I didn't even know about the BB night! Probably still wouldn't have gone - we had a dinner invite, but I think I'll be up for the next one!
My mum left just before to get back to the country - she is really pained now when she has to leave Oscar, what a turn around! Unfortunately, now she's taken to saying that she's a bad mother I hate when she continues to punish herself, instead of just learning and moving on. She's been the mother I want her to be since she came to see Oscar and she's still punishing herself???
BFing is definitely improving - last night I had an attachment on one side that was textbook! It hasn't been perfect since then, but I have that one successful feed to go on with now and to follow up. We went to DP's brother's for dinner last night and my SIL assured me (to add to the other assurances I've received) that it DOES just happen. For her she was thinking it was a crock and, literally, the very next day is just clicked and happened. It MUST get better, cos so many people BF I'm not a trooper, I don't think, I'm just doing what I have to do cos I know it makes my boy happy and it makes me happy when he's content.
Slings - my girlfriend has lent me her Hug a Bub and it is the best thing ever.Hands free shopping! I was about to buy one, but now I have a free loan, so I am very pleased with myself. I walked around Knox City for about two hours with Oscar on me and it was so liberating, not to mention the audible comments of "did you see the baby? How cute!" from various shoppers! I had been looking into getting a HAB since November, so by the time I got it I didn't even need to follow the video (also, our VCR is disconnected!), I just went to the website and followed some pictures and voila! I had it It is so comfy, I recomment persevering with the 'fiddliness' of it.
Dee, I can't believe you were virtually accosted by that lady! Obviously someone who isn't BFing and missing an entire brain (note to those bottlefeeding, I mean this in a mutually exclusive manner!) to think it's ok to manouevre you mid-feed and against your will!
Bath - sounds like you might have had vasospasm! The sensation varies, mine is a stinging pain in my nipples, the middle of the nipple turns white and VERY cold after a feed, so I have to cover up and apply a heat pack after. It's a blood constriction condition, either related to Reynaud's Syndrome or some other emotional stress that causes a psychosomatic blood constriction. In my case it was either the thing with my mum or a the initial attachment issues I've been having (causing flinching, anticipation of pain, blood constriction - a vicious cycle...), but I now suspect it was the latter that started it. It'll get better as our attachment sorts itself out and I can relax better at the start of a feed. Cold weather is when it tends to be a problem for BFing women.
Kel - I'm a bit like you, why bother holding onto bad feelings? Every day is a new day and nothing is helped by remaining a grumpy-bum! Then you look at your angel's face and everything melts into obscurity, so I'm pretty happy aside from the BFing issues, DP getting grumpy in the middle of the night (when he wakes when I'm feeding), etc.
I think this monkey wants another feed - my right boob is going to welcome that!