Oh Jaspen I can clearly see that's all way too much to take on board. You will just have to tell your DH "No". Don't give a reason, just tell him that you can't do the least important (you choose) and say it can't be done. Don't let his annoyed response put you in a bad mood... just quietly stand your ground. Is the person at the airport capable of getting themselves to your house? Can they catch a taxi? To me that would seem the most time consuming aspect of your day that really doesn't need your personal attention (like the care of your DS does).

My DH is more likely to say to me these days: "No, you can't do it" because I often try to take on too much and then things go wrong and then I spit the dummy. Last night he had to tell a friend (who is forever calling us to see what we are up to and then somehow the only option that seems to work if we want to catch up with him is to cook a meal for him here... he has never cooked a meal for us... and his bachelor pad isn't suitable for our children to hang out in).... anyhow DH had to tell this friend that we couldn't do dinner that night... just too much on.... and for some strange reason we feel bad. When I think about it it's crazy! HE rings up every six months or so and it always results in HIM getting a free feed while we have to do: extra shopping, extra cleaning, extra stress keeping the kids happy and well behaved and extra tidying up. Pffft stuff that for a joke. So unless you actually define your boundaries people will always assume you can take on more and more and more. Some people will just never get how much having a baby to look after impacts on your ability to get other stuff done.... they are not like an extra hand-bag which can simply be picked up and carried arund while you do stuff. Good luck Jaspen... let us know how it goes.

ETA our bathroom is a pigsty too IK but DH knows by now that it's a low priority... HOWEVER I am right at this moment tidying up my Messy Table (piccy on my website) because my BIL is coming over this afternoon... better get back to it.