Babies Born May 16th-31st 2008 #6

[Madham]

NaNa as sass said not all FDC are like that, you really need to feel comfortable though and i would not leave Hamish anywhere like you described. I ran into the FDC mum that looked after Maddi when she was young, she is so lovely, she is a nana herself now, anyhow she offered to have Hamish for me, but as i am not going back to work i am not sure. I said maybe later in the year one afternoon a week or something would be nice for a break but at the moment i am coping. Sounds like Aadi is giving you trouble still, i have a friend in Melbourn who had a baby that is rough and uncontrollable, biting, hitting etc like Hamish and Aadi, he is now 17 months and i spoke to them this week and they said finally he is sleeping all night and he has calmed down dramatically, ofcourse he is still full of energy etc, but he does not go pyscho (her words) like he use to. I know its not much consilations but maybe as he gets older things will get better, i have my fingers crossed for you.
Sass - Hamish has formula in morning and night bottle, cows milk in cereal and at lunch he has cows milk in sippy cup. I do not water it down or anything, the mchn said not too. He probably has about 50ml. I will eventually cut out his morning bottle and just give him cows milk in sippy cup. Would like to have no bottles around 12 months and just sippy cup.
Mis T - I cant use bonjella on Hamish it does nothing. I think Hamish is getting his 2 year old teeth, he has massive swollen lumpy gums at the side of his mouth and hie poos are lethal atm. I might be wrong but the lumps and bumps are exactly where the molars are. Will see i guess.

Well not much here to report, have a busy month coming up so trying to get things organised, i have Maddi's 13th birthday in 2 weeks, a party at home, boys and girls so i will be keeping a very close eye on them..lol Also have Dp's birthday a few days before this, so the organising for Hamish's party will be put back a bit, i am actully having his party on the 23rd as on the 29th we will be away for my mums 60th. ohh what a month may will be. Rudd i so needed your money.. grrrr
I best be off to the shower before Hamish wakes, still having two sleep here but afternoon one is only around an 1hr now, but he is in bed earlier, sleeps from 7pm to 7am now so i should not complain. I know i am lucky to have such a good sleeper.
Hi to everyone else i my have missed.

[sassy123]

mis: i am glad he wasnt kicked out lol.

well i went to the doc today and she gave me the duromine im only aloud on it for a month or i can take 1 every 2nd day for 2 months but i have to get off the zoloft first

[Je$$_84]

NaNa- OMG i read ur post and thought it was something i had writted about my DS...

Yesterday morning we had our first incident of headbutting the floor with intent (not just falling down!) and I tell you, it's horrible! For a week or two now DS has been smacking himself in the head with his hand whenever he was frustrated or I said "No!", but there's very little I can do to prevent that

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Just wondering- have you tried formula at all... - now i used to hate this when i was BF but a friend of mine's boy was also like that screamed all night wouldnt sleep etc... put him on this formula that is supposed to help with sleeping and within 3 nights he was sleeping through... ( i can find out the name of it if u like. (Oh i understand if ur not interested... hope i havent offended u by mentioning it... i know i used to but please dont take it asan Anti BF bashing cos u know me and i'm all for it... Just thinking of u... HUGS)

Tracy- i used some SM33 the other week for my teeth pain and found it stings a little 1st before numbing... i dont get that with binjella... But have u read the news about bonjella???

I agree with everyone about feeling comfy with someone ur leaving ur precious with... i would have done the same hun...

Abb i remember reading bout ur DD's birthday last yr... I still spins me out that our bubs are almost 1 and that i have been chatting with you all for that long...

I love that a few of our bubbas have the same B'day... our party will be on the 23rd also... only cos its the weekend before and i hate to have it after... lol just a little one... i brought a tiara that says birthday princess... LOL

Sass- GL.... hope all goes well with them... i start mine monday with HJ

Things are ok now were back to the old formula...

[Je$$_84]

Tracy- I so dont feel like a supermum... i feel like a numb zoned out broken failure...and with the bonjella- must be the mouth ulcer one... sorry if i worried u...

Hopefully tresillian can help u... i have heard both good and bad things from them...

Well DD has now shated throwing tanties also... crying at DS is he has something she wants... not good...

[Madham]

Well i think all you girls are fabulous mums.
Jess i so can't believe what you have to put up with, i think your Dp should thank his lucky stars he has such a fantastic partner to look after his children and maybe a good slappin to wake him up a bit and give you a hand every once a while. Sheesh
Anyways i hope Tiahna does not pick up on any of the bad behaviour from your ds. I am sure she is just sticking up for herself.
NaNa wow times are still tough for you, i think Hamish is a hand full sometimes but atleast i am getting sleep to cope with it. Any progress?
Mis T - i hope you can sort out your issues also, you are doing such a terrific job on your own and with all your ex's crap aswell, you should be proud of yourself. It is difficult being a mum and doing it by yourself even more so, i had so many ups and downs when maddi was young, but i had great support from my mum.
Sass good luck with the duromine, hope it works out for you.

I am feeling a bit lost tonight, James is away and Maddi is at friends so just me and Hamish and he is ready for bed. I am going to curl up in bed and put a girly movie on i think, will be nice to hog the bed for once and no snoring, oh heaven.. hehe

[NaNa]

Sorry, I've been slack and not posted here for a while. I'm kind of just plodding thru each day, and popping into the MCN thread now and then because I don't have to think too hard about it, and I don't have to focus on sleep/no sleep/what the hell do we do next type of thing...
We managed to get an appointment at the childrens hospital sleep disorder clinic, and although they were understanding and told me I was doing everything right, they couldn't help with any resettling strategies or shed some light on why DS is waking every half hour some nights. "It's normal, sort of." he said. PFFFFFTTT!!! The Dr was all concerned about me and how I seem so flat and down, and it makes me mad having to try to explain over and over that I'm not depressed (YET!) just exceptionally negative, frustrated and exhausted because nobody understands or has any answers, and my child gets tired and frustrated all the time too because he doesn't know how to stay asleep and resettling is simply impossible. We had blood tests done to check DS's iron levels, although both the doc and I know this is probably not going to be relevant. But DS was so good getting the big needle in his arm again (no emla this time or anything!) and was even squeezing his fist to make the blood flow. Freaky! So, anyway, I've been told by the "experts" that I should keep doing what I'm doing, and maybe try and introduce a teddy or comfort object again and create another sleep association that doesn't involve BF or sucking. I had let the blankie slip for a bit because I was sick of being belted with it! *sigh* So back to being bashed with a blankie at bedtime. Nice.
*CAUTION* vent coming up!
Everyone HAS to say, "oh, have you tried sleep school?" or "A friend of mine did such and such with their kid and it worked great." "why don't you do controlled crying??" All this from people who don't even have kids... and if they do have kids they're placid, calm, ordinary children who just don't have the temperament or, dare I say it, intelligence to compare to DS and his boundless energy and enthusiasm for mischief and inquisitiveness. I just don't have the patience or energy to explain that he's just not like those other kids, and even the doctors and specialists at the sleep disorder clinic said controlled crying is NOT going to work for us ever. And it doesn't have to because DS is happy to GO to sleep!
DP is copping this from all his colleagues at work, and he's just so fatigued and over it all. He's so grumpy lately, and I can hardly blame him, but now is the time that we are somehow required to find an untapped spring of energy sufficient to carry on thru the next however many months/years of relentless tantrums and screaming every night. And at the same time, he's applying for work in Paris because Melbourne just isn't working for him anymore... He hates his job, it's cold, our house sucks (as have the last two places before this one) and he wants us to go somewhere where we can be happy and have family around us who are helpful, and that's not going to happen here, no matter how much I like Melbourne. It's a scary thought, moving overseas with a kid... my brain just doesn't work at the moment to even contemplate it!

Jess - I appreciate your advice. I'm not offended by your ideas about trying formula, and it's been suggested by another good friend of mine too. However... I would like to continue BF for as long as I'm able and DS wants it, and when I discussed it with the the doc he didn't seem to think the formula option would be worthwhile. DS is eating plenty of solids, and I'm still going ok with the milk supply, though I don't like to discuss it here since I know how much you and others here would like to still be able to/continue with BF. Anything you can suggest is welcome, since you have a wild child of your own and understand what it's like first hand.

OK, I have to go. BBL to finish this. Sorry to come across so blaaaaaaahh but that's how it is! I'll try and cheer up this afternoon, but I'm going to my friend's 30th (shiat, mine's next week) and there's going to be all the kids from playgroup who SLEEP so well... phooey.

[Je$$_84]

NaNa- I fully understand the not wanting to use formula which is why i chringed at even the though if mentioning it... I wasnt meaning to stop BF just maube to try one feed or something.. (more so the new formula there is for helping bubs sleep) If u ever wanna chat let me know... I dont mind calling STD if u wanna chat for few minutes to destress... HUGS... Its so hard when no one is able to help us and ur bubs isnt it... GRRRRRRR Ur doing a fab job though... also take my hat of to ur DP... Better man then mine... lol.

I'm starting the sue dengate failsafe diet for DS and DD (dont want a 2nd wild child)

WOW about thinking of moving overseas... gosh what would be the postage on fluff to paris??/ PMSL

Abb- Thanks hun... I guess its all i know really... DP was my 1st serious relationship and i had a point to prove and now i'm paying... i blame myself for letting him get away with it and now i'm standing up he's not likeing it...

Well DD is WALKING!!! well not all the time but she is always letting go and taking off... she can go the lenghth of the loungeroom now and she thinks she is ants pants... lol