Thanks for the welcome. Mummycate, i'm sorry to hear about your relationship, I'm currently "seperated" I left my DF wed just gone, becasue he needed "space" to think about our relationship too. my dad put it very simply, Do you love each other? If the loves is there you can work around anything! We've put our marriage aside also, as I fell PG with Brendan and now we have another... hmmm. DF told me the other day that we are "two different people and it wasn't going to work" Arrrrgh!! Counselling is a good idea, but only if you are both willing to talk about it, have you tried to sit down and talk about things?? I know I'm probably not the best person for advice, my relationship is going downhill, but any advice is better than none!