i tired daz on the boob last night/thismoring and he takes a few sucks but thats it. so im thinking if i let myself 'fill up' more so my boobs are a little..fuller alsmot engorged maybe it'll help as he'll get milk strait away, see if that helps at all....
I think what bugs me about the fomular in the EMB is that EMB is PREFICT for darren. what he needs and all...why do i need it in there? somethings shouldnt be messed with and i guess as im not overly religous i think that EMB /BFing in sacred and should be left alone, and for the sake of a WHOLE 4 calories. EMB isnt mesured in calories, rather volume...she was nice but i guess i felt a little flat leaving...'cus once again i felt like my milk wasnt good enough...guess im just being overly sensative...
Now i have to go write a shopping list up, we're having MIL & FIL over for dinner!
BLip: If Daz is gaining well on his own with the current formula & EBM, why not keep it this way, it wouldn't be the first time you have defied these ladies! the whole 4 calories may or may not make a difference. Is a hard decision but don't feel like your milk is not good enough. You are doing a great job and A LOT of people would have given up before you and put them straight onto formula so hang in there, he is on the way up!!
Jords: WOOT WOOT! thats awesome about the group, hope you have a good time!
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you may not have been close to him but it'd still be a shock for you and your family. my thoughts are with you darlin'
well done sammy! glad to see she's doing so well!
i tired daz on the boob last night/thismoring and he takes a few sucks but thats it. so im thinking if i let myself 'fill up' more so my boobs are a little..fuller alsmot engorged maybe it'll help as he'll get milk strait away, see if that helps at all....
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