Oh right, thats what i wanted to write.

The other day, we went to Dhs parents for lunch. Whilst we were eating Ben was playing happily on the floor. He was due his solid feed, but didnt seemed bothered, so we thought we would eat first, and then Ben can eat after us. ANYWAY, Dh and i were deep in a conversation together, and Oma brings out dessert. Which was home made vanilla pudding with chocolate shavings through it. She then picked up Ben, put him on her lap, and casually started feeding ben the pudding!! I was really shocked! She was doing this right in front of us. I didnt know what to say, so i shoved Dh to tell her off. He said "maybe thats not a good idea Oma", she ignored him. He said "it has cows milk in it, doesnt it?" and she said "Yes". He said "Babies arent allowed cows milk", she then went on "oh yes they are, its good for them" blah blah. He then said "Dont give him that he will get a sweet tooth", She says "oh, just one more spoon".

This might not seem like a huge deal. But i was so angry. Angry at her, but also at myself, i was too shy and shocked to say something. Plus, he was due his veges, and after that i was anxious he would refuse them. We often leave Ben with Oma, and we tell her over and over "no sugar, so fat, no salt", just give him what we give you to give him. But i always hear little comments from other members of the family "Oh, ben tried my Joghurt, he loved it!" "Just put a bit of butter in his food". I hate it how they just ignore what i say and do what they think is "right". They are no talking about giving him Liver wurst, "You should try giving him liverwurst".

When i was in hospital for a week, and they looked after him, he looked so unhealthy, his skin was all blemished and his hair greasy, he was grumpy all the time...

Ok, so my point it. If Oma will feed him pudding right in front of us, im so scared about what she is giving him when we arent there. You just cant get through to them. Oh it makes me angry just thinking about it.