Babies Born January 2008 #9

[Billy Ocean]

Hello again

Have the previous posts been deleted?? I meant to reply yesterday but got busy and didn't get a chance to until now.

Cherryblossum, once we get to a certain number of posts in one thread, they start a new one. There is a link to the previous thread in the first post of this new one. Hope that helps.

[maz]

karen - maybe you should come over to the breast feeding support forum. Barb is over there to offer great advice and the girls over there are all in the same boat. there is also a forum for gender dissapointment here on BB as well.

I think its lovely that we are so passionate about things but sometimes when are views are read by others, they dont come accross the way that you feel. Bit of a double edged sword.

We really need to be understanding of each other's feelings, whether we are mum's already or first time mums. There are a few girls here suffering from PND. I myself wouldnt feel comfortable if I made someone feel worse about their mothering skills.

I personally get upset with simple little things as my little man has cerabal palsey. It is very hurtful to read how well everyones children are doing when you know your child is delayed...yet I know that no-one is trying to hurt me and its my own stupidity that allows me to feel this way. Its then that I step away and go into other sections in respect to the other girls. Everyone here has been so supportive of us and I want to thank each and every one of you. I have days were I read posts wrong and could go of the deep end at the poster but I know my better judgement that the girls have written what they have out of support not to be hurtful or tackless.

[Mads]

Good morning everyone!

Hi to Cherryblossom welcome! As I have said to Lunesoleil I love the name Amelie!! It was on my shortlist (we went for a family name instead!!) She looks beautiful.

Deep breathe and release the tension in here.....!

I am a proud breast feeding mamma and I know exactly how Karen feels in terms of sadness in slowing down feeding- actually it was my comment that started the whole discussion a few days ago! I have been made to feel bad about being able to breastfeed at times. Even here in this thread when everyone was having troubles, I felt completely unable to even mention breastfeeding and this saddened me. But I did not take Kates comments in the same way as Karen, I appreciate that she was referring to the fact that our journey changes and our bubs will be requiring us for different purposes from now on!! Thats exciting for us first time Mums- we really have no idea what we are in for......!!

I have a mothers group where 5 of us meet, all first time Mums all breastfeeding and it has been great, but we still do things slightly differently anyway- routines, comp feeding, solids intro, I demand feed. It is still so diverse but supportive. Its really great to see how others do things.

Now, what was it in the last thread I wanted to reply to...
Oh Punky, I hope you are doing wonderfully and have stopped freaking your mum out. I have seen Addie lying quite still with her eyes open, when she is very tired, but luckily I have been nearby at the time- instead of walking into the room and seeing her like that. It would freak me out too.

Forgot to say I went to the Baby, pregancy, child expo here in Brisbane last week it was really good but very tiring for Addie, she got way too overstimulated.


Anyway, fly home to Brisbane later today, holiday over! Will chat later
Hugs
Mary and Addie

[hindonly]

Ditto Jen Exactly what you said. Kate hasn't a mean bone in her body & certainly wasn't trying to make it sound the way you took it Karen... I do a bit of both bottle & Bf & I know what you are getting across
There is certainly such a closeness that can be felt whilst b/fing & I guess this is why I decided to do a bit of both rather than just go with the bottle. And hes quite happy with the arrangement too!LOL.

Deep breathing ladies We're all friends here & certainly no one wants to offend the other I'm sure. Things can be taken out of context easily when you aren't face to face with someone!

Take it easy

[Tascha]

Hello to all the lovely mumma's and bubs,

Breastfeeding for me and Joshua is almost a thing of the past. I noticed while overseas that he just wasn't happy anymore with a boobie feed. I tried really hard to keep going on just the breastmilk. It sure was not my plan to need to look for solids and formula in a country where I was not familiar with the products. Joshua was asking for food almost every 2 hours. DAY or NIGHT. So by the time we where in our last 2 weeks and in Dubai with my parents I called it enough. I was exhausted and just generally OVER IT! I love to feed him as mother nature intended, and after all the problems I had with it in the first 3 weeks... (no thanks to the breasfeeding nazi's !!!!) I feel truly blessed to have been able too. As I wished to do for so long.

So when the little man was 4.5 months old he got his first solid feed of rice cereal with formula. And I haven't looked back. The little trooper LOVED it soooooo much. He ate a HUGE amount the very first time!

As the weeks progressed I am still feeding him breastmilk. Just very little. And I will keep giving what I got for as long as I got it! I feel the loss, but more in the way that the little man is growing up. I am liking the freedom of being able to go out without a 4 hour MAX window. (could not express enough) But the extra work of cleaning and disinfecting bottles is sure no fun!

I have been a firm believer that every mumma and bubba have their own right to choose their way. BF or FF... its really no-one else's business. We all have our opinions, and ive had my fair share of people who put their opinion on me. I respect them for having it, but went the way that felt right for me and my baby in the end.

Sorry for the soapbox moment. But as ive read in previous posts.. its a sensitive issue.

[Tascha]

Wishing Mary and Addie a safe flight home!!! We missed you!! Look forward to catching up over that cuppa really soon!!

Hugs Tascha and Joshua

[maz]

to change the topic now

Happy 6 months to my little guy Mateauz!!!!

I love you to the moon and back little guy. YOu make waking up in the morning such a delight with your ever present smile and laughter. I love the way you flap your arms and legs in excitment when I come near you and I love the wya you grab my face and kiss me with your big open mouth.

I also love the fact that your proving the doctors wrong everyday.

Stay strong little man

love your mama

[cherryblossum]

Hi to Cherryblossom welcome! As I have said to Lunesoleil I love the name Amelie!! It was on my shortlist (we went for a family name instead!!) She looks beautiful.

Thanks But i think she's going to have to spell it out to people a lot because I often get "Emily"? when I tell people her name!

Mmm....wow i haven't been on this thread all day and there's been a lot happening...I'm not sure how all this get started before I open my big mouth, but anyway..

About going on solids...Amelie seems to be the youngest bub here being born on the 30th Jan. I haven't started her on solids yet, but I'm kinda half looking forward to it because hopefully she will gain some weight!!

Someone said that you shouldn't be so by-the-books about weight gain, but there's a reason why I'm especially paranoid about her weight gain.. this is because when she was born she was 3.3 kg. the nurses told me to "demand feed" whenever she seems hungry, which was what i did, or at least I thought I did - I was looking out for her hunger signs but I must have missed them or something??? she was sleeping a lot during the first 2 days. anyway, the day after we came home from the hospital, she had to be readmitted to hospital again, due to jaundice which resulted in her losing more than 10% of her birth weight (she was down to 2.95kg). she had to undergo phototherapy for the jaundice, and she was put on a strict 3 hourly feeding schedule 24/7.

so the point is that, after that happened, I lost all confidence in me as a mum (first time or otherwise) and to make sure she gets enough to eat, i stopped demand feeding and started feeding her at every little sign of hunger (ie, every little sound, LOL), and if she doesn't give any signs when 3 hr's up, i feed her anyway.

I think my bub's just got no appetite?? She seems happy all the time, rarely cries, and doesn't seem hungry all that much? I tried "demand feeding" a month ago again, but after about 5 hrs, I gave up and fed her, because she didn't seem to want to feed!!!

I'm not that petite (168cm, 55kg pre-baby - not telling my weight now ) and neither is DH, but maybe our bub is just going to be small? Maybe she'll grow later...

OH, HAPPY 6 MONTHS MAZ's LITTLE MAN!!!

[Billy Ocean]

Hi Cherryblossum! This thread isn't usually like it was yesterday, rest assured...

Just with regards to your bub and demand feeding... My Billy (who was born on Jan 24th) lost 15% of his bodyweight after we came out of hospital. I was so upset. We couldn't work out what was wrong but as it turned out, I had no milk! It was due to massive blood loss during the birth or something, so we had to go onto formula, after trying to increase milk supply by expressing, medication etc.

Anyway, Billy could go for ages without wanting a feed. Sometimes I worry but the MCHN has told me not to. As long as they are gaining weight and doing ok, it doesn't matter. He is still only having the amount of formula that it says on the tin a 4 month old would have but they reckon it's ok.

Neither myself or my partner are at all petite (in fact, I think I fall into the obese category.. LMAO) but Billy is little. He's long but lean.

I wouldn't worry yourself too much as long as Amelie is going ok.

[_JeSs_]

yes this thread is usually very NICE hehe!

jo i think she might have been talking about what i said hehe BUT ANYWAY with all that sorted out im back!!

welcome cherryblossom! im sure your doing great as a mother!!! jay was like that in the hospital, one night he slept for about 7 hours, and the nurses pretty much told me off for not feeding him like every 3-4 hours... hello he was asleep and didnt make any noise for me to wake up, what was i sposed to do, just stay awake all night... you prob dont have to feed her every 3 hours now, jay sometimes goes 4 or 5 hours in the daytime without a feed and then sleeps for about 7-12 hours at night !

isnt it weird how our babies weight are different to ours? im not that fat LOL, was about 65kgs pre baby and ditto cherryblossom im not saying my weight now either hehe... but yer jay was 9lb1 when he was born and is a pretty chubby baby! weird isnt it

well im off to do some housework i think!

[jenjams]

hi Cherryblossum and Amelie. I love that name.

I agree with the other girls as long as your little girl is happy then bugger everyone else. They are all different. My Amber was born way overdue and was 10lb 4 (I had the biggest baby!) DF and I are both tall people and I am solid. Amber was following the 90th-97th percentiles for most things til her 4 month checkup. She is now back to the pack in weight but is still tall. She feeds 3 hourly during the day but overnight she goes about 10 hours.
She is nearly 5 months and we started solids yesterday. She was reaching out for our food so we think she is ready.

Amelie has so much hair too. We are jealous! My little girl if follically challenged at the moment but her hair is getting thicker slowly (apart from the bald patch on the back) and it is getting redder.