Catherine - I am sorry to hear that things are that bad. I agree with Michelle and I'd book in to go to a counsellor. But I also agree that no money is worth saying in a bad relationship. Give it all you can to get the relationship back on track and if it doesn't work, then get out while you are still young and before it starts affecting El. El needs to brought up in a loving environment and some times that is better with one parent. There are plenty of single parents out there that are doing it on their own and I am sure that you too will be fine. If anything, you might be more organised, settled and happier. Jayne and I can put our hands up and agree that life can be easier on your own.
Also, your friend that we met up with for coffee that day, the one that was sitting next to you (can't remember her name). I saw her today and was unintentionally rude. Can you please apologise to her for me. It wasn't until after she left that I worked out who she was. TIA