Babies Born January 1st ~15th 2009

[MummyDeb]

Hey girls

Well my aunty has lent me a medela swing pump! It belongs to her daughter in law and she is very happy for me to use it for as long as I want! I used it earlier and it worked really well although my supply seems low again, I only got out 80mls from both sides, it prob was only an hour and a half after Harley had a feed, and I have been drinking plenty of water. So might have to get the fenugreek. Would love to keep up the bf!
Harley was 3.6kg yesterday and the midwifes are very happy with him. I was discharged from the program I was on and now will have visits from or to the Child health nurse for all checkups etc. So happy about that!

I've noticed that while bf or expressing, I get like a period pain, its not the after birth pains cos they have been gone a good week and a bit, but is this pain just normal while still bleeding? I know my flow is stronger while expressing or bf. Just hope its nothing to bad, if it gets worse I'll see my doctor.

Hope u girls in Vic are coping with the heat, its not nice at all! Its been a nice day here in Brissy!

Well Harley is starting to stir so better go get him a feed. Think he has had a growth spurt today cos he was feeding off and on all morning until he finally went to sleep until now!

Take care girls and hope u are all well and enjoying ur beautiful bubbas!!
Deb

[seenabeena]

I've noticed that while bf or expressing, I get like a period pain, its not the after birth pains cos they have been gone a good week and a bit, but is this pain just normal while still bleeding?

Don't know if it's normal, but I am having the same pain and was wondering about it too. I haven't been on for ages and you girls have been busy since I last caught up so I won't be doing personals sorry. My daughter has turned into the opposite of when she was a newborn. She now likes to be swaddled, is not doing well on the boobs and is awake during the day instead of the night. For some reason she is not getting enough milk out of my breasts so I have started expressing for her. Anyway she's awake AGAIN so must go.

Hope you and your bub's are all okay.

[visitor1]

All good here. Zachery was also weighed yesterday and like Harley...is now 3.6kg as well! He is still a good sleeper....loves his booby (EBM) milk, he has 2-3 bottles a day of 100ml...and the rest is formula. I have to say this heat isnt making him a happy camper....was so unsettled before i bathed him and then he was my usual blissed our lil tike

Deb when im expressing i get pains too...i think the uterus is still contracting a bit. I find also when im expressing one side..the other bb starts to get a shooting pain!

I can get around 100 mls each expression and i do it so over the place....maybe once every 5-6 hours....or when i get around to it..LOL

[plc1805]

Hi girls - just popping in briefly too I'm afraid - sorry it's been a while. So hot here - poor little miss is just in her nappy and has been on the breast a lot of today. We've stayed in just to keep cool. She is doing well overall - has put on 600gms just in the past 2 weeks and grown 3.5 cms. Must be doing something right with bfing (I tell you, if you knew me when I was having trouble bfing my son, you would understand the irony now - lol!).

I also now get the pains (both tummy and bb) while bfing even tho they had stopped for a while.

big hugs to you all - lots of cuddles to your babies.

[puppies]

Hi yummy mummies,
I have had a tough couple of days with depression and anxiety. I have a mental health nurse coming to visit on Monday morning. I have been getting anxious about each fed time cause then I know comes the possibility of screaming and crying due to wind, settling and generally I just freak out when he really gets going. So much so that even when I finally get him settled and asleep I have been pacing the house anxiously waiting for the next feed. Its been really debilitating. I had a chat with my mum a week ago and that I really need her. things have been hard between us for a few years now but enough is enough. So she spent yesterday with me and I broke down into tears as I bought a sling thing for me to wear with JD and when I got home DH almost had him asleep so I thought it would be a excellent time to try him in it. But it scared him so much he started screaming and I just panicked and began feeling really devistated in myself for being so stupid and upsetting him like that. It didn't take long to settle him down again, but I spent the afternoon on the floor crying my eyes out for being such a crap mother.
Anyway, eventually I snapped out of it and I realised that I am just scared of hurting him, or breaking him or stuffing him up in some way. I have always been pretty clumsy and hopeless with important things and I guess I am just terrified that I will break him in some way and that breaks my heart. I have almost no confidence. But last night I got so ****ty at myself for being such a sook and I kept saying that he is only a baby, how can I be so scared of a baby? I have broken in young horses and even a brought up and trained a young colt of course I can handle one little baby! I am still trying to keep myself strong and determined to not be so scared and anxious but i can still feel it inside of me but hopefully each day that I get by and not HURT him the more confident I will get. Last night while DH was at sport I even made a bath and jumped in it with JD and he loved it! It was the skin to skin that I think we both really needed and I am going to try and do it again this week.

Oh man this mother thing is so hard, but like anything new like starting a new job there is a time of transition before you start to feel like you know what your doing. I have never been good at that part and always want to on top of things and confident right from the beginning, but I have always lived in a fantasy world in my head and this has certainly brought me crashing back down to earth! I just pray that I stay strong and each day just gets better and better for me.

As for BF, it seems I am loosing my supply probably because I am feeding him formula as well. He seems to like the formula better. Certainly keeps him happier for longer. I love BF, I don't have any problems doing it but bottles are easier so I just express once in the morning and once in the evening and thats about all I get out of my BB now. But I am not worried as long as JD is happy then so am I.

Have a good day everyone.

[visitor1]

Amanda huge hugs hunny. Having a baby for the first time is damn hard. Its scary and exciting at the same time. For me, i have PND, i feel your pain and your worries. Im glad you have some help coming your way on Monday, thats excellent your reaching out. If you ever need to talk PANDA are great, or Beyond Blue as well.

It seems alot of babies settle better on formula. I know Zach does, simply because it fills him up more and i can get a good 3-5 hours between feeds.

[Sair]

Anyone want a baby? I have one on offer! JK!

Amanda I totally feel you, I have an oversupply as well as too strong of letdown and a foremilk/ hindmilk imbalance. As a result I get a baby who screams at the breast, chokes while he feeds, screams if he is not on the breast because of his tummy pain and wants to feed every 30 mins to an hour and usually mostly at night when I want to sleep. I gave him a bottle of formula just before bed and got 3 hours out of him! I am trying to reduce this supply of mine but don't have the sanity left to wait for it to work. I hope the nurse works well with you to find some coping stratagies, it is really hard being a mum and I don't think it gets easier with each one so far. You sound like you are doing a great job so far, and don't give up on the sling just yet, maybe try it in a few weeks and see how you go then.

Kim, is your PND ongoing or did it start up again? I have moments of it coming and going, usually with situations that make me anxious like going somewhere or trying to organise dinner, feeding Xavier etc. Is your DH back at work now? 3.6kg! They grow up so quickly don't they?

Ack!!!! So much for personals, I have a toddler trying to torment a baby and bash my keyboard while I am shouting time out at him

Xavier got weighed yesterday and has gained 500gms making him 4.3kgs now, time to pack away the 0000's now So yeah, worked out I have oversupply, signed up to ABA and ordered the booklet Too Much, hopefully I get some good tips out of it, atm just feeding on the one side for 5 hours or so letting the other get engorged so it sends the signal to the brain to slow production, then I swap sides. I am just at high risk of blocked ducts and mastitis from doing it :s.

Hugs to everyone else, hope everyone is settling in well. BBL to re-attempt personals.