Hi girls. This is just a quick one again because Bella's due to wake up any second.

I really feel for those of you in a relationship crisis. I was in one for NINE years! ARGH!!!

My one main piece of advice for ANYONE who is being treated badly (some of you are probably not being treated badly as such, but I'm sure this advice might help anyway) is this: NEVER tolerate it. Doing so will teach your children that it is ok to be treated or to treat others like that and to me, that is not ok.

Also, your partners will keep treating you like that if you LET them. That was my mistake. My ex and I went to counselling (before he became my ex of course, and he only suggested we go because he could see that this time I meant business) and the counselor said that while his treatment of me was not ok, the fact that I allowed it to happen meant I shared some of the blame for some of what was going on. I was so scared of rocking the boat, I just put up with it and in doing so, I just prolonged the pain and gave him little incentive to treat me better. It's silly really. I should've stood up to him long before I did.

It wasn't until I realised that I deserved so much better, that I decided it was time to get out there and find someone who was prepared to treat me like I deserved to be treated. I wasn't taking second best this time, as I had my daughter to think of too, and now I'm with a wonderful man who is as close to perfect as a man could get (well, almost..!).

Also, please remember your children know what's going on even if you don't fight in front of them (and I hope you don't - I have a nephew who's really messed up thanks to my sister and ex bil doing that). DD used to be so much more irritable when I was tense. It took me a while to realise why.

So no matter what your situation is, if it's not making you happy, then your children are being affected. Do something NOW to work towards fixing it...

I hope I've not offended anyone. I really do feel for you and I would hate to go through again what I did back then and if I can help just one person get out of a bad situation (which could include patching things up with your hubby of course!) then I'm going to speak from my personal experience.

On a much happier note, check out Bella's blog (link in sig) to see how our day at Sea World went! We had FUN!!!