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Pramasorry you are haviing a rubbis day... i had one too
Men are pains.
sometimes its like we dont even exist, i am sure they dont think that are making us fee like that, but grrrh.
I hope you get your mussels - you should book to go there with your girlfriends and get DH to look after poopy - that will learn him
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I think I am suffering from insomnia - I am soooooo overtired that when it comes to going to sleep I just can't sleep. It takes me ages to get to sleep after feeding DJ's early morning feed, I end up thinking about stuff and just can't sleep. arghhhh Doni got up for an early morning bike ride so asked him to do his 6am feed for me so I could get some resty. Anyone else like this???
Otherwise things are all good here. Ever since I have been giving DJ a top-up in formula he is a different baby, so much happier and content. My breastmilk obviously doesn't fill him up. He is even starting to fill out everywhere in his body so i think this weeks weigh-in will be an improvement
Prama - I agree with SJ, why don't you just organise a lunch with your girlfriends and leave Poopy with hubbyMen just don't get it sometimes. Doni is the same.
I wonder how Trina is going? I bet she is having a great time.
Hope we are all well
Shell xxxx
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thanks sj, shell. dh is trying to be really nice today. i know he feels bad, but then it's always the same. i am very grateful that he helps out so much but sometimes you want little things that are special to you, esp. now that you dont even have 'me' time anymore.
will try to organise to for mussels, maybe a mothers group thing. htey have great woodfire pizza too. yum yum.
sj - hope you feel better today after a bad day yesterday. lots of hugs!
shell - hhhooooorraayyy y that dj is more settled! im sso glad. is he sleeping longer? im sure he will put on weight at the next visit. yaaay!
lets hope bubs tip scales to the right and us to the left! i wish poopy could suck out all the extra kgs out of my boobs!
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Thanks for all the advice girls. We bought a vapouriser which helped us all alot also some baby balsom which was great on WIlls chest and I had vicks on mine so when he was close he got that as well. He is so used ot having his nosed suck now he only crys for a very short time its liek he knows its going to help him breathe. He really is such a good boy despite a cold he slept from 10 pm till 5am which was great and today he was awake for the 5 hours mum and I were out and didnt fuss until hungry then just watched the people go by.
On a sad note I think my milk has dried up I have being trying to express my hand and by pump and he sucks so hard but obvioulsy doesnt get much out. I have been having trouble with the lymph nodes under my arms and my scars hurt from where I had some lumps removed. My boobs are also soft as..how do I know when its over as far as milk goes? I cant help but think its my fault becasue I had been topping him up but he was always offered booby and took what ever he could get and was always hungry afterward. SJ with your nursing background do you think that my lower platletes and low neutrophils could affect. I know when they are know my body uses all its energy to fight things off and I have been really flat and had this cold along with Will. My mum said her milk dried up at 4 weeks with both my brother and I but I dont think it has much to do with my body. I want will to be satisfied and hydrated and will do whatever..I guess physcologically I wasnt ready for it to end.
We had our second mothers group this week and I was amazed at how many people were bottle feeding I think the health nurse was too they all has different reasons and I felt less guilty for topping up but not sure about total bottle feeding. It was a fun group although I had flashbacks to my early childhhod trianing with all the home made toys and books and activites that we had to learn how to makes.ALso had a visit fomr the dental health clinic which was really interestingas I have covered dental care for 2- 5 year olds but not newborns. So now we have started to rub a light cloth on Wills gums to get him used to having something in his mouth.mind you hed suck on your big toe if you put it in there *L*
Hope the weather was nice at your place we had al ovley afternoon out and about with Grandma only to come back and find our garage half demolished ready for the folks to build their new house behind us. MUm and Dad are going away for 6 weeks in a fortnigh and I realy dont know what I am going to do I wil miss mums company so much our relationship has really changed since Will was born and we are so close.
Yay for moe I soaked in the bath for an hour tongiht and read mags that a girlfriend gave me...very indulgent.
OK I have blabbed on and done no personals at all sorry just needed to type I guess *L*
Hope you are all well.
Bron xx
PS prama I luuuuuuuuuuuurve muscles I say book for yoruself now and eat a huge bowl full!!
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Doni just left for New Zealand and not back until Saturday next week (boo hoo!!!) DJ is asleep and yes I should be sleeping right now but I am too overtired arghhhh and daytime sleeps only last for 40 mins so by the time I get to sleep it is time to wake up so no point in trying to sleep during the day haha......
Mum looked after DJ for us for a few hours last night so we could see a friend for her birthday, it was nice to get out and we were home by midnight. We were both exhasted!!!
I have decided that if DJ still has feeding problems from my breast in the next two weeks I am giving up breastfeeding. I just don't enjoy it anymore and everyone I speak to about it tell me I should just give it up. I don't have to justify myself to anyone and I should do what makes me happier. I know bottle feeding means having to sterilise bottles and prepare formula etc, but I can't sit there and enjoy breastfeeding, I am constantly looking down and what DJ is doing and if he is latched on or not. There is no point me seeing a lactation consultant. I always said I would give it 4 months and it is nearly 3 months, so I think I will see how I go in the next two weeks which will make it 3 months. It is still a great start. I might even go back to expressing full-time and giving him breast milk that way. He isn't filling up on my breastmilk at all. We have tried even giving him breast milk in the bottle and he only takes 80ml of it and then will gulp down a top-up of formula..... Mum thinks I haven't got enough nourishment in my breastmilk and I need to eat properly.....
Bron - I think SJ mentioned to me once that when your boobs are softer and floppy it actually means your milk has settled, because I thought the same thing with mine that my milk had dried up. And yeah my mothers group has alot more people bottle-feeding as well, so I don't feel so bad when I give DJ top-ups.
Prama - make sure you make a date for your mussels lunch
DJ is waking now, off I go.... That was a 20 min sleep so I am glad I didn't sleep now haha
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After putting him back down to sleep after that feed earlier he then slept for 3 hours I was sooo happy. I didn't go to sleep because I wasn't sure how long he would sleep but ended up being able to relax and watch some tv etc it was sooooo nice. I have even caught up on some washing as well woohoooo so I feel good now
I signed up for pole dancing classes starting on Saturday and I can't wait. I actually did pole dancing classes two years ago and it got me into great shape really quickly as well and was great for my self-esteem as well, so really looking forward to doing it again
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It;s so quiet in here on the weekends! haha
I'm feeling really weird!!
For teh first time in almost 4mths I'm at home ALL BY MYSELF! DH has gone to MIL's and I'm a bit tired. so he said he will take poopy with him. i feel strange without poopy with me at home. it's been 15mins and i miss him. but im enjoying it but feel guilty at the same time.
bron -
sorry about how you're feeling. pls dont feel bad for offering the bottle. sometimes we just have to. i dont think my milk is enough either, i was feeding on the boob with bottles in between but no top up a few weeks ago and he only put on 150g, and since then ive been topping up with formula and he put on 400g, i also think it was a growth spurt.
my boobs feel floppy too. they say that happens once your milk settles in. i dunno if my milk is low.. motilium isnt helping much either. poopy's always hungry after the boob.
i hope you're feeling better and sorry you're hurting from the lymph node removal and all. i feel so tired too.
some days i get so down from bf-ing and topping up and hard work. and i think it will be easier when he's on solids and im not bf-ing. but then preparing solids is a lot of work too. and then there's the mess they make and cleaning up everywhere.
at the early days, i wasnt ready to give up bf so i was feeding him just in the morning and at night. maybe you could do that? i knew i would be devasted if i gave it up 100%. emotionally and mentally i couldnt.
shell
i know what you mean about bf-ing. i dont really enjoy it, i do it because i have to and want him to have the best. i suppose i would enjoy it if he was putting on lots of weight and didnt seem hungry after each feed. then i know im doing something right and it would boost my confidence.
i think giving him EBM is a good idea. cos he will still have your milk. I'm sure you will do what's teh best for you both.
bottles are a hassle. im nervous about flying cos i ahve to carry bottles and formula too. and carry tins with us. such a pain. iwish my milk was enough. i feel like a failure thinking of that.
mum said there's NAN there but not the HA. and the LC said not change the milk.
sigh it's so hard. im constantly thinking of feeding and feeding right.
i wish i had it easy.
anyway, im almost at my milestone of 4mths. but will soldier on until i come back cos i dont want poopy to pick up anything.
im fine feeding him at home with boob and top up. but going out, bothers me.
am going into the office on thursday, and im planning when and how to give him the boob and bottle. if i take just the bottle then im scared my supply will drop.
and then we're going to stanwell tops on sunday. im worried about the long drive and feeding him on the boob in someone else's hse. sigh.
my poor poopy.
shell - see you tomorrow. im not looking forward to the heavy workout!! but it will be nice to see you!
oh i forgot to mention.. i started seeing my councillor. first appt was last monday, i felt a bit more confident after that. she's a psychologist and does spiritual healing. she did reiki on me and said im thinking too much. so much energy wasted. told me to relax. i got a message at the end of the session - i cant be like other mums, i can only be myself and being myself is good enough.'
my next appt is on the 7th. im glad im getting help.
shell - just got your msg.
hehe great pole dancing. sounds like lots of fun, you will burn lots of calories.
it's hard to sleep in the day isnt it. cos you never know how long htey will sleep. poopy sleeps for such a short time, it's not worth it. as you said, as soona s you start to fall asleep they wake up. and end up being more tired.
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Bron if you want to keep bf one of the best ways to increase your milk supply is to feed on the breast more often. The top up feed can interfere with your milk supply but it's never too late to build it up again. Sometimes a couple of quiet days at home help. We are always doing too much, aren't we? But as Prama said being yourself is good enough, go with your gut and do what works for you.
I'm sorry you girls are finding bf hard. I really enjoy it and it suits my lifestyle. Like Trina I seem to live in the car so it's one less thing for me to carry ifykwim. When you have your next baby (and you probably will) you may not have the same problems or your breasts may settle into bf more quickly. Another thing I like is the fact it gives me time to sit down and be with Paddy. I think I'd have to fight the rest of the family if we were feeding him with the bottle.
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