Hi girls, well im extremely emotional today, my little neice was born this morning and its just killing me that im not there (my family lives in NZ)
I cried this morning about it and i just want to cry about it all day, its ripping my heart. I want to take my boy and fly home for awhile, i want my family to meet Caleb and I want to meet my neice Maddison. I feel this horrible ache, almost like she were my own baby and Im not allowed to hold her!
Im not sure what to do with this feeling, i know i really want to spend more time with my boy because of it only because he gives me such joy just looking at his little face but i cant keep him awake forever....
I cant go home, not right now, we dont ahve the money and i have to apply for Caleb to get citizenship in NZ (which also costs $200) cos Australia wont accept him untill he is 10 years old because we are both NZers. and without his citizenship sorted he cant get a passport
my poor hubby doesnt know what to do with me, he cant fix it and thats all he wants to do.....
Sorry I haven't been posting much - busy times for us atm.
My nurse said that at first if you can just get out of your pj's, look after Bub and have a shower & wash your hair or something then you are doing well. That is all I really did for the first 6 weeks or so. I do more than that now but I think for the first month or two you shouldn't expect too much from yourself (nor should anyone around you).
Jo - Big Hugs. Can't imagine how hard it must be for you.
Ren - 100g weight gain for Ava in 1 day?!?! That is FANTASTIC. Well Done to both of you.
orange - We've been sleeping Sam in his bouncer too; for at least 2 sleeps during the day. He just seems so much more relaxed since we've been doing it. He likes to be elevated. And, he has a terrible flat head on one side because he favours that side. In the bouncer he sleeps on the other side so hopefully his flat side will start to disappear soon.
Mel - hope you all stayed safe down there. Sounds so scary.
We're doing well. Can't believe how quickly they grow, Sam was really unsettled for about 72hrs after his injections last week but he is settled again now. Poor little man, it was awful seeing him so unsettled. Saturday he didn't sleep for about 6 hours straight. I was very nervous about that!
Just a quick one to say that I uploaded some pro shots of Dash at 3 weeks in the members gallery....it was hard to choose because I got just over 300 different shots as my friend was practising. Anyway, they were taken just over 4 weeks ago. 2 days after the photos were taken he lost the hair from the top of his head and looked like an little old man lol. It is growing back now but am glad that he had his hair for his photos awwww.
Jo: I don't know what it feels like to not have your family close by but I'm sure it stinks. Hope you get to see them soon....at least Caleb and Maddison will be at the age where they will be able to 'interact' with each other when you do get there....that will be soooo sweet. You might even be feeling a little anxious and protective for the experience your sister had with failed inductions etc - and then not being able to comfort her???? Anyway, I get emotional when a baby is born into our family...it's just a natural response - moreso when you are a mother yourself.
AJC: Sam sounds like a gorgeous boy. We have our needles on Monday so will report back on how we go. Bet those smiles melt your heart!! If you don't mind me asking (nor does it really matter, just curious), is Sam hitting milestones at his birth age or corrected age??
Just a quick update from me, we have had some challenging times over the past few days, Owen does not seem to be liking to sleep at the moment. He was up all day Sunday and yesterday only had two naps of 20 mins and 45 minutes. I've been naughty in terms of settling him to sleep and letting him fall asleep in my arms and putting him in the basinette once he's asleep. Up until yesterday that had been working, but yesterday every time I put him down he would wake up and start crying. I've been bf and bottle feeding due to issues with my supply and we've increased the amount of formula he's getting, so we'll see if that helps any. Once he went down last night woke him about 1.30am for a feed and thankfully he went to sleep again until 5.45am.
Runner - glad to hear Amara has been doing well since you've been home, sounds like you're starting to work things out with the reflux.
Jo- must be hard for you with your family so far away and the issues with Caleb's citzenship would make things worse. My family live over 200 kms away and I have little support here, so must be even harder for you. Do you have a webcam so at least you and your family can see one another?
Well, we're off to the Maternal Child Health Nurse today to check on his weight gain and how his development is going. DH has just told me Owen's woken, so off to feed him.
Shellsie - no we dont have a webcam, im trying to make a dvd for my family though of the footage we have of him so far.
guess what girls, this morning i put Caleb on his tummy and HE ROLLED OVER!!! so i put him back on his tummy againg and he did it AGAIN! I cant believe it, it was so cool and the best part was i was filming footage for my family when he did it! so i have it on video. Im not sure when they are supposed to roll over but it was just so cool to see.
and also last night he slept from 7.30pm - 7.15am only waking once for a feed at 4am, so far i have had a fantastic day!!!!!!!
It is lovely to hear some of you back on the forum. I look forward to reading how everyone is at least every other day if I can.
shellsie - don't feel back about the way you put your bub to sleep - at times when we are just so sleep deprived and cannot stand the crying anymore - we do anything that works.. i understand this!
Ren - I am so happy that the meds are working on Ava. I hope that your nipple heals well soon - it is very painful - I had this with my first born.
Jo - can i please ask - what do you do when your little one wakes up well before the next feed is due? I do try to resettle, but occassionally, it does not work and I want to give up!
Also, we were told by the nurse who came here that Amara needs to go back to bed/sleep straight away for her first sleep of the morning - so, i was told to wake her AT THE SAME TIME EVERY MORNING (between 5.30am and 6am) feed, then straight back to bed.......now we are finding in the last 3-4 days that she is unsettled and cries when put back to bed after this feed. Maybe the routine will just take some more time?
at least she is sleeping in her cot much more often now. Reflux is not too bad, she is having Mylanta on the advice of the nurse. but I have to be SO GENTLE after feeds with her so she does not chuck it all up!!
Orangefeather -t hanks for the advice - yes, we are doing all of that.
Has anyone had a spicy meal lately and found a reaction to bubs sleeping/unsettleness? Boy, did I ever!!! Amara cried and complained about that meal.
I wish I had time to figure out how to change my ticker......... Amara was 4 weeks yesterday...
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Well Done to both of you.
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