Babies Born March 1st-15th 2008 #7

[prama]

and ditto to what bron said too! xox

im getting so excited planning poopy's party!!! invites sent out, i've planned the menu, bought disposable plates, cups, cutlery etc. today we bought lolly bags and toys to go in. bought him a little outfit too, nothing expensive, just from target. i hope the weather will be good. i cant believe my itty bitty is no longer going to be itty bitty, but he'll always be my itty bitty, even when he's married w children!!

[danniellabella]

Wow Prama, you are super organised. I really am thinking that I'll just make it small no fuss bbq in the park. I don't feel like having people over messing up my house.

[prama]

lol danni - it'll be too hard to clean the house and clean up afterwards. that's why we are having a bbq at the park too. we've invited 40, adults and kids, and us included.

[danniellabella]

You guys have no idea how much it means to know that you care so much & think so much of me when you've never met me.
Specially when I don't think much of myself at all.
Thanks just for listening.

I for one feel very close to everyone in our baby buddy group. We are all on a journey and on it together. We all have a bond imo. You are a highly valued member of this group. I have done this in the past and really need to do it again...go look into a mirror, look yourself in the eyes and repeat these words "I am highly valued, I am special" and any other motivational words you would like to use. Do not stop looking at yourself in the eyes. I guarentee you will cry, but doing this regularly especially when you are in a state of low self esteem is powerful and can change your outlook. There is absolutely nothing wrong with talking yourself up to yourself. Also, while you're looking into the mirror, speak positive things you would like for your future. You have to maintain eyecontact with your reflection though.

[india44]

Ah prama it sounds great..I am sure first birthdays are for us parents to celebrate the fact that WE made it through the first year not the kids *LOL* I love parties with loads of people and fuss we have lots of family ones and a huge xmas party mum and I love to entertain and cook. We are doing the park too we have one with a great playground and bbq's. I am making the very hungry caterpillar for Wills cake. Gosh some of us will be talking about having our next babies before you know it and which schools to send our kids too *L*

[prama]

hehe. i know first birthdays are for us arent they! yup, so true, we made the first year, so much to learn.. but what a wonderful year.
i love big family stuff, coming fr a huge family.. but i get anxious having ppl in our hse cos it's small and cant fit a lot of ppl in.. and the cleaning up.. i think i clean up more so ppl dont judge my house!
i cant wait till we know and rebuild but we have to postpone again cos it's notteh best economic time now

[india44]

Well today was the day ( well thursday is officilay) but work started back today and I went in to help the girls set up and get organised etc. I left Will with mum and was fine..worked most of the day had anice lunch with the girls and bought some enw toys etc for the room. Got home about 3.30 to pick Will up took him home for anap and a cuddle and promplty burst into tears. I cired for over an hour as it finally sunk in that I was going back to work in a reduced capacity yet again ( no longer room leader as only 2 days)AM not sure why I got so emotional even snapped at Nick becasue he didnt ask how my first day was. I know it will all be fine but its yet another change in my life and I looked at Will and stillsaw the tiniest baby in my arms who needed me.I hope all these feelings make me al the more empathetic with the parents I comfort this week. I know its hormones and tiredness and I am being a big sooky la la but I am allowed to be....arent I? L*

[~clover~]

Big hun.

[india44]

Thanks Skye still teary *L* need to get myself together.
hows things going for you? you must be looking fwd to the girls starting school and have some quieter time fo ryou and Jesse.

[prama]

bron - started a msg for you at 7am, and still havent finished it!!

hugs to you hun.. it's so hard isn't it. big changes, after being w will for a year and then changes in your job as well. even if it's 2 days, it still is really hard.
i was a mess last night, i sobbed and sobbed and sobbed. im just getting so anxious and upset at going back to work full time, and leaving poopy at DC. i guess going in again yesterday to arrange a trial run for him next week made it all so real. he was very happy tho, he saw one of the carers, and wanted her to carry him. i was watching her, before i approached her and she was giving the kids hugs and all. but she's looking after older kids, and she's the head of the centre.
anyway, i was so upset last night. i felt im being punished by having to go back 5 days cos i didnt love poopy at first sight, i didnt bond w him immediately. i feel so guilty for that. i feel so guilty and stupid for wasting those precious early days.. stupid pnd. i cant imagine not being w him 24/7.
danni and shell - must have been so hard to have to go back to work early.
it's just so unfair.... even when he's asleep at night, im still thinking of him.
i dont want to be away from my baby.......

[danniellabella]

danni and shell - must have been so hard to have to go back to work early.

I actually didn't find it that hard. The thought of it was hard but when it actually happened I was fine. I think for us it was actually the right decision to do it early rather than waiting until now. Jazz hadn't gotten into a proper routine at home before she went to daycare and she hadn't formed that full on attachment that the kids have now. It's just become so a part of her life going to daycare, she's established a great routine and is quite attached to her carer. She was actually really upset over the Christmas break because she wasn't going to daycare. I could tell that she missed it.

She's just started using a ride on at daycare and this morning she got a bit upset at one of the other kids who was sitting on it. Now we did try putting Jazz on it just before the other girl sat on it and she wasn't interested, but it seems that no one else is allowed on it either...she's starting to show what her fave toys are now and gets quite protective of them

To everyone who is going back to work, in my experience it does get easier. I think it took me a couple of weeks to adjust but that was probably mainly due to starting a brand new job and going back full time straight away after 4 months of nothing.

[prama]

danni - lakshman gets toy envy.. if he sees someone playing w something, then he goes for it. then someone's else's toy catches his eye and goes for that. finally he forgets about it all and goes exploring by himself!!

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Jesse'a cut 4 teeth in the last 2 weeks. We suddenly went from 2 to 6!
He's pointing at absolutely everything & the little bugger finds biting us amusing! He laughs at the reaction he gets, then will growl & do it again!!
He's not too fussed about the other kids with toys. He will yell & scream if they take something off him, but he's not too worried if he doesn't have it.


1.5 weeks (I think?) till Jaz goes back to school!!! Bri doesn't go til next year. I still haven't found a pre school for her yet. There aren't any here in town, but there's a few with in 20 minutes of here. I'll have to get onto it soon.

[~clover~]

OMG! I just got invited to my Year 10 ten year school reunion!
Its in April & I haven't seen a single one of them since year 10!
Crap & now I'll have to go alone. Lucky me.

[prama]

skye - will you go.. no harm in going by yourself, you dont have to tell them what's happening w you and anth.

[Lily J]

Hi Girls,
Looks like it's been a big couple of days for a few of us...
Skye - I second what the other girls have said and commend you for being such a responsible and decisive parent for your kids... you are setting an amazing example by deciding not to put up with violence or abuse. Well done!
India - sorry to hear that you've had an emotional time - I know it's not much comfort at the moment, but it does get easier. I went back to work when our little one was only 12 weeks old so the settling in period was really quite easy for us (and or daughter) so that made things a lot easier - But I agree with Daniellebella - it will get better.
Prama - super organised as always!
Hi to everyone else!
Take care,
Lily

[prama]

OMG lily!!!!!
YOU ARE PREGNANT!!!!!!
HOORRAY!!!!! CONGRATS!!!!!!

you are the first one in our group to be expecting again!!
how exciting!!

[Sammiejane]

Hi guys,

Its really hectic here, sorry i havent been around.

Skye, i am going to PM you when i get a proper chance to sit down, things to share, not for open forums iykwim... Hope you are OK

Prama - you are not being punished hun, i totally see where you have drawn this conclusion from, but its nothing to do with what you have down or not done, and you know what, i think you are a pretty amazing mumma and you have given poopy so many mazing opertunities i know where you are coming from thou.

Bron - how are you doing health wise? i havent heard anything bad, so i am hoping its all good...
Hope Will is doing OK - is he in the same centre as you - sorry i may have missed that somewhere...

Danni - its great that jazz loves her daycare so much, i hope that MJ does too... Ho are things now that Matts back?

MJ is cutting another tooth now, (her second one) and its the top one oppersite the bottom one that she got! she all lopsided!

really busy, organising going back to work (OMG i have no clothes to wear and i cant wear the Birks that i have lived in for the last 12 mths) finally decided on a FDC lady, hoping that i made the right choice, its so hard to know... and also trying to get an EBM storage up as i am not going to stop feeding...

Off to a water adventure park (melbournes crappy attempt at seaworld, minus the good rides and animals) tomorrow with DSS, DH has taken the day off (shock horror - he never does) and we will make a ay of it which should be excellent.

Hi Lily - hope you are well

TRINA - have you dumped us for a new man???? I WANT SOME GOSS - (sam is stamping her foot )

ETA - lily - you post popped after i wrote. congrats on the :BFP: how exciting... woo hoo for you

xoxo