phew ! ... glad to hear i am not the only one having trouble at dinner time. I am doing the same thing with some food on the tray which he picks at ... & i try to give him some from the spoon as well - which gets pushed away most times - He feeds himself at lunch time fine (sandwhich) .... am going to try not to get too stressed over it, just put it there for him & see how we go. DH ended up giving his dinner yesterday - that worked LOL, told him he will have to feed him from now on.