Well, two significant things happened to us today, one good and one bad. The good was that Diana did a poo and a wee in the potty. I went to change her nappy and it was clean, so I put her on the potty and she went. Didn't even cry or anything, just did the business like a big girl. So proud of her.
Now for the bad. Diana rolled off the couch and fell on the floor tonight. Poor little thing. I was feeding her, when I heard some commotion from the kitchen. Stan then ran out, holding his hand. He had cut his finger rather badly (sliced part of the nail right off) and was in a bit of a panic/daze unsure what to do next. I quickly put Diana down and went to look for a plaster and cotton wool to give him, and the next thing I hear is a distressed baby crying and see that Diana is on the floor. I felt sooo bad. I picked her up and burst into tears myself. Fortunately Stan had by this point regained enough sense to look after himself as all I could do was comfort my poor baby. She seems all right now (she is sleeping on my chest as I write this), but it was such a horrible moment. I pray and hope that she didn't get concussed or anything. Has this type of thing happened to anyone before? Are there any signs that I should look for to make sure that she is all right? She fell on to a carpeted floor, so that should have cushined her fall...? I'm worried.
As the AF question, I still haven't got it and am hoping it stays away for a while onger yet.
Sarah - No AF as yet - thank god! Been without it for 1 year exactly and hoping for longer.
starfish - you poor thing. I'm no doc, but I'd look out for anything out of the norn (but what is the norm as it changes every day?) Maybe sleepy, not alert, lack of eye contact, not chatting as much. ???? I'm sure all will be ok but I'd see a doc soon just to make sure.
teepee - I'm sure Mikayla will put on weight soon.
Mel - Sounds like Jackson is going really well.
I'm kind of ****ed off at the moment. DH still can't cope with any form of crying. I've been trying to explain that crying is a form of communication and it's not like Brianna cries all that much. She seems to be heaps more unsettled when he is home on the weekends and this annoys DH as he thinks it is his fault. When he tries to settle her and it doesn't work, he won't persist and gives up. I can see he is getting frustrated which doesn't create a good vibe, so I end up taking over. I feel like I haven't had any time to myself in the last 11 weeks. I'm trying to get Brianna to take a bottle with EBM but it doesn't seem to work. I wanted to do this so I could have some 'me' time. I suggested to DH that he give DD her bath in the evenings when he gets home - that seems to have disappeared as well.......
Nellnell - Vent away, I know what you mean. DH only seems to do the fun bits and never the night feeds. I know he has to work, but even on his days off he never volunteers anymore to get up in the night he will only do them if I ask him. He plays soccer on Sunday mornings so that is his excuse for needing sleep!
I must admit he is good at bathing and playing with him but I think men will be men really and avoid the less fun bits. It's the same as housework, they will only do it if pushed!
What bugs me is we can't just go out for half an hour without booking in a time, but they can just say I'm just going out for a while! Anyway don't get me started, I think the 24/7 responsibility takes time to get used to hey.
I think my AF is definitely on it's way I am so achey. It reminds me of labour pains so it's making me feel a bit yuck! My last one was 13 sept last year so it would be weird if that's when it came again.
Starfish - How awful for you and Diana. I don't know what signs to look for are, I would go to the GP to be safe. It's a lesson for us all. These things happen so easily.
Teepee - I was looking at your photos, Mikayla is gorgeous, I love the photo with her hat on. I see you have one of those safe and sound roll things. I have one now as Lewis's head was getting flat on one side. It's brilliant, it's one of those things I couldn't do without now.
Zofia you poor thing! And poor little Diana. You must be feeling aweful - I know I would be too. As nellnell said just watch that she isnt always sleepy and slugish but I too would suggest you take her to see a doctor just to make sure there arent any injuries that wouldnt be so obvious to you. Its easy to say but dont feel so bad - it could have happened to anyone!
Thanks Sarah I love that photo too!! I've blown it up, had it framed and its now on our living room wall I've been using that roll for ages now because she sleeps in our bed and I didnt want her rolling into one of us while we were sleeping. Its great! I even use it on the lounge cause I've always been afraid of her falling off like poor Diana did.
Nell it sounds like your having a hard time without DH's help. It must be so hard doing it all on your own. I have to say I'm really lucky. DH gives bubs all her baths and is more than happy to take over at night when he can tell I've had enough. He usually either does some housework or takes over with bubs when he gets home so that I can have a break but I suppose its easier for us because Mikayla is bottle fed.
DH is actually in her room now trying to get Mikayla to sleep in her cot because he knows I dont have the patience or the persistence . I can hear her screaming now - if it was me I would have picked her up an hour ago :P
DH goes to Melbourne for a work meeting on Monday and wont be back till Wednesday. Not only will I miss him like crazy but I know I'll probably have trouble coping on my own. I think I might get my mum to stay here for the couple of nights that he's away!
Has anyone used Fess saline drops?? Mikayla has a blocked nose which I can tell is making her feel really yucky and the chemist told DH that its the best thing to use.
Starfish - oh am sending you hugs sweety!! If you're at all concerned, for your peace of mind maybe just get her checked up at either your local GP or at a child and youth health clinic. I completely understand as with DD#1, I remember feeding her one day and as I sat her up to burp her, DH, in horror, says, "look at her head!!" I turn her and she had the most sickly looking bump in her hairline - all black/purple! It made me feel instantly sick as though I was about to throw up and then I cried because I couldn't work out when she could've possibly done it and did I miss a cry from her cot?!?! Well, DD is almost 3 now and right as rain, but man, that moment sucked!! Oh and then when she had worked out how to climb on the lounge, next thing, thump!! Yep, backwards on her head . Oh and then there was the other week when I was bathing DD#2, I am so embarrassed to share but I slipped with her and she gulped water and then held her breath for what seemed like forever and was only seconds, just flailed her arms around with eyes as wide as saucers. I had to throw her upside down......I was bawling for ages it still feels terrible thinking of it But thank God that she is fine!
Just do what you need to to put yourself at ease and remember that she still loves you!! She won't remember falling she'll just always remember that you're the bestest mummy ever!!!!!!
Well I feel as though I achieved greatness tonight!!
DH had to work tonight and I have managed to, from 3.45pm this arvy, shower DD#1 (she cried the whole time as she has this immense hate for showers ..... so that was fun ) then dried, dressed and brushed her hair, then got DD#2 up, fed her and settled her back to bed (she slept! ) got dinner for DD#1 & I, did the dishes, had three sips of a cuppa, hung with DD#1 til bed time, tucked her in, got DD#2 up and bathed her (no problems!) and fed and put her back to bed (only cried for a few minutes) and now am about to jump in my jim-jams with a cup of milo.....and it's just gone 8.30pm..........
..........thank goodness DH doesn't work every night!!!!
I feel as though one moment I rock at being a mummy and then another moment I am the worst in the whole world!! (like earlier example)Do any of you feel the same???
Was just nice to have a 'yay' mummy moment!! Hope you don't mind me sharing....it's just so nice to know that you are all here when I have my sucky marathon moments too!! Thanks!!
Teepee - My DH works wed thurs and fri from 10am until 11pm (he's a chef) and so sometimes he doesn't see Lewis for 3 days if he's sleeping. It's pretty hard going by Friday, I really need a break. I would get your Mum round if I was you!
Hey Charly - I know how you feel about being a good Mum one minute and a bad one the next. Why don't we do a survey and see when everyone else feels like a good/bad Mum to make ourselves feel better!
I feel like a good Mum when:
I go into his room after his sleep and he gives me a big beaming smile like he's really pleased to see me!
I felt like a bad Mum when:
I was clipping his nails and yes you guessed it...clipped his skin by accident. Poor thing yelped and stuck his bottom lip out for ages
I felt like a good mum last night when Mikayla slept through the night in her cot for the first time and woke up this morning as happy as ever!
I felt like a bad mum when she was screaming in pain from her reflux and there was nothing I could do about it. Also felt very guilty when i had to give up breastfeeding
BTW have spoken to mum and she'll be staying here Monday & Tuesday night - what a relief!!!
I haven't got mania but you probably think I have!
Alright, so last time I posted I was ****ED OFF. Now you may notice that I am 'IN LOVE'. It really corny but after I posted yesterday DH suggested he try DD with the bottle as it wasn't working for me at al (nurse suggested he do it as DD knows she'll get the real deal from me). So I agreed and shut myself in our room, while DH tackled the issue in the lounge. He really had an awesome shot at it and spent 1hour trying!!!!! Between cries, which he managed beautifully, DD didn't take any EBM but it was sooooooo good that DH gave it a go for me. Unfortunately I don't really think that I should persist anymore and wait until she is 6 months to try a cup. Oh hell, what's another 3 months attached to your daughter 24/7??? I love her to pieces but it does get to me occasionally.
Sarah - I agree with the break thing......I feel I need to let DH know where I am, even down to the fact "I'm going outside to collect/put out the washing" or "I'm going to have a bath - please leave me for at least 1/2 hour"......yet DH gets to have 'me' time everyday!! DH does a lot of driving to and from work and I must admit is NOT COPING WELL WITH THE BROKEN SLEEP FACTOR. I get up to DD during the night (usually only one get up) and have done since DH went back to work when DD was 4 weeks old. This doesn't bother me at all - as DH can't breastfeed!!!!! but I'm really going to push this bath thing just to give me some time to gather my thoughts and to improve his confidence with DD.
Charlyfrog - wow, here I am having a whinge and you have 2 little mites to look after - what a super mum. Sounds like you have it down pat.
I feel like a good mum when........ DD looks up at me while she is feeding, delatches and gives me the biggest grin......So good as I know she really likes her food so interacting with me is really important too.
I feel like a rotten mum when.........I get frustrated when she won't settle
Have a great week everyone.
By the way Debbie - how are you going with the mastitis? Hope it's all cleared up.
Nellnell - oh I defintiely wouldn't say I was a super mum, crikey no! I did meet a couple of super mums the other day, one's FIFTH child is 5 months and the other lady's NINTH, yes NINTH child is only 3 or 4 weeks old.......now there are the super mums!! But thank you for saying that anyways................I'll still take it!! hehe!! But there are those completely non-super mummy moments as well!!
Celsie - where are you?!?! Hope that you are doing well and your DP is doing well with his health. xx
Oh and......
I feel like a bad mummy when in my tiredness, I snap at my almost 3yr old and forget that she is just being almost 3, she's not out to get me!
I feel like a good mummy when in my tiredness, I control my snappyness and see how truly beautiful my almost 3yr old really is...then I just want to eat her all up!!!!
Diana seems to have forgotten all about her fall. On Friday night, after she fell, she was a bit unsettled, so she got a special bath, then got to sleep with mummy. Yesterday she woke up as bright and alert as ever and last night she slept through from 11:00 - 5:00. Yay! She has been happy and playful today (apart from her usual early evening sook). Just now she did a poo and wee in the potty again.
I feel like a good mummy when Diana feeds well, settles well and is generally happy. And when she smiles at me.
I feel like a bad mummy when Diana won't settle and I get annoyed because I think of all the housework and chores that I haven't done.
Hi everyone
nellnell - I know what you mean about the DH issue - i love my DH to pieces but he will come up to Jackson when he's screaming his head off say whats the matter and then leave him to scream and not pick him up - drives me crazy cos as soon as I pick Jackson up he will quieten down he just needs a cuddle usually - in saying that DH is so good at changing nappies and they love their bath time together (and I get a break as well)
anyway I feel like a GREAT MUM - when Jackson gives me a huge smile and his little legs kick out in excitement and when my DH gives me a hug and tells me I'm doing a great job
I feel like a TERRIBLE MUM when I have to put saline drops in Jackson's nose to try and clear it and he screams his head off
big hugs to everyone and their little people - be proud of yourselves no matter what - my early childhood nurse said to me the other day that there is no one else in the world Jackson would rather be with right now than me - if thats not a boost to the ego then what is?
Had IL's over for dinner, DH & I in kitchen, backs to table, IL's at table with almost 3 yr old DD.......suddenly DD is crying horribly, laying quite awkwardly on the floor and MIL is saying she just went face first into the tiled floor from her chair!!!!!!
I know it's not anyone's fault. DD has never fallen out of bed nor off a chair before but I guess there are always firsts............... DH & I just feel so bad that we just took for granted that nothing would happen with parents right next to her......I feel so bad like I dropped mummy mode or somethingand didn't watch her closely enough!
DH & i were sitting on the floor with her trying to work out where the blood from her mouth was coming from and watched this massive black egg form on her forehead...................
We kept her up way past her bedtime to keep an eye on her, icing her head and making her sit quietly. DH knows first aid so has been very vigilant in checking her eyes etc She's completely fine, wanting dessert and chatting away, telling MIL that she bumped her head and, "doesn't want to do that again"............but I had to fight inwardly to stay calm so as not to panic DD but oh my goodness, it was so hard..........feel like a strong coffee right now!!!!
Blah, blah, blah.............bleh!
Last edited by Charlyfrog; September 10th, 2007 at 08:57 PM.
Oh what a night you have had you poor thing , lucky there were no broken bones, i can only imagine what its going to be like the first time Ava falls over and hurts herself. Keep your chin up
I feel like a good mummy when i hold Ava and she cuddles into me and hugs me (well I think its a hug lol) and when she wakes up and has a beautiful smile on her face
I feel like a bad mummy when i cant settle her, but most of the time I feel like a good mummy.
And im sure that everyone here is a great mum!!!! We wouldn't be on here talking if we weren't concerned parents looking for answers, yay for us all!!!!!!!
Has anyone managed to get their little ones to self settle? Ava has a lovely temper on her and cracks the wobblies when its time to go to sleep or she keeps spitting her dummy out. I can put her to sleep by holding and rocking her but she is becoming Dependant on it and I would like to help her settle herself.
Also does anyone know how i might be able to tame the lovely temper of hers or do you think its too early to start trying?
Tanz-ava - thanks for the that lovely! DD is right as rain today - no worries! My DD#2 who has just gone 12weeks cracks the biggest wobblies as soon as I go into her room at bedtime. She can be happy and content until that moment, it's quite funny. She cracks it so much that she won't hold her dummy in so I don't bother. i just wrap, quick upright snuggle and whisper in her ear that it's time for bed, lay her down, quick kiss and walk out leaving her crying. Her cry times have gotten less and less to the point now that she only squawks for a further 3-5minutes after leaving the room and then she falls asleep. But her cry times used to be for much longer and I'd only leave her 10mins before going in for a quick reassuring cuddle and then straight back to bed. But I also have to factor in that restless arvo time that it just doesn't matter what you do, she just isn't interested in nap time ....thankfully it's only for one nap stint and then she settles for the rest *phew*
The telling factor for me that it was just that she didn't want to sleep was the moment I entered the room and she heard, she'd quiet down and then stop completely if I picked her up, cheeky rabbit!!
It wasn't the most fun time but for me it was worth the perseverance and patience (and lots of tea & biccies outside! ) and I know it's not everyone's ideal way to do it so it really is what ever works for you
Hi all.
Me - i am going ok. Mastitis seems to have mostly gone. No pain, just a lump still on one side. Aiden has settled onto the formula, and i am no longer panicky about him being constipated. He was such an amazingly happy little man yesterday, it was beautiful.
Sunday night, tried him in the cot for the first time. He had a nap in it Sunday arvo, and put him to sleep in it that night. Was abit of a disaster. He went to bed at 9 like normal, was awake again at 10, 12.30, 1.30, 5, and then 6am.
His bassinate is propped up, the cot isnt. The bassinete matteress is abit softer. It was cool last night, and we didnt have the fire going, so i had to tuck him in firm so that the blankets would stay on him, but, he hates tightness, so, that upset him. It was just all new. Poor little bugger. The only way i could get him to sleep was to keep pressing the "on" button of his winnie the pooh mobile, and the music would play for about 5or 10min, then, stop, and he would grizzle, so i would turn it on again. Would do that for about 30min, till i was satisifed he was asleep. Yesterday, i bought him a cd player, as a friend gave us a lullaby cd. Normally, he goes to bed at 9, but, last night, he was tired, so, at 7, he fell asleep, and i put him to bed, and he slept for about 30min, then awake. I feed him, and then it took till about 8.30 to get him to sleep again. Music, and trying 'self settling'... well, i guess that is what it is. I kept going in and sticking the dummy back in, give him a little hug once or twice, tuck his arms back under the blanket (i dont wrap) and eventually, off he went. NOrmally, he goes to sleep well on his own. Then, he woke at 2, and it took till just after 4am for him to go back to sleep, but, the upside is that he slept till just after 8. I think i get abit impatient for him to go to sleep as well, so, i rush him abit. Hopefully, once he gets used to the cot, he will go back to being a good little sleeper (and self settler)
I was going to post on here on sunday, but, i was miserable, and it would of been all depressing.
But, what i love about being a mum - when they cry, and you go to pick them up, and they stop crying and just start smiling. Cheeky little things.
What i hate about being a mum - when i am tired, and i dont want to be a mum anymore. That was sunday. I had had enough, and i didnt want to do it anymore.
Starfish & Charly - am glad your little ones are recovered from their falls.
Tina - i hope Mikyala puts on weight for you, but, i agree with you on that one - if she is happy and settled, then dont worry to much. She will make up for it when she is ready.
My DH is pretty good. It does irriate me when he says things like - here, you take him, i just want to make a call. And i think, who on earth holds him when I have to make a call??? But, generally, he is pretty good. When AIden was bad with the reflux, he wasnt so good, but, i dont blame him really. I would of handed him on to if i could.
Not bfeeding any more for me is great, i feel so much more alive, and in control of my life. I can get more done around the house, so, i dont get so stressed now. I felt guilty for a few days, but, Aiden is fine, and still happy, i am happy, and feel almost normal again. Its nice not to have someone else relying on my body. Not to have to worry about food choices, exercise, diets, alcohole, anything. Not to worry about how what i do will effect, firstly the baby, and then later, the milk.
I get out alot more now. Am acutally missing my mums group today so i can spend a hole day at home. And, want to catch up on my sleep. But, it easier now to just go, without worring about expressing, or breastfeeding. But, thats me, and i could never b/f in public. Was just not my thing. Full credit to those who can do it, (and those who have pushed thru mastitis) but, its just not me unfortunatly. I still have little moments of guilt.
Anyway, Tanz - i have no advise for you on self settling. Aiden is placid thankfully, so, generally, as long as i am patient, and get him when he is ready, then, i have no dramas putting him to bed. I have put him to bed when he has been wide awake, talking and smiling, and he has gone to sleep. Go figure... i just lucky.
Having a bad day today. Lewis has decided his day will start at 4.30am for the past two mornings. He has slept form 7pm - 1am and then woken up at 4.30am all full of life and no chance of going back to sleep. And then he just catnaps for the rest of the day so no chance of me catching up on any sleep either.
I don't know what to really, either try and put him to sleep at 8pm or try and dreamfeed him at 10pm. Does anyone have any bright ideas?
Debbie - Glad to hear FF is working well for you. It must be great to feel so much more in control now.
I went to change her nappy and it was clean, so I put her on the potty and she went. Didn't even cry or anything, just did the business like a big girl. So proud of her. 
If you're at all concerned, for your peace of mind maybe just get her checked up at either your local GP or at a child and youth health clinic. I completely understand as with DD#1, I remember feeding her one day and as I sat her up to burp her, DH, in horror, says, "look at her head!!" I turn her and she had the most sickly looking bump in her hairline - all black/purple! It made me feel instantly sick as though I was about to throw up and then I cried because I couldn't work out when she could've possibly done it and did I miss a cry from her cot?!?! Well, DD is almost 3 now and right as rain, but man, that moment sucked!! Oh and then when she had worked out how to climb on the lounge, next thing, thump!! Yep, backwards on her head 
. Oh and then there was the other week when I was bathing DD#2, I am so embarrassed to share but I slipped with her and she gulped water and then held her breath for what seemed like forever and was only seconds, just flailed her arms around with eyes as wide as saucers. I had to throw her upside down......I was bawling for ages 
it still feels terrible thinking of it 
) then dried, dressed and brushed her hair, then got DD#2 up, fed her and settled her back to bed (she slept! 
Hope you don't mind me sharing....it's just so nice to know that you are all here when I have my sucky marathon moments too!! Thanks!! 
!
....thankfully it's only for one nap stint and then she settles for the rest *phew* 
Bookmarks