You're right there have been a lot today! My MP came all at once, but i did have the runs big time in the days before I had Darcy.
Cam's just got offered a job in the bush (not where he applied). I did my Nursing training there years ago and I love the town (Griffith), but now all of a sudden I want to be near my mum - but to get away from the ILs I have to leave her too, and i'll be 6hours away from any private hospital and my specialists if I have another baby....what to do what to do....
Sara ~ i lost parts of my MP first bit was middle of the night second bit the following day and that was a week before i had ryan and i had never had it with any of the other kids
Kim ~ oh how exciting best of luck with what ever you and cam decide
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: Double Post
Kim- that's such a hard one! we moved away from mum when we went to Darwin and I really didn't cope without her once I had Erin. We came back after 14 months which I'm glad we did because in the end i only got another 2 years with her. Sorry that turned into a bit of a downer LOL At least Griffith you can drive to easily, basically good luck deciding!
Kim - your decision totally, but I just feel so isolated where we live, no family support, no friends and I am really feeling it after a comment from a so-called online friend that I had made (on another site forum - been there for years) when she made a comment after I made a comment about being ignored on the threads and I asked why? Geez am I making sense, my head is all over the place. People can be so cruel and the comment is actually make me reasses myself. I feel so down. I thought coming on and posting was my outlet and my support base, now I am starting to wonder if I complain and whinge too much and I turn people off me!
Her post to me was:
Sheree, i hope this doesn't offend but sometimes I don't reply because you posts are often about things going wrong or something bad happened or whatever (obviously not your fault) but I guess I'm just being selfish to say that it brings me down too. I'm only saying this because you were asking why ppl don't reply. I lub you though.
And my post back saying goodbye and good riddens was:
I know I asked to know and I appreciate it but I just wanted to say that I am sorry if I complain too much. I'd like to see you all the situation I have been in at times and how you would have coped, I guess you are all lucky! I feel so much lack of support from such comments and just maybe I never really had it like I thought. I respect and love so many of you girls, that is why it really hurts me. And I wasn't saying I wanted to get married, I have only ever said I would like a ring, the marriage thing is not important to me and would rather walk down the isle with my children at a later date. The different names for us is confusing to people at times, so that is why I am changing my name at the names registry office! I didn't think I always posted things that would bring people down, I tried to talk to and encourage others and I thought I did have some happy moments to share. So sorry if this was not the case. I will be saying goodbye for now and going to reaccess myself as I do not at all now feel good about myself. Nice knowing you all!
The truth hurts I guess at the end of the day, and I am sorry if anyone has felt the same about this on here too! Being sick and tired does not help with my negativity towards this. I am so down and out and can't stop crying.
Kim - didn't mean to put a damper on your situation at the end of the day u know what is best for you and your family xoxo
Sheree...
Hugs to you. You have every right to tell us your problems - as we all tell our problems - and it's not too much, or a problem for us. We are glad that we can be your shoulder.
And I am grateful to all of you guys that I can vent whenever I'm p***ed off with my DH, my real estate agent, my staff - and everyone else that p***es me off.
I enjoy hearing all the stories from you girls - warts and all. The joyous moments are great, but the ugly moments realise that we all have problems with our kids.
Sheree... you have gone through hell and back in the last year. I think you've copped more grief then any of us. Between Lachlans medical problems, and moving home and work. You must be such a strong woman!
Don't ever be nervous about telling us your problems. That's what friends are for.
Okay - my latest problem
I got an email from my mother a hour or so ago.
I haven't seen her for about 8 years. Yariv has never met her. The closest he came was when she left some of my belongings out the front of her house and told me to pick them up. Yariv & I had just started seeing each other, and he came out with me to get them. I told her about my 1st pregnancy about 1 month before I gave birth. As yet, she doesn't know about the 2nd pregnancy; although I was going to tell her at some point. She lives in NSW (don't know where). She is coming down to Melbourne for 3 days (for a wedding) and wants to meet me, Yariv & Shaun. I once told her that if she came to melbourne we could meet somewhere neutral (like a shopping centre or cafe). So I guess I am going to meet up with her (end of September). Yariv wasn't too impressed... he said we should just leave a box out front with a note on it He'll come - if only to support me. It's weird, but normally this sort of event would have me in turmoil - but right now, I've got more important things to worry about.
Good news:
I went to my ob today. Although just prior to my appointment he had to go to the hospital (next door) and perform an emergency ceasar. So I had to wait 1.5 hours. But it wasn't so bad. And he said that the u/s result were all good, and baby is feeling fine. My next appointment is in 6 weeks - then I will see him a bit more regularly after that.
Kim - when do you have to make a decision about the job? Have you decided?
Sara - Shaun is like spiderman! He crawls into and onto everything. Last night he discovered the print on our wall... so he gets on the couch, puts one leg on the arm and one leg on the TOP of the couch, so that he can reach over and swing the print. At occassional care today, when I picked him up, they said he climbs on everything too. If they turn for two seconds - he's standing ON the table! I wonder how many bones he will break in his future years???
Hey Girls......OMG i haven't been on in ages!!
Things have been more than crazy around here. As you know we have had the house on the market so I have been busy keeping it clean for the open houses and the during the week inspections......I know where you are coming from Jodie, trying to do that while working FT, having a 1yo, a 30yo, 2 dogs & a cat is not easy! There is light at the end of the tunnel......I will now be offically homeless in 29 days!! I missed out on the house that I wanted but I am having a look at a couple more today, 1 is on an acre block and the house is only 8mths old so I can't wait to see it.
Chris and Jayden have been sick with a cold, I've been getting the razor blade throat and the coughing mainly but I'm not too bad. Jayden has been waking every night (multiple times) coughing and crying for the past 2 weeks, I haven't been coping with that as I (of course) am the only one capable of getting up to him even though I have work the next day too. Yesterday I had enough and took him to the Dr's and its turned into an infection so poor Jayden but YAY for me I can't send him to daycare so I'm staying home with him for the next 2 days....I feel awful saying that but I am in desperate need of a break! No more teeth yet but the runny nose and nappy rash made me think more were on the way but the Dr said it was just part of the infection oh and he might be getting conjunctivitis(SP?) too.
Jayden is showing his independance so much more these days, he is starting to not want to hold my hand when we are out although he will if I make him. He thinks he can just step down steps without holding on, which he can if its just 1 step but he tries it on 3 or 4 steps. He is obsessed with horses and dogs. There was a toy horse at the chemist (behind the counter at the back of the shop) and he is going "click click click" I was looking everywhere for the horse then finally saw it myself. When i take him to FDC I have to run past the back gate just in case my nieces pony is there otherwise Jayden cries until we have gone to say hello to her. His latest thing is kissing everything! You tell him to kiss anything and he will esp if its a mirror! He now takes his night bottle kisses Chris, the dogs, the cat, any other visitor here then me good night and takes himself to his cot and waits for me to put him in...its so cute!!!
Well enough about me......Not sure if I can keep up with a thread and a half of personals, I have read through most of it though
Sara: Hope this little bub of yours comes very soon, I have been thinking of you! My guess is 31st July and a girl. I love the new belly pic!
Christine & Nat: Thanks for noticing I was missing.
Sheree: What an awful thing for her to say! We are here to listen and support each other....even if it doesn't seem like that sometimes.
Well better see my sick little boy and give him some medicine
Hey Tania... I thought you were talking about me when you said: 30yo, 1yo, 2 dogs & a cat. I have the same!!! Although Yariv is 32yo And I sort of have a full time job. Although I don't actually go to work. Thank god I've got staff - although they are running it into the ground
Great to hear from you Tania!! you have been busy! Jayden sounds adorable. He sounds like a little man... much older then he is. Shaun doesn't do half the stuff Jayden does - and they're only a day apart.
Feeling like total crap thismorning. I first woke up at 3am with strong period like pains. I could'nt sleep so i decided to get up and see if they were just period pains or contractions. They stopped. So i went back to bed and woke up to Briley screaming at 6.45am. I felt like sh*t. She did'nt look her best either. I thought maybe we had caught a bug somewhere as i tried to take some panadol with a glass of cordial and brang it straight back up.
The pains have continued all morning and are becoming much more regular with tightenings now. I am keeping an eye on them to see if they stay regular or are just BH. I think the pains are what is upsetting my stomach.
Briley seems to be ok now. I am just trying to put her down for a sleep. She still look quite glassy eyed though. I really hope we're not getting sick. Thats all i need.
Well i have a clinic appointment at 1.15 today so hopefull i might be back with some good news.
Just quickly popping through for a visit before mum comes around for dinner!
Sara – You still there sweety!?!?! You’re doing mighty well. Not long to go now! GL with Briley’s first day of CC!
Kim ~ LOVE LOVE LOVE the new photo!!! That is a great offer but such a big move and decision. I wouldn’t cope personally without any support but its different for me cause I’m on my own.
Sheree ~ Em needs more shoes lol!!! I can’t wait to start getting him some summer ones! He was wearing his new ones today and they are just sooooo cute. I think he is definitely a size 5 now which means time for more shoes And we love you sweety!!! You post about what ever is going on in your life – good or bad, just like the rest of us do!
Jodie ~ WOW about your mum. That is pretty big hey? Glad you’re not getting worked up over it though!
Tania ~ So glad to see you honey! Was about to email you as well! That is a gorgeous pic of Jayden there. Sounds like you have been flat out as well! That is so cute that he says goodnight and toddles off to bed! Em still fights bed time like its evil lol.
Went out for coffee with friends this morning and then out for a walk this afternoon. I have decided that Wednesdays I won’t do any studying unless Em is having a nap. I would rather spend the day playing with him I think. Mum is coming over and bringing dinner with her – her special chicken mmmm. And I am starving too! I can’t wait.
sara - my mucus plug came out all at once about 5 hours before labour started, i don't remember getting the runs though. Goodluck with CC tomorrow!
kim - its a big decision moving away from your mum when your having babies, i was 5 hours away from mum for my pregnancy til Arch was 7 months old and it made it a lot harder, now i am down the road from mum but am 5 hours away from the best hospital in the state where i gave birth to archie, i am very nervous about having next bub at the country hospital, heard horror stories of not being able to get epidural til several hours after requested!!!!!!!! well done cam though, and i lve the new sig pic!
sheree - WTF!! To be perfectly honest i have just sat here and reall tried hard to remember a time that i felt like you wre a whinger and bringing me down, but i really have never felt that way about you! i think you are wonderful and have given me a lot of support, you and the other girls in here are a wonderful support for me cause i don't know anyone in this town who is at the same stage of life as me, so being able to talk to yo is a lifesaver for me, you are nothing but positive in my books!
jodie - the situation with your mum sounds VERY similar to the situation with DH's dad. We haven't seen him since our wedding and we live in the same small town, he has never met Archie and doesn't intend on it for some wierd reason only known to him and his new wife. It is really a difficult situation in that you want to not let her bring her negativity into your life again, but you also don't want to deprive your son of a grandparent, very tough...(that is how we feel anyway..) Goodluck, its great that Yariv is supporting your decision even though he doesn't neccessarily agree with it, i hope something positive comes out of the meeting.
tania - great to hear from you again, poor Jayden (and you!) hope you both get healthy soon. Arch does kisses on command too, very cute isn't it?! jayden looks so grown up in the new pic. Congrats on the house!
nat - good on you for just chilling out and enjoying some special time with Em, hope your chicken was good!
Archie is over the horrible cough now, still has a little cough bt nothing much. He is such a little parrot now! he copies whole sentences, today he said "theres your shoes!" and "the simpsons is on", very cute, no-one else would be able to tell thats what hes saying but its clear enough for me to be able to understand. He has just started to be full-on, he sprints everywhere and gets into absolutely everything i have been yelling at him at times cuase sometimes it drives me insane to be repeating myself and cleaning the exact same things over and over again, i feel so horrible yelling too! God give me strength to survive this child!
Well i went to my clinic appointment today at 1.30 and did'nt leave until 4.30. I told them i had been having contractions since 3am and they wanted to put me on the CTG for a while. Once on there we found that babies heart rate was really fast. Over 160 BPM. So i was left on the CTG for 2 hours. Baby was very active and would'nt sleep and this is why the HR was so high. They ended up saying everthing was fine and to go home and rest.
Other than that not much to report. Still getting irregular painful tightenings. I am soooo tired from my body working so much. I just want the baby out now. Terrible thing to say i know but thats how it is.
Briley is ok now. Still quite glassy eyed and red around the eyes. I will wait to see how she wakes up before i make a decision about her going to DC. I don't really want to send her if she is'nt well.
Well i am off to have an early night. I am sooo tired.
Did you feel like this towards the end with an IU Shazz??? Speaking of Shazz, i have'nt seen her around the last couple of days. Anyone heard from her???
Gosh Vic - it must be terrible having a full household sick, geez must be so hard.
Sara - you must be exhausted honey, no wonder you want this baby out!
Omg Elissa - you are so so kind. I have been feeling really down about all this as there was more said today too and you have really made me feel sooo much better. Gosh Archie can speak well! I still think Lachlan understands better then he talks, guess I shouldn't worry it is only early days. He doesn't really try to talk, but he has definite sounds that I recognise that other wouldn't!
Nat - hope your dinner was nice and I agree take a day off study feel and spend with your little man.
Tania - gosh you have been one busy girl. And did you sell your house? Did you get what you wanted for it? Another sick household hey! Hope you all get better soon.
sara - your poor tired body, i can totally understand you wanting that baby out now, i said those exact words to my doctor on my due date, and forced him to book an induction day, ended up going into labour minutes before the gels.
sheree - im not kind just honest. yeah Arch is doing okay in the speaking department, before you know it lachlan will just burst out with heaps of clear words, i think a lot of kids just hide their words inside and collect them for a little while, then surprise mum and dad by all of the sudden coming out with complete sentences, each at their own pace hey! I've had a few mums lately say how great a walker and talker he is compared to thier bub but i always say to them that Arch will probably be in nappies til he's 4 while theirs is toilet trained by 18 months....they all do things in their own time..I'm really glad you are feeling maore positive about yourself now, you deserve to.
Don't cry Sheree. It makes it doubly hard with this sort of communication because even though you read it with one intonation, someone else reads it differently becasue the words aren't spoken, and conversation is only 9% of communication. You have had a crappy year. BUT some fantastic things have come out of it for you. Make sure you choose to welcome what's best for you. If that (or any other) chat board brings you down, then choose not to go there. Everyone has a right to be validated and accepted as they are.
Sara, princess. Your poor body. I really really really hope you get to meet this little person soon.
Vic, oh my! Hope there are some swift reocveries for you there.
Nat. I think that's a great plan.
Jodie, wow that's a huge step isn't it? Do you want to meet up with your mum?
Tania, so glad to see you hadn't forgotten us Wow so you've sold your house already? Cool! Doesn't Jayden look gorwn up in that picture?! Hope he's better soon too.
We have just had the hugest fight about this move....all becasue I just wanted some of my concerns validated - and he wonders why it got so bottled up I imploded last time....
Thanks again Elissa I really appreciate your sincerity. And yeah I am not worried about lachlan, he has surprised me heaps when I didn't think he was going to do something he did, so yes he will do it in his own time.
Now kim, I specifically came on here to thank you. And thank you whole heartedly, cause what you have said is absolutely right and I feel that you have saved the day. Right when I needed ya, you came through for me and I appreciate it so much. You are right, I shouldn't doubt myself, and I shouldn't change who I am, people should just accept me for who I am. Gee I have been so down on this and all of a sudden everything just seems so much clearer. Thank you! xoxo
As for the move, it is a big decision and yes you deserve to have the answers set right in your mind. GL with it.
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He'll come - if only to support me. It's weird, but normally this sort of event would have me in turmoil - but right now, I've got more important things to worry about.
And I sort of have a full time job. Although I don't actually go to work. Thank god I've got staff - although they are running it into the ground
It makes it doubly hard with this sort of communication because even though you read it with one intonation, someone else reads it differently becasue the words aren't spoken, and conversation is only 9% of communication. You have had a crappy year. BUT some fantastic things have come out of it for you. Make sure you choose to welcome what's best for you. If that (or any other) chat board brings you down, then choose not to go there. Everyone has a right to be validated and accepted as they are.
Wow so you've sold your house already? Cool! Doesn't Jayden look gorwn up in that picture?! Hope he's better soon too.
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