narelle - if i bite my tongue any harder it will fall off. It's getting to the stage where i even cracked at FIL because he told me to put my toast back because he is going to get bread rolls from the bakers (like EVERY morning). I just told him that i dont want to eat rolls everyday and that it's just too much (it's a special Sunday thing for us). Everything has to be perfect and so proper all the time... I just want to live the way that we live. Not have to run to the bakers at 5am and set the table like a 5 star restaurant 3 times a day - and not have to serve them like a waitress.

We are having no luck with the TT either. I think i need to gather more information about how to do it properly. I bought "the contented toddler years" the other day in desperation for the tantrums, it should arrive in the post tomorrow. I hope there is a section on TT.