Babies Born May 2006 #47

**shereejoy** · February 22nd, 2008, 09:49 PM

Be kind to yourself Shazz. I was the same as you put in soooo many hours and didn't feel like I was getting anywhere......

**pinkfrog** · February 23rd, 2008, 04:55 AM

sheree - with the carseat you can hire one when you hire the car. We did that when we went to melbourne. Otherwise take it with you on the plane. I don't know who you are flying with but some don't include any kids stuff as the baggage allowance. Depends how much stuff you are already taking and if there will be someone to help you get on and off the plane at each end. I completely understand about the whole family dramas. I have sisters and its always all about them, don't think they will ever change.

**Tannis** · February 23rd, 2008, 06:47 AM

Sorry just a quick one, have to get ready,

We are almost about to leave for the Sunny Coast where I will in approx 4hrs time be relaxing by the lagoon at the resort we are staying at tonight....I can't wait as its meant to be 34 degrees today!!

Tummy bug has gone but chesty cough thing is still there and Jayden has started too.

Things between Chris and are are a little better

Have a good weekend, i will be back about Mon or Tues

**shereejoy** · February 23rd, 2008, 08:25 AM

Have a lovely weekend Tania - sounds like it is just what the doctor ordered.

Vic - yeah i thought the car hire co. would hire them, just needed to ask. Also on my trip in Dec I had pram/portacot/carseat and luggage and they made me pay $70 excess luggage, that is why I am not keen to do that again, esp by myself again!!! That was with Jetstar. Basically I will need one in Bundaberg, which when Wade and I drive there on the weekend for the wedding, we can take that in the car, but then I will stay in Bundy for a while after (once wade goes home) so might have to hire one then. Then when I am in Warrick, Wade's sister will have an extra one, so that will be fine, and then I will hire a car from their to Brisbane. So I think I only really need one in Bundy, unless we leave it in Bundy and Wade doesn't take it home with him. Thanks for your suggestions.

**shereejoy** · February 23rd, 2008, 08:32 AM

It is 40 degrees here Tania - stinkin bloomy hot!!!!

**~Leanne~** · February 23rd, 2008, 09:35 AM

Have a great weekend everyone.

Thinking of you all. Been reading all the posts, just busy and feeling a bit low at the moment.

Mwah.

**shereejoy** · February 23rd, 2008, 09:46 AM

Big hugs Leanne.

Latest breakout news: Just asked Mel if I could stay with her whilst in Brissy seeing as Nik will have a full house with Mum and Dad on their lounge room floor, but nope her partner has 3 mates staying with them........... WTF!!!!!!!! I am so over this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

**widdly** · February 23rd, 2008, 11:30 AM

sheree - the fact that your sisters didn't even think to save room for you says a lot, bugger, where will you stay now??

shazz - oh my goodness, im starting to regret enrolling in study now you said that! Keep working at it, you are a smart woman, you'll get through it eventually

tania - have an incredible time on the gold coast, maybe a trip away like this is just what you and Chris need together.

eeeew i just ate fish and chips and now i feel like cr@p!

**shereejoy** · February 23rd, 2008, 01:09 PM

Sheree *stamps her feet in a huff and a puff* and says - I am NOT going!

I am just furious. Family's....................

smiles4u · February 23rd, 2008, 01:59 PM

Hi ya lovely Mummy's,

... I'm so hoping u mite remembr me ... ah, yes it's Lorelle here

A million apoplogies

4 not posting with u all sooner as I av bn on the site jst not here wt u gals & 2 also c & ask how u all r goin.

Well, I will try my best 2 tell u all wat has happened since my last post. I apologise as I know it will be a long 1... To put it simply the last time I posted to u all I ws goin 2 my IVF specialist appt (pls note not 2 go on IVF as our daughter may av taken us nearly 3yrs 2 eventually fall preg naturally wt her at 39 & had her at 40, I turnd 42 last mth). We went as 2 c wat 2 do bout a growth in my uterus & the GP thought beta idea to c Gyno that does IVF if we need it as we av startd tryin 4 a 2nd bub.

Anyway, bottom line ... Our referal letter mentioned we r not interested in pursin IVF & our GP said that THIS GYNO wld not encourage like the other GYNO there at that clinic wld & this refered Gyno wld mor than likely try another avenue so 2 speak in helpin wt gettin preg.

... Well, to put it nicely this Gyno in his words said - "U av a slim chance of falling preg, even on IVF".

OMG, we were gobbed smacked. DP & I jst weren't expectin THAT reaction nor outcome

DP & I are not idiots as we truely understand that YES, I AM OLDER ... I didn't need it repeated by a Gyno & a man of all sexes that I AM 42, & also 2 add salt to the wound told me moments b4 that he is the exact same age as me (& added he has children, that I did not need 2 know at THAT appt).

Anyway, he told my growth is of no concern. I had an internal ultrasound, yep he told me everything is super there. And yes, I'm ovulating as usual. Also that I'm fit & healthy.

The negativity boiled down 2 my bein 42. I wld like 2 add that I only gave birth 2 my daughter nearly 22mths ago & NOT 22yrs ago.

... So, here is DP & I walkin out of the IVF clinic wt ALL this paper wrk 2 start the ball rolling wt IVF.

We went home in shock & couldn't understand how that cld happen.

And most importantly why wld we proceed wt IVF wen we clearly stated we did no want 2 go that avenue as we av fallen preg b4 obviously wt our healthy daughter.

Poor DP cldn't go 2 wrk until 2hrs later as he ws shocked himself & didn't want 2 leave me on my own at home

. We both SUDDENLY became so stressed !!

Anyway, we thought why r we considerin this wen we av fallen preg b4 wt the help of a herbalist in QLD (Ruth Sharkeys Healin Centre), they made amazin changes 2 my cycle & I fall preg 8mths later.

We thought if the Gyno said I av a slim chance wt fallin preg wt IVF why don't we jst DO wat we did that did wrk 4 us last time.

I'm happy 2 say my herbal formula arrived yesterday & yes, it cld take me 8mths again if I'm truely lucky enof 2 fall preg & given I am that bit older.

PLEASE ladies this is no disrespect 2 any1 who is on or gone thru IVF ... PLEASE note - I don't av any medical concerns, etc ... It's jst boilin down 2 my age ... I hope that u truely understand that. DP & I wld certainly av no concern in doin IVF if it ws obvious that I or he had medical concerns BUT we clearly DON'T. And we av proof in our daughter that WE CAN FALL PREG & AV A SUCCESSFUL PREGNANCY.

I think we were also shocked cause it ws like I ws treated as tho I had one foot in the grave & jst prob shld'nt bother.

My friend who is 31 had her daughter thru the help of IVF & had the same Gyno. Her daughter is almost 2. She also ws shockd 2 hear of our story. And she thought tryin the herbal formula as it's wrkd 4 us b4 is a g8 option.

As u can c I av bn so down in the dumps about this as it jst makes me feel more anxious & not 2 mention I feel like I av aged anothr 10yrs since seein THAT Gyno.

To make matters worse the Mum's group I decided 2 no longer be apart of I found out has 3 Mum's expectin their 2nd bub which I honestly ws so wrapt 2 hear. Then this morn at a market I ran in2 1 of the Mum's tellin me she is also preg. And then she went on 2 say 2 DP & I "We shld get a hurry up in tryin 4 a 2nd bub". She clearly knows my age & that our daughter took some yrs 2 com along. OMG, I felt like cryin rite then & there.

I know it sounds terrible but NOW I'm dreadin 2 c them all about town all pregnant. I'm normally such a positive & smiley person (as my user name u can c) but I jst so don't feel myself.

I truely av no one 2 talk 2 about this that wld understand. And I don't want 2 hear the old sayin "But u av a child already", that jst isn't fair 2 my daughter as she so deserves a sibling like any other child.

I hope I don't sound selfish, and MY APOLOGIES 2 u all 4 such a LONG POST !!

Hopefully 2 those of u who r younger than I

, will appreciate that I feel open enof 2 share my story & if anything turnin 42 it's damn old ... Whether u r tryin 4 a bub or not.

We av this generation of woman in their 40's 2 thank like the Demi Moore's, Brooke Shield's, Halle Berry's, ...oh the list goes on ... That we can enjoy our 40's in a youthful light & still look damn hot if we choose 2

*** Will post another time as I know this post is so long ***

AV A FAB W/END ALL & TAKE G8 CARE AS ALWAYS

**AustraJoey** · February 23rd, 2008, 10:22 PM

Smiles4u-

Join our group ---older mums ttc. There are some BFP on there via natural conception at the ages of 43, 40 etc.
Jo

**mrsmac** · February 24th, 2008, 06:51 AM

I hate no quick reply as I will never remember everyones posts to put in personals!
Sorry I haven't been in much again, I feel like I need to have a decent amt of time to post in here so that I can do personals but then it moves so fast that it would take me 1/2 to reply so I just leave it and then it gets harder!!
Sheree- sometimes I am glad I have no sisters LOL I think they have made your decision for you by not saving you space at their homes, surely they are aware that if you come you have to stay with one of them? I would say sorry, would have loved to come but with no accommodation or babysitting for Lachlan its impossible for me to come.
Leanne

hope things get better.
Shazz- I admire you studying, I am still procrastinating getting my program done (teachers lesson plans for the term) I would be hopeless at uni again, well done you!! It will be worth it in the end.
Elissa- hope you are feeling OK hun, good on you for joining the playgroup and trying to get out of the house, hope your studying goes well too.
Kim- glad Cam is home but grrr at the interruption to your normal routine!! I have to say though that DH and I parent differently sometimes and I just accept it and bite my tongue.
Lorelle- what a sad day, don't give up hope though, doctors usually look at the worst case scenario so that when they are wrong its a happy thing!
Nat- where are you???
Vic- how are all the kids? Mel has now moved a grade ahead of me LOL We have some new and more painful parents at school this year so if you need tips I'm your woman LOL
I think I am out of ideas of replies now LOL No, just remembered- Sheree- Riley is still in his cot, he would be terrible in a bed so he is staying in for a while longer.
Riley is well, his arm healed beautifully and we saved the cast as a memento! He is a huge tanty thrower ATM though and its very draining, he takes after his father who still throws tanties LOL
Love to all I may have missed.

**~shazz~** · February 24th, 2008, 02:34 PM

Hi all

i'm nearly brain dead i can't believe i am so dumb this maths things just plain sucks bbl maybe i don't know anymore i rather be in here then trying to work this out

**widdly** · February 24th, 2008, 02:48 PM

sheree - try not to stress about it, you know that regardless of whether you go they will still make you the bad guy, not worth such a beautiful person such as yourself to worry about it.

lorelle - of course we remember you

Sorry to hear that you have had such a stressful time of it lately, i can't imagine how hard it is to hear that you probably wont get pregnant again, 42 is certainly not ancient, maybe on the older side for ttc, but hopefully you find lots of support from other women a similar age who are currently ttc. Just remind yourself that you are the worlds luckiest person to have your perfect baby girl, and Cendrine will have a wonderful life with or without siblings.

Christine - Great idea keeping the cast, in years to come he wont be able to believe how small his arm once was.

shazz - sending brainy maths vibes your way....

My meds are kicking in and the side effects aren't brilliant, everytime i eat it comes straight out the other end in a hurry, i keep reminding myself of the positives of diahorrea 1. im not constipated, 2. I dont have to eat my Hi-Bran Weetbix every single morning, 3. i will definately lose a few kilos.....hard to stay positive hwne your spending half yor life on the toilet though, sorry TMI, i hope no one reads this whilst eating

Archies talking is great, it is rare that he can't communicate what he wants, makes like so much easier

**~Kim~** · February 24th, 2008, 03:20 PM

ROFL Elissa, I nearly spat my coke at the computer!!! SOrry hun. Does that stay or do you get past that?

Shazz, chill. You can do this. Is there anything I can help you with?

Sheree. OMG what a bunch of drama queens. Obviously not worth you spending your hard earned money to waste your time on that!

Lorelle, man I guess they're just out to make money off you.....good luck.

Tania,

it sounds like you're having a crap time of it. I loved buynig the doona etc too. Darcy has a really funky one that should last a very long while.

Leanne, Vic and Sara!

My ILs have left thank god. Over them. On the upside (and this is TMI) even though Cam is giving me the poos big time, my libido is back for the first time in a loooooonnnng while....lucky he is here I guess.....

BAck later when I'm allowed....