Okay need advice and tell me am I being selfish.

So many people want to 'meet up' either for coffee or lunch this week or before the baby is born. Now this is the last thing I feel like doing. I can barely move in and out of the car, let alone get dolled up for vistors etc... Do people think that once the baby is here I am not going to have a social life? And some of these people have never worried about coffee or lunch etc before so why now? Is there something wrong with me?

And also what are people's thoughts on being bombarded by visitors right after bubs is born? Does this frustrate anyone? Our miss Kaitlyn was born at 8am and from about 9am through to 8pm we had constant visitors..... I remember feeling exhausted and down, and am worried about this happening again. Do you think it is rude to either: (a) not tell people that the baby has arrived or; (b) tell people not to visit? Or is this also being selfish?

I suffered PND last time, and I guess I am trying to 'avoid' some of the things that may have assisted... I am really nervous about PND in general actually.

I was talking to my mother about it and about asking people not to visit until day 2 and although she did not say it I got the feeling she thought I was being rude.

Please tell me these feelings are normal.