Babies Born March 1st - 15th 2008

[india44]

With Shell talking about going back to work I thought I would ask who is going back and when and what sort of care ar you looking at for your babies? ( nosey I know)

At the moment I cant even contemplate it and know I dont have to go back to January but not sure what to do about care.
Speaking of work my husbands job is causing a lot of strain at home to the point that lst night I held my hand up and said I didnt want to hear about it and didnt care if I never spoke about it again. I felt terrible but i Have had it up to the eye teeth. He is being used big time he has no office here instead is expected to use a " home office" which happens to be our back room which is also supposed to double as a workshop for building computers ( picture a work spae that is 6 foot by 10 foot that is all the room he has) He has no salesman, no secretary and is expected to do all the admin and sales himself atm. .We thought ok commision would be great ( he is actually a computer technician and a dam good one) but no they said as he isnt employed as a sales guy he might get a cash bonus if they have the money. Just great when he sells 70 grand worth of kit in a month and they MIGHT give him something. He does paperwork form 6.30 in the morning and will get home at about 7 eat tea then do more paper work until about 10.30. The main companyis in another town where techs have office girls who do all there paper work and 4 sales guys. The only advantage is we get a car but we dont have the time to use it for personal stuff at all. Its really wearing us both down but becasue he isnt a permanant resident yet th jobs he can apply for are limited.I hate the stress its putting us under and its crap money ta boot. ( sorry just needed to vent have been in tears about it today and I know Need to be supportive of him
Have to go WIll is awake maybe can get kisses and smile from him
Bron xx

[shell_120308]

Bron - it's ok to vent and I would be frustrated too, that is alot of hours he has to put in, and no time to rest. Hope things work out.

I plan to go back to work in September, no choice really, need the money by that stage and I love my job so want to go back at least 3 days per week, so then DJ is in childcare for only 3 days per week. I haven't yet spoke to my manager about going back part-time so hopefully it will be ok even if i can go back 4 days per week, as long I can still spend some time with my little man. We were going to put him in at Doni work because they have a free creche for us to use, but DJ needs to be 9 months old before we can do that, so I need to put him in at another child care centre for 3 months. My husband will tell me to get his parents to look after him but it means me driving out of my way to droping t off and pick him up. My work is close to home so better for me to just put him somewhere close to my work. My return date for work is 1 September, so still have a good 3months to go I will enjoy it while I have it.

Mum is over tonight helping me out which is great. She isn't staying the night but still just the help is great and good to have some adult company

Spoke to Doni earlier and he misses me and DJ so much and can't wait to get home on Saturday. Noticed DJ has a dimple on his right cheek when he smiles - soooo cute.

Hope you are all well.

Shellxxx

[prama]

shell - the butcher is very good and people come from far away to buy stuff. even their bacon is very tasty. i got some meatloaf with peppercorn, hehe.
couple more sleeps till doni comes home! i hope he's bought you a nice pressie! is your birthday on tuesday?

bron - so sorry to hear about DH's work. it really sux and it's not fair.
how long till he gets his PR? i got mine as a skilled migrant, based on my qualifications and experiences before we got married. (i didnt want to go on a spousal visa) I think computer techs are in demand and not hard to get a PR.
i hope he gets it and gets another job soon. he's working way too long. it's not fair at all!

im due to go back to work feb 2nd. i booked day care when i was 12 weeks pg! im going to go back 3 days a week. i have the ability to work from home but i dont want to with poopy here cos i'll never get things done.

i got an eyebrow wax and hair trim. i had a colour put in but it didnt take! my hairdresser said could be cos of my shampoo, silica creates a layer that doesnt allow colour to penerate. she asked me to use another one shmapoo. so im going back next wed. i didnt realise how much i needed a trim. hair looks better and feel heaps better.
anyway, im going to go to bed. im really tired after my walk and poopy is getting more and more cheeky and wants to be carried or someone with him all the time and he's crying. i hate to say this but today his crying started to annoy me.
good nite. xoxoxoxoxoxox here;s to a long sleep

[shell_120308]

Well this is a nice change, I am awake and it is 7am and DJ is asleep Yipeeeeee mind you he still woke up for his 3:30am feed but hey he has sleep just over 3 hours since his last feed. I have had breakfast, and got a cup of tea as well. I took some vitamins this morning woke up with a sore throat grrrrr hope I am not coming down with anything. Not what I need

Prama - wow that sounds like a great butcher yeah 1 more sleep until Doni comes home, we both can't wait. We have been together for 15 years and married for 13 years in October but we still miss each other so much when he is away for work. A bit harder for him since he now misses DJ. Yeah my birthday is on Tuesday and he has the day booked off from work so we can go out for the day so that will be nice. Not sure what we will do yet, but wouldn't mind going for a drive or something, maybe a trip to the mountains or something.

SJ - sorry to hear your hubby is away all weekend with no phone contact. I know how it feels to be alone but I have had phone contact. Make sure you organise for your friends to visit or at least go visit them so the time flies by quicker and before you know it he will be back home again Just get out of the house. I am going to try and get out of the house today as well.

Anyway better go, I can hear DJ starting to wake up.

By the way, my Grobag sleeping bag arrived yesterday so put it on DJ last night and maybe that is why he slept so well.

Shell xxxx

[danniellabella]

Jazz is on antibiotic eye drops for her gunky eye. Her blocked tear duct that she's had from birth is slightly infected. The drops seem to be working. She needs 2 drops 4 times a day but babies are smarter than we give them credit for. Now when she sees the bottle in my hand she shuts her eyes! It's quite hard to get the drops in.

Last night for the first time she actually latched onto my boobs WITHOUT the shield! I was so proud. She did keep kicking the chair and pulling off but then she'd latch straight back on!

She has now started getting a great routine. By lunchtime she gets really tired (it's getting easier to tell when she's tired...she now does the whole rubbing the eyes thing). The only thing I've found though is that when she goes to sleep, she'll stay asleep so I've had to time naps during the day because I don't want her sleeping too long. I will let her go for 1-2 hours but if I get really busy with the things I want to get done while she sleeps I occasionally stretch it out to 3 hours before I wake her.
Speaking of waking her. She's been asleep since 6am and it's now 9am so I'm gonna go and wake her now.

[india44]

Im still thiing about what care to have but will probably be family day care. I work in a centre but not sure I want him in so young and we are not allowed othave our kids with us anyway which I agree with totally. The other centre attatched to us opens 7-5 yet I work 8-6 which is a buggar because I could have salary sacraficed the fees.I currently only work 3 days aweek due to health and would really only like to work 2 days. I think I can talk my boss into it and tax wise I would only loose $40 more for one days less work.
Truth be told I want to stay home and have loads more babies *L* but age and economy prohibit this.I do visit work regulalry as i miss the girls but not other parents problems *L*bad huh
*Hugs* for sj..mollyjane is such a good baby by the sound of it and has agreat mum I understand the guilt over something like that but I am sure molly was just fine.
AM having an afternoon with my mum tommorow at hers. She has made some yummy soup and we will watch UK tv and lifestyle whilest dad and hubby are off doing their own things robaly have a nanna nap or two as well..strange how simple things liek tim eto watch telly and relax please me..plus grandma loves it wen we go round.
We are having our new pergola and carport put on the house too tommorow so dont want to behere for all the noise either.

We have bene looking to go away for along wekeend somewhere..anybody spend anytime in the northen beaches of Sydney such as Avalon or Palm beach. We jost want to walk around do the cafe thing and not much else. Or any other suggestions would be great We dont want to go much further then a 4 hour drive.

Got to go my boy is calling
Bronx

[Sammiejane]

I Get a text from DH ex - 'in a bad place at the moment can i chat" soi call her.... she is not coping with life, can i look after DSS as she is not able to do anything other than sleep all the time, and all the cleaning with the worms is too much.

It makes me so angry, i am sure that she has a bit of depression, but i cant feel sorry for her, she puts herself in front of her son always and is so self indulgent. Anybody else would get on with their lives, i mean F*ck i have a baby, and i managed... she has more than just one screw loose and i feel so sorry for my DSS.
I refuse to be nasty or tell her how i really feel as it will make the situation worse for DSS - apparently she hasnt cooked all week and told DSS that she feels bad as she feels like all she does is stuff for him - NO SH*T SHERLOCK, she is his MOTHER...... ahhhhhh some people, i have no idea what DH saw in her, he assures me that she was not like that when they were together, and she got pg to keep him, but my god - she is one of those takers, thats all she does take from anyone and everyone....
i could rant and rant and rant... i am so angry i was starting to look forward to the weekend with Molly Jane and now it has all changed.
Dont get me wrong i love DSS and having his is no problem, we get along really really well, but ... grrh

Poor DH felt so bad for going, but he needs to go.

Oh and to top things off, DH mum rang and i have to call his nanna tomorrow as it looks like she has cancer and i have to talk to her and see her.
Sometimes i wish i could be selfish and tell the world to f*ck off.

Sorry girls, that was really self pitying.... but i had had eough of everyone expecting me to sort out their lives. Yes i am coping well with having a baby, but could someone cut me some slack???

Hope you all have a great weekend

[Sammiejane]

Had a crappy day today, was at the factory for part of the day...

mJ has a gunky eye and has the tail end of a cold... she is such a good baby, she doesnt complain about anything. I was in tears this evening, she must be feeling rotten with the cold, we went to the health food shop to get calandular flower tea for her eye and her nappy was about due for a change, but she wasnt complaining. anyway when we got back i changed her and her nappy was full, like really wet (BBH - you know how they can get) and she didnt make a peep... i was in tears, she must be feeling awful and not complaining and i left her in that wet nappy - poor little thing.

Bron, i will be going back Feb 1 next year (unless i get rich first!!!) will be only working 3 days a week and Mum will be looking after MJ - the only problem is Mum and Dad go off on trips around Aust for a couple of months at a time, so i dont know what i will do with her then... maybe the work daycare. I hate working now, one day a week is not bad, and she is with me, but every week i feel awful about it

DH is going away with friends Friday til sunday (no phone contact at all)... i dont mind, but i do IYKWIM ... he only sees MJ in the even for maybe an hour or 2, so the weekend is important... Also my sister and Mum are still away, they get back next week, so i will be totally alone.
Sort of looking forward to time where i have no cleaning or anything (except nappies) and relaxing and enjoying MJ but, oh i dont know... im just sad
DH work is about to get crazy so the next few months are going to mean that it will go back to what it was like when i was pg, 10-16 hour days, he will be grumpy and wont see MJ... i know we have to do this to grow the business, but its so hard.

Sorry.

Bron, your situation with your DH sounds crappy too, its so frustrating.
I hope Trina hops on with some good news and all the holiday stories, what a cheery bunch we are!!!
And to top off the night i was looking forward to Lost and it not on - same as Numbers yesterday grrrh