thanks orangefeather for your thoughts - I do feel OK using it, but not at night as like you say, who wants to up all the time to replace it? We used it this morning as we were rushing around trying to get relatives to the airport and my son ready for school and that was bad enough - as every time she dropped it, ahhhh......crying.
yes, you don't see children going to school with dummies, it is just the night issue I have. I will work it out I suppose!
Photobooks - ohhh, I so want one!! I cannot do the softwear thing online however, I am just not good with that, and I am also sleep deprived. I mean, I have not even changed my ticker have I and Amara is almost 5 weeks old....tommorrow.
I love this forum too, and agree, we do not judge, as we are all different at parenting and we are all DOING A WONDERFUL JOB!! It not easy, but the most rewarding.
p.s. despite the chaos, I am getting my fitness back really well - went for a 10km run on the weekend and running about 5 times a week. I have also been swimming in the ocean and our pool for 3 weeks now - not public pool yet. hoping to go out for another bike ride too.
Runner, you're amazing! 10kms! Wow!!!
As for the dummy thing, I WISH Jared would take one. I have tried seven different types of dummies (spent $17 on a pack of two that were supposed to be 'just like mum' the other night) and he spits them ALL out! Drives me nuts because he likes to suck to go off to sleep and usually my breast is his dummy
Orange, I agree that it's a nice place here. So many different people and parenting methods and no judging. If only the whole world could be like this!
We went to the community nurse again today for his 6-8 week check. He's even more of an oompa now, 6.2kgs - far out! He's almost off those growth charts. No idea how I got such a big baby! Jared is now the same weight at seven weeks that Ben was at three and a half months. What a chunk! He seems to be having a growth spurt at the moment too - last night he fed at 10pm, midnight, 3am, 5am and then again at 8am. And when he feeds he really, REALLY feeds. Poor starving child - obviously he's fading away to nothing
Runner: Good luck with the dummy issue!! Is it the type of dummy you are using maybe? When I mentioned to a friend that Dash would spit it out she said that I just needed to find the 'right' dummy for him?? There are a lot to choose from but they are too expensive to keep buying them to try. ETA: Dis answered this above!! As for the photobooks the software at bigw is pretty basic and as I mentioned, not too many choices to make. You can save it and take as long as you need to take!! I was tired when I made my photobook and spelt Ziggi's name wrong lol!! Now I have to reprint them. Don't know what I was thinking and I checked it many times he he!!
10kms is amazing - I hate even driving 10kms lol!!! You are very motivated.
Dis: lol at Jared fading away to nothing, poor mite (what a sweetheart)!!
Last edited by LuckyStar; March 10th, 2009 at 02:11 PM.
No dummy here either. DD had one and was so attached we couldn't get rid if it until after she turnef 3! Ned sucked his fingers until 11 months, and H - well I just haven't offered one.
Ruuner - v envious on the 10km. I used to do half marathons pre children and am aching to get back into running. 10km wil be my limit though - have dodgy knees.
Dis - Jared is such a boofa! H is 5.75kg and he was 10pd 2 born!
For all those doing photos and books and stuff - I use an online site that is v good and cheap...not sure if i can mention it here?
H has been much better with sleep. Going down around 8-0pm and sleeping til about 2ish and the wakes again around 5 or 6. Cat naps and feeds in morning before we head out usually around 9am.......bbl Ned wants to eat eggs!
Well 1st i must say if any of you are having trouble getting your child in a schedule or sleep JO is the saviour,i followed her EASY program and went and bought the books Secrets of a baby whisperer,Day 4 and we have an angel now,,,Nixon is sleeping when supposed to(well he generally did)hes in a schedule of some sort,i dont do timetables etc as i think you need to be flexible,i have learned to read his cues and cries,we now have a happier baby who tonight took just 25 mins to go to sleep and today around 10-15mins,unfortunately my compromise is the dummy,we do let it fall out grab it b4 it falls out,we get it b4 the fall goes clunk n rattle n wakes the koala up..
He only has it when he sleeps,not often,only when hes feral,usually he doesnt like the dummy but some sleep times hes does,hes fast asleep with it in his gob right now,,,its soooooo cute!!!
hes fussy with his dummies,will only suck on the avent ones,,hard to get his age group ones,,they all sold out....
oh some A$$hole has just rang my house phone and woken nixon,as if it not important enough they could ring during normal hours,the one night i get him to go bed easy some Tosser rings my house phone,then DH after being told 3 bloody times not to ring,pranks the house phone and wakes him again.....now i have Nixon screaming his bum off and wont go back to sleep
GGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRr some people just dont get that you have a newborn and no you dont want to speak to them after 8pm at night...F!@KERS
Last edited by soniebon; March 10th, 2009 at 08:07 PM.
I still wish I had the time to do some photobooks...sounds lovely, very envious!
As for running 10kms, it felt fantastic to be able to do this again. I am used to running about 80-100kms a week, more if training for a marathon, so 10kms is just a starting point for me - as crazy as this may sound to others. But hey, we all have our passions and talents and I just wish I could sew or navigate softwear like many of you ladies!!
Sleeping and Reflux - yeah, I think Amara does have reflux, but not overly serious, but it does affect her sleeping - she is great today SO far - even after some chucking up milk and fussing at the breast.
thanks for your stories about dummies - have hardly needed ours in the last 2 days - don't use it at night at all YET. We got the cheapest ones - happy baby or something.
question for you all (which may sound silly!). When do you know for sure that your little one wants to feed in the middle of the night?? Can you hear a sucking sound or does he/she start to cry or wimper? Sometimes I am about to feed Amara and then she goes quiet and sleeps some more.......
Runner, J sucks on his fingers when he's hungry and makes his "I'm Hungry!" noise as well. He usually makes the noise for a while, while I'm in bed in denial, and then when I hear him sucking away I force myself to get up and feed him
We went to Lollipops (indoor playland) today with some friends from Ben's mum's group. Haven't been since B was around 15 months or so and it's SO much better now. J got lots of cuddles and B ran around like a nutter - now they're both asleep. Maybe I should go there every day...
runner-if u have her on a schedule then u will know when her feeds are,roughly around 3-4 hourly,some babies do sleep longer between feeds,nixons formula fed,he has dreamfeed 11-12 midnight,then around 3-4am then 7-8am,all depends when he hungry,he sucks n mouths n cries so u kinda work it out,in our case the dummy gets a workout when he has it so u know he hungry,
Jo from our site here put me onto 2 books called secret of the baby whisperer,its a bible,teaches u everything n what their cues n cries mean,feeding,sleeping u name it...i cant speak high enough of it,helps u get things figured out real quick and some structure without strict routines..
in the end u just do what works for amara,reflux can cause them to want to feed more often etc,im no expert but my friend having breastfeeding and reflux issues
thanks ladies for your replies! So great that I can always have you guys to ask!
Amara is fully breastfed as you know, and is on a routine so to speak. I feed her around 6.30 - bath, wrap and then the other breast at about 7pm. She has been then waking around 12 midnight - one night went to nearly 2am! But usually midnight, then again around 3.30 to 4am. I wake her up at 6.30am (which suits me fine, as I run early in the morning and plus my son is up then too) and feed her again before heading out for my morning runs.
I am going to start giving Mylanta a better go...when she seems distressed at all, and not waiting until she is REALLY distressed. It seemed to work today - much more settled.
thanks for the tips re waking time at night and feeding - just go by your instincts I suppose - and I know what you mean about lying there in denial - who wants to get our sleep deprived bodies up - especially night after night. I also have to express each breast before i feed at night ............to get rid of sugary first milk (by advice). very tiring.
things will get better, so far not as bad as it was with my first born..and she is such a beautiful little girl (I am so biased of course!!)
runner - Ella too is fully bf and her routine is very similar to Amara's re the waking at midnight and again at 3-4am - like Disgirl i usually wait till i hear the sucking noises unless she is really crying out!
Re the dummy - i've tried Ella with it but she just spits it out - will suck on it for 10mins tops if im lucky but she's not really a dummy baby i guess?
Hi everyone, have not been on in a while as sharing the one computer with DH and he takes it during the day and at night I am too tired. Have been keeping up with you all via the posts going to my email.
I just read the email from yesterday and it was funny as you were talking about dummy use and I had only minutes before decided to give Emily another try with it as she is having trouble settling. Runner: We were talking at mothers group today about dummies and they suggested that we use the dummy until they fall asleep and then take it away (to save the dummy fallling out leading to crying situation). Emily used to always spit it out and gag but with a little persistence she took it tonight (but has just spat it out and started crying again -DH currently trying to get it back in). We figure if it helps to settle her then it is worth a try but if she does not like it better for us. Oh and they also said at mothers group that as soon as they start playing with it (taking it out by themselves..it is time to take it away completely) not sure how that would go but something to consider when the time comes.
We are going pretty well with Emily she only wakes once at night for a feed and breastfeeding has gotten easier and easier. Settling can sometimes be really hard and we have been cuddling and rocking her but are thnking we want her to learn to self settle so now trying a few things now that we have adjusted to life with a baby.
Sorry for no personals but will try to get back in more often.
runner: I just wanted to ask you whether you think running impacts on breastfeeding. I am really keen to start running again as would like to do City to Surf this year (August). Do you have any advice for me? I know I need a good bra as even walking fast feels uncomfortable.
me-lisa-the dummy is the bane of my existance atm,,,my boy will not settle so we have to get dummy to help.we try pull it out when he asleep as when he falls asleep with it in his mouth sometimes it works,other times when it goes kerplonk and hits the mattress all hell breaks loose!!! we are really having issues with the self-settling,mainly between 7-10pm, thats our witching hour/hours,no matter what we have tried it still goes on for 2 hours ish...last nyt he down in 15 til someone rang,tonights phone on silent....has anyone ever been sleep school??????????? only to iron out the self settling issues as he a good sleeper when he is asleep...
anyway im off,we have had 10 mins so far crying his eyeballs out....lol soooo cruel but i gotta do the techniques to settle
my boy when he does go to sleep.has dream feed at 11 or 12,then feed around 3-4am then up at 8am.....no sleeping through the night,im sure if he knew how to settle he would....bloody little koala...definately nocturnal hehe
oh yeh ps.b4 the p.s- i got him to sleep within 30 mins tonight,dummy in tow!!! not game to go in just yet and pull it out..
p.s sorry i think im repeating myself....mumnesia!!!!!!!
Last edited by soniebon; March 11th, 2009 at 07:49 PM.
No personals this morning.....just wanted to stop and say.... I got my AF back today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What's worse is that I only stopped bleeding/spotting post pregnancy 3 days ago (yep at 8 weeks). It is really heavy and it sucks. I am a bridesmaid on Saturday so now i look all puffy and bloated (well I already did...just worse iykwim). Oh the joys!!
Just a quick post to say hi all, I'm still here. Fin is doing really well. Not a single complaint. He Sleeps from 11 - 4 then 4 -7 during the night. We use a dummy but have a rule if he spits it out three times he doesn't get it back also we never put it back it after he goes to sleep once. I might change that if he stops sleeping well. During the day we BF taking no longer than 30 min, play for as long as he wants, sleep.
I'm loving having DH home one day a week, takes the pressure off and I can sleep in, Still not a morning person.
i got AF back too 2 days ago...i rang my obs and said im bleeding is this normal,he laughed n says yes its ur AF...well it was a shock after not having it for near on 11 months....if you breastfeed it takes longer to return..
another good night out of nixon,dreamfeed at 11pm,then he woke cos he broke outta swaddle,back to sleep til 3am,then fed and back to sleep til 630,had a feed was hungry,then back to sleep til 830am,feed and now back in bassinette for morning sleep,,hes farting around a bit but will drop off,i find his tired cues happen around the 50 minute/60 minute mark,hes yawning and staring and fiidgeting then,if i dont get him down then i pay for overtired cranky pants....
i so want to go back to sleep,need to do something bout my low iron as i feel so sick,,today esp as its pouring rain and the sound on the roof is nice,been a long time lemme tell ,i could lay here in bed all day listening n chilling,,
Tonight im going to visit my old workmate who had her baby,shes the 3rd last one of our 11 pregnant people we know,after her 2 left
am i the only one whos kid is not sleeping/feeding thru the nyt for more than 3/4 hours??any suggestions.do i just put dummy in when he wakes n see if he nods back off b4 giving him a bottle at 3am as he is having dreamfeed around 11pm?
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