Babies Born June 2006 #2

[Coolabahdee]

My goodness, I agree no more belly aching about being bad mothers, you certainly are not!! These little pepole are exhausting, they are very demanding and they will take up 99.9% of your time. So chin up, you are all doing great. Misskel is right they don't come with a manual or a remote control for that matter. Misskel you cracked me up, lol. And I agree it should be known as the "Babies who were MEANT to be born in June" !! Jess you are one of us, and don't think differently, OK, good.
Now a message for any unsupportive misunderstanding daddies out there. Get over it, if you think its messy clean it up yourself, if your hungry get yourself something to eat. Mothering at this stage of the game is a definate 24 hour job. In a few months time things will have settled and baby will be content rolling around the floor while a bit of housework/cooking gets done.
What men have to understand is that just because you cut the cord doesn't mean the babies are no longer attached. We are the only mammals to cut the cord and chuck the babies out on there own and expect them to cope. It doesn't work that way. They need us, we are their food and their soothing comfort and their warmth we are their mummies and they need to be held and soothed and slowly encouraged to fend for themselves. The strength of this attachment doesn't last for that long. the house work will keep.
I'm lucky or should I say DH is lucky to be so supportive and understanding and wouldn't dare have a go, if I gave him a chioce between doing dishes or dealing with a screaming newborn, I know what he would choose. lol.
I have been so thankful for the school holidays, my girls have earnt some mega pocket money doing chores for me. So the house has been kinda clean, it's not perfect but it will do. But who cares if it is a mess. Thats what is great about large families everyone pitches in and things get done. But if you get the kids to do jobs you have to be prepared to accept a less then perfect attempt and praise them for it.:eek:
Slings, I love my sling I have a baa baa sling, it is brillliant and he loves it as much as me. With two todlers and a newborn it is important to have both hands free. I recommend buying one. lol, I sound like a commercial.lol.
Spewy babies, I got lucky on that front, so far so good, although at times he likes to hold on to his wind.
Enigma oohhhhh, babe, such a shame, the discomfort goes within a week you wiggle your toes and count to ten and the discomfort fades, if it doesn't then bubba isn't attached properly. Definately not a put down though darl, it is your choice, I have done both, I just find breastfeeding so lovely and not to mention cheap and convenient, lol.

Sorry big post, but I haven't been around much, been busy for some reason, lol.

OK just a quick vent, Usually I will just smile a go along with a conversation with a stranger so as not to be rude even though they may be being rude themselves and holding me up. But.... Yesterday I went over to see my Sister for her Bday but first had to go shopping and pick up a pressy for her. So I drove over to Moranbah and went to Target for a pressy and Coles to shop. Now I was by myself with all five children, on a busy Saturday morning Bub cracked up so I was pushing a heavy trolley sigle handedly and breastfeeding, (Forgot the sling, d'oh) baby and DD1 pushed the other trolley with DD3 and 4 in it., She did a great job following me from aisle to aisle, and went as fast as I could as DD3 and 4 were getting hungry and tired and were starting to play up. I was in the personals aisle in front of the tampon and pads section as I needed some supplies, when this woman, an older lady mid 40's with her 2-3 year old daughter was trying desperately to engage me in a conversation, "Oh he's a newy," Ohh look at the baby", "Would you like mummy to have another one of those" 'Would you like to see the baby" "You do, ok lets look at the baby". I was not in the mood to be nice and obliging, I was in a hurry, I was breastfeeding and pushing a trolley and rounding up the other four children to keep up, I stopped for a moment to get some more pads. This rude woman grabbed my arm(my breastfeeding side arm), so as to turn me around so that I could show her and her daughter the baby. She said "ohh how old is he 4-5 weeks", I was frowning at her and said abruptly, "no he's 2 and a half weeks" and turned my head to indicate her to the other four two of which were squabbling with each other (miss 1 and 3) and said" and I am extremely busy, thank you. Picked up a packet of pads and Said "Come on girls, let's keep moving) I felt very rude, but at the same time who is she to ignore my body language and the fact that I was trying to ignore her and grab my arm so that she could see the baby. You get comments all the time don't you, and I really don't mind, and am very flattered when people comment on my babies and I like to show them off but to physically grab me is not on. Particulary when I'm breastfeeding.
Grrrrrrrr, Vent over. ahhhhh I feel much better.

Ohh Bath I'm so jealous, I wish I could meet you all. But I live a long, long way away from anywhere, lol.

[Smoke Jaguar]

I didn't even know about the BB night! Probably still wouldn't have gone - we had a dinner invite, but I think I'll be up for the next one!
My mum left just before to get back to the country - she is really pained now when she has to leave Oscar, what a turn around! Unfortunately, now she's taken to saying that she's a bad mother I hate when she continues to punish herself, instead of just learning and moving on. She's been the mother I want her to be since she came to see Oscar and she's still punishing herself???
BFing is definitely improving - last night I had an attachment on one side that was textbook! It hasn't been perfect since then, but I have that one successful feed to go on with now and to follow up. We went to DP's brother's for dinner last night and my SIL assured me (to add to the other assurances I've received) that it DOES just happen. For her she was thinking it was a crock and, literally, the very next day is just clicked and happened. It MUST get better, cos so many people BF I'm not a trooper, I don't think, I'm just doing what I have to do cos I know it makes my boy happy and it makes me happy when he's content.
Slings - my girlfriend has lent me her Hug a Bub and it is the best thing ever.Hands free shopping! I was about to buy one, but now I have a free loan, so I am very pleased with myself. I walked around Knox City for about two hours with Oscar on me and it was so liberating, not to mention the audible comments of "did you see the baby? How cute!" from various shoppers! I had been looking into getting a HAB since November, so by the time I got it I didn't even need to follow the video (also, our VCR is disconnected!), I just went to the website and followed some pictures and voila! I had it It is so comfy, I recomment persevering with the 'fiddliness' of it.
Dee, I can't believe you were virtually accosted by that lady! Obviously someone who isn't BFing and missing an entire brain (note to those bottlefeeding, I mean this in a mutually exclusive manner!) to think it's ok to manouevre you mid-feed and against your will!
Bath - sounds like you might have had vasospasm! The sensation varies, mine is a stinging pain in my nipples, the middle of the nipple turns white and VERY cold after a feed, so I have to cover up and apply a heat pack after. It's a blood constriction condition, either related to Reynaud's Syndrome or some other emotional stress that causes a psychosomatic blood constriction. In my case it was either the thing with my mum or a the initial attachment issues I've been having (causing flinching, anticipation of pain, blood constriction - a vicious cycle...), but I now suspect it was the latter that started it. It'll get better as our attachment sorts itself out and I can relax better at the start of a feed. Cold weather is when it tends to be a problem for BFing women.
Kel - I'm a bit like you, why bother holding onto bad feelings? Every day is a new day and nothing is helped by remaining a grumpy-bum! Then you look at your angel's face and everything melts into obscurity, so I'm pretty happy aside from the BFing issues, DP getting grumpy in the middle of the night (when he wakes when I'm feeding), etc.
I think this monkey wants another feed - my right boob is going to welcome that!